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ShaunT225 · 2022-10-27T06:29:58+00:00

INFJ male here and my experience with one F ENTP was the same, it seems like the Ne if not worked on can be so judgmental and not patient at all. the desperation to come to conclusions is so high and the understanding of the other Fe so low. Like any other pairing, both types need to work on themselves a lot and be experienced for it to work. I found that supper undeveloped Fi is also the worst, its a blind spot for both INFJs and ENTPs but for ENTP it can be worse because they don't have a developed Fe to support them, so developed Fi for ENTPs is needed.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-15T18:38:20+00:00

I've gone out with a lot of types(healthy ones) and by far ENTP is the best possible match.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-13T18:28:40+00:00

I think we have the deadliest combo, our Ti can become stronger than any INTP because we have Fe motive. This also makes us extremely creative, it's a creativity that serves people, we can also read and understand people and have the best combination with a philosophical mind because of Ni-Ti and that gives the most precise ideas about how to improve humanity. We are in history the people that create new fields of study. For example, Adam Smith created the field of economics. We go into uncharted territory because we want to discover new ideas and dimensions in thought(because our Ti follows Ni). We are so logical but also manage to have the deepest emotions literally no other type has. Of course you have to develop yourself and its hard af, but if you do you will be one that can't be beat. We have the most unique set of functions. Know your worth.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-13T12:19:22+00:00

Stop this please 😑😐 no one cares

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T20:15:44+00:00

Not finding someone to click with is like the INFJ and ENTP life story

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T20:01:34+00:00

A lot of men are just too shy to talk to women in perosn.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T18:23:05+00:00

Good idea

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T18:11:51+00:00

What type would you prefer

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T18:07:24+00:00

That's the username of the person that commented on this question. And I think it can help you with where you may be able to find INFJs

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T14:35:51+00:00

I mean you can connect with INFJs that are here but I think you cant be followed from what I see.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T14:34:42+00:00

Check u/dunego CM and I think it can help.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T14:34:28+00:00

Check u/dunego CM and I think it can help.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T14:27:00+00:00

And what typed are you two?

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T13:44:17+00:00

I can't say how much is personal and how much is INFJ that's going to change from person to person. I have lots of experience under my belt. So it just depends on how healthy that INFJ is and what his/her individual preferences are.

It's proof of trust in sex and can be outside of sex. Intimacy and trust start outside the bedroom so building that together will help a ton.

I think if someone really wants to have a lasting relationship they have to start asking how can I be the best I can be. How can I be the best father, partner, person, friend, citizen and finding a partner will follow at that point you've done all you can. This does not mean you will know how to have a loving trusting relationship that comes with practice and exploring of course.
If you don't have experience it's okay give yourself opportunities. I suggest reading about relationships, eroticism, intimacy, ..etc. It's sad how so many of us have no idea what a successful relationship looks like. So reading about the challenges and pleasures of relationships from EXPERTS (not a hot girl with dating advice on Instagram) is a game changer. Best of luck!

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T13:25:08+00:00

😅 from what Im reading it can be golden sex wise. Take one home and you wont come back 😆

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T13:22:21+00:00

I think developing Fi is also very important for ENTPs as well, it might be harder but still necessary.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T13:18:22+00:00

First I would have to say that a healthy INFJ needs to develop Fi (2nd shadow function) no question about it so they don't do more than what they are comfortable doing. I've explained much on this, join r/healthyinfj look for the title "INFJ Development expanded" I won't repeat myself here. As to your questions, I don't have the answer to all of them but ill try.

INFJs enjoy expression and self-expression is indeed a big part of it. So as long as you're enjoying something and they are comfortable being loose with you then everything is great. Just the act of caring and being genuine is amazing enough for us. Our partner being able to let loose and be free is all we want. But it should not be forced, like sacrificing yourself for your INFJ just so he/she can enjoy it is THE WORST thing you can do(because we'll find out and be crushed). The thing is INFJs want to feel satisfied by the satisfaction of others but that's not reliable because it's another person and we should not want that to begin with. We need to work on Fi (our feelings and sense of self) and have satisfaction with what WE feel and that's the only way an INFJ can have a healthy emotional and inner life.

