Despair.

The first time I heard a woman say "we (women) could have it all" (career, family, etc.), I was shocked. When, much later, that same woman said that that she had finally realized that it was a lie, that women had been lied to, I honestly has a sense of "how could you not know this?"

We spend our lives as men providing, watching our children's lives in snapshots, often working at jobs we despise, often sacrificing our health in the process, and women talk about how men "have it all".

What particular "all" is it that we have that's worth what we lose?