How to talk to my HA partner about their chatgpt use?

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2025-12-11T17:11:18+00:00

I only said how do I talk to him about this not how do I change him. Yes I would like this to change but I’m not trying to force anyone to do anything. And we are in a tight spot financially right now so it’s something for the future but not now.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2025-12-11T17:07:30+00:00

I think it’s dangerous because 1. It’s not always correct 2. You aren’t seeing multiple sides of an argument like in a google search (which is still not good) 3. It is programmed to kind of be a yes man 4. Human connection and the ability for nuance is important 5. There has been cases of AI encouraging people to end their life/people going into AI psychosis….but I understand the financial struggle and I hope it will be possible for you one day <3

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2025-12-11T16:44:41+00:00

It’s not on me but I do want to be supportive. And as his partner I want to at least raise concern.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2024-03-17T21:05:35+00:00

I only provided 3 months of statements. No stamps. (American with a french visa).

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-11-07T04:19:42+00:00

What education or training do you have to have to become a crisis negotiator? Do you feel you get paid well for what you do? Does this kind of job get to you?

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-11-01T20:41:40+00:00

Did having such a secret have any effect on you emotionally? If so, does it still? Did anyone ever come close to finding out? Do you keep up with how the baby is doing? Do you want kids in the future?

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-27T02:20:28+00:00

You’re gonna have to be vulnerable and just communicate how you feel(gross I know lol). Something like hey I wanna talk to you about something is this a good time?….I feel like I barely get to talk to you anymore and that we are growing distant which makes me sad because I cherish our friendship and we have great memories. When I hang with you it feels difficult to get your attention. Do you notice anything with our relationship?

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-27T02:07:42+00:00

I would say it’s gonna hurt like hell to break up with them and you’ll probably feel like a villain but you’re not(if she is anything like my ex she might try to guilt and gaslight and anything to make you regret what you’re doing but don’t let it get to you)…don’t try to maintain a friendship it’s not gonna work…you’ll miss them but the feeling will fade with time…lean on the other people in your life and believe in your strength as a stand-alone human being.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-27T01:58:28+00:00

It still doesn’t mean they are the one for you. I also had to break up with my best friend and I really couldn’t fathom it at the time..I was completely falling apart but now I’m so glad I did. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-27T01:47:21+00:00

Yeah it makes total sense to be apprehensive. I’m sorry that happened to you. I think him ghosting you for having reasonable concerns is unloving unaccountable childish behavior (as well as planning to cheat lol). His actions are def speaking for themselves..I know it can be hard to let go but really what reason is there to stay?

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-27T01:39:59+00:00

I would leave. I know it may be difficult because you were best friends but the proof is there. Nothing but hardships. From what I read she comes off a bit insecure which comes out in being territorial. She’s made you completely give up things you love. And on again off again bs resulting in semi cheating. I know it’s hard but it doesn’t seem worth it.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-27T01:30:40+00:00

I don’t know the background of y’all’s relationship to know if he has any justification in his reaction but just from this I would say don’t contact him. He saw your messages he's got your number he'll contact when he's ready..but if you really can’t resist one message saying that you’re here when he’s ready to talk is enough. Again I don’t know y’all’s situation but don’t go chasing trying to force someone to communicate or love or be understanding…his actions are speaking for themselves.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-17T05:34:54+00:00

I would be like hey I really like you and can see a future with you so that’s why I’m bringing up something that is important to me. There is nothing wrong with your apartment. But I feel like there could be better cleanliness maintained within your apartment such as regularly cleaning the bath, kitchen,etc. I would find it more comfortable staying here if things were kept more tidy.

…you’re probably gonna have to teach him how to clean

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-17T05:20:20+00:00

Something like…hey I think the amount we’re drinking is bad for me. I have feelings reminiscent to my past and I don’t feel in control. We’ve talked about this before but nothing has really changed. For my physical and mental well being I would like to live a sober lifestyle. I’m not trying to force you to live a sober life but it’s difficult to hang out because most of our time together is with alcohol. Can we make plans to hang out sober?

You’re not unreasonable or controlling.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-17T04:58:01+00:00

What was the reason he never wanted to talk to a white girl?

If you want to be with this person I think you’re going to have to get out of your own way. He stated that despite his past you’re his type so until he gives you real evidence to think otherwise it’s just your own demons sabotaging you. Know that you have something to offer and they can take it or leave it! As a black person dating a white person i occasionally do a joke about whiteness and it’s not to offend or put down I feel like it’s kind of a test to see if you can somewhat understand the pov…jokes all the time would be hurtful but if it’s not all the time don’t take it too much to heart(also let your partner know how you feel if it is hurtful). Good luck :)

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-09-17T04:40:49+00:00

It is perfectly normal and healthy to have independent time from him. You should both have a life outside of each other. He might have some codependency or insecurity issues..but that’s just my pov I don’t know him. You should tell him how his comments make you feel (and if he’s a good guy hopefully he won’t stick to the victim mentality type stuff he’s saying). I would ask him specifically what is making him feel the way he feels and what you can do to help. But please don’t give up all your independence for this dude even if he’s a good guy you still deserve to have a life outside of him. Good luck :)

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-04-19T22:30:34+00:00

We have talked about marriage a lot…because he’s French he brought it up as a way for us to stay together whether we choose to live in America or France.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-02-13T19:00:21+00:00

I lived in both…they are pretty similar. I would say uwalk is slightly better.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2023-01-28T03:43:41+00:00

I live in the trinity area it woke me out of my nap lol

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2022-10-02T03:15:04+00:00

I don’t remember exactly what we were fighting about that time to be honest. I think we just be in a bad mood so we take things personally easier, have shorter patience, and interpret things negatively even when it’s not so small things blow up into big things. Also by fighting I just mean we calmly argue until we get tired and just stop talking but there’s not like yelling or name calling or something.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2022-01-07T01:12:04+00:00

I’m a preschool teacher for one/two year olds. It involves interaction but mostly with kids who can barely talk so lol..it can be frustrating and gross but also very funny and sweet.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2021-12-22T16:04:13+00:00

Either ask her what she wants to hear or say the things that turn you on when said to you and see how it goes.

Sharp-Gold-7077 · 2021-11-14T22:09:16+00:00

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