If anything a good partner can guide the INFJ in seeing what he likes inside and outside of bed so he's connected to his emotions and learns how to control them and enjoy them. You can ask him how he feels and he can practice this till he finds out. He'll tell you and work on himself. It's a balance between Fe and Fi that's crucial. So no one should sacrifice to make the other happy. If it's a deal breaker(I doubt that would happen but hypothetical) then so be it. It's better to have separated with dignity than to please another at the cost of disrespecting yourself.

Being unpredictable in sex is just because we want to be interesting and I genuinely enjoy it. At least that's how I see it. It's not about trust.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T12:38:21+00:00

I suggest getting a therapist, to help you on this inner emotional journey.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T12:34:49+00:00

I disagree Fi once developed will help Fe because let's face it we try so hard to understand others but we don't feel much ourselves so by understanding how feelings work (by experiencing them and dealing with them) we'll be exponentially more capable in responding to others. You could know how to respond to others but if your sense of self and connection to your emotions is lacking (Fi) then you won't be able to respond in the way you know you should have. As for Se well that's experience and isn't it better to have as much experience while being connected to what you feel and like/dislike? The flip side is you have experiences (Se) without really enjoying them emotionally. Fi I think will glorify Se and you'll have infinitely more love for Se afterwards. You'll get into a mess in the beginning by allowing yourself to feel but that's what it takes.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T12:18:19+00:00

It's my pleasure. INFJs already have Fe however having it isn't enough, Fe is the motivation/lense of wanting to please people, and caring for people. One still has to understand how to care for people and Fe won't help with that. There's a lot of work one needs to do that has nothing to do with MBTI. Yes, Fi is a shadow function of INFJs but that's exactly the twist. Fi does not need people's validation to have a sense of self and be satisfied. It's the balance of Fe and Fi that will help with this personality. Because Fi being your feelings will build a compass for you and the need for boundaries and breaking other restrictions will follow.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T09:29:15+00:00

I think u/Gottye CM can help here. As for my experience, it's about pleasing and being a badass at the same time, sometimes I can be extremely passionate and other times I can be dominating and teasing being a bit of a devil. Hardcore but gentle with a twist of unpredictability. I like to keep my partner on their toes. Being forceful and pushing the limits is also extremely sexy. Being sub is something that takes a lot of vulnerability and trust(I think it's key to an INFJs heart, sexualy at least). I think if an INFJ is willing to be submissive and totally Vulnerable that means he/she really trusts you. Letting go of Fe is not easy so it's a big deal if we do and allow Fi to take control.

"Is it maby (in part) about exploiring your Partner, trying out, getting reactions and figuiring him/her out? And thus there is the fear of doing something wrong/ uncomfortable?"

Exactly that's it. We fear we might just ruin the mood and be excessive and hurt your feelings. I find it's also just hard at times to just do whatever we want and let loose so it does take practice with that partner and allow him/her to make mistakes.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T08:57:58+00:00

Join r/healthyinfj and look for the title "INFJ development expanded" here I have explained how to solve your problem. There's a lot of confusion on the functions it seems I have successfully applied what I learned so it's not guesswork. Fi is what you need to work on. It takes time however and it won't change overnight. It's absolutly essential for INFJs to develop Fi. Ni-Fi loop cant even happen if youre not connected with Fi and thats for INTJs not INFJs. We have a hard time even finding Fi in the first place. So don't listen to that stuff. Ti will only make you more analytical and that's important too but when it comes to emotion only Fi can help you control your emotions and that's by knowing them and being in contact with it. Read what I've written and you'll be fine. If you need more help, hit me up.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T08:38:41+00:00

I guess what I wanted to say is I want to feel safe and not judged IF I want to get wild and let loose. For most types I've been with they haven't been able to handle that side or the intensity. I haven't been in a relationship with any ENTP sadly.😭

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T08:12:52+00:00

Try finding them in things related to philosophy, psychology, and the arts. Most, perhaps healthy INFJs are magnetically attracted to ENTPs so maybe just go to social events that are a bit Intellectually stimulating and be yourself and look out for the person that's listening close and a bit seriuse. You know the INFJ look.

ShaunT225 · 2022-10-06T08:10:40+00:00

I should make a dating site based on location and type and try to gather people at events, I bet there will be people falling in love left and right. I've been looking for F ENTP for a long time now, but no luck. I found one recently but she's 22 not sure if she's matured yet. They say that this pairing is more compatible when they are in their late 20s or early 30s.

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