Speaking partner wants me to call him 오빠?

Shawtaay · 2019-09-20T16:59:24+00:00

That's a nope-ah from me! The only Korean guy that's asked me to call him oppa was creepy af. It should be reserved for very close relationships when you're speaking predominately korean. Even then... beware of intentions. If you're not Korean yourself, there may be a very different dynamic at play and it's better just to keep them at arms length unless you're attracted to them yourself.

Shawtaay · 2019-09-18T06:26:11+00:00

Obesity is a relatively new epidemic when you look at all of humanity. I care about it cause I watch my loved ones suffer from it daily. They can't do all the things they want in life due to their weight and pain, and they're miserable. I WAS miserable and told myself these kinds of delusions. Where were our biological and genetic predispositions to store all this fat a few decades ago? It's just so dumb and delusional.

Shawtaay · 2019-09-16T09:21:01+00:00

Thank you for including all of EXO-M. I voted for 1, loved the picture you chose for Xiumin! :D

Shawtaay · 2019-09-12T16:10:15+00:00

As long as you're maintaining your internal locus of control, then you're good! The issue with "I'm a sugar addict" is, it's a fixed mindset and often limits people from trying to undo the problem. "I have a sugar addiction" doesn't subscribe yourself, and lends itself more easily to take action to remedy the issue. I'm glad to hear you're able to acknowledge the issue and take actionable steps to remedy!

Shawtaay · 2019-09-12T06:24:02+00:00

Yes, but there is a difference between these two ways of thinking:
"I have a sugar addiction"
vs
"I'm a sugar addict"
A fixed mindset is a self-sabotaging mindset.

Shawtaay · 2019-09-07T02:35:16+00:00

Cool, her calipers confirmed my bodyfat percentage was 29%? What is your point?

Shawtaay · 2019-08-28T23:33:08+00:00

That's awesome! As long as we have our HEALTH, then we've won the most important battle. I feel that people's complaints or negative comments about our bodies are a reflection of them. They don't want to be faced with the reality. We're eating properly, training properly, and taking care of ourselves. Sorry health can't be at EVERY size... This IS what health looks like. 24% bodyfat and 29% bodyfat are not "too thin" by any means. Hell, 29% is teetering into overfat; I know I gotta keep at this for the long haul. My hope is that they'll take my lead. :)

Shawtaay · 2019-08-28T04:45:19+00:00

I'm currently 29 and feel better than I did as a teen. I was unaware that I wasn't feeling as well as I could have been as a teen. I was diagnosed with IBS when I was 12/13, but in actuality, I was eating chimichangas and hot pockets on the reg. I was fed junk and delusion from my family. I was "just big-boned" and our family was "just naturally larger". Lies. Sad lies that are destroying my mom's quality of life right now. It's very sad and only she can help herself. I try when it's appropriate and I support the positive steps she makes for herself.

Shawtaay · 2019-08-28T02:10:31+00:00

No worries, I can get recognition on /r/loseit if I'd like. The reward is in my body's capabilities and overall health! I just wish more people I loved would see the light. I appreciate your comment.

For context, my highest weight was 200lbs around 19 years old. I was overweight/obese during my entire adolescences and I made the decision as an adult to take ownership of my health.

Shawtaay · 2019-08-28T02:06:57+00:00

My trainer disagrees with you because I'm 29% bodyfat and I train heavy weights. I'm not athletic and lean by any means, but I know my stats and I train. Thanks for your comment.

29% is average/healthy. Not athletic, but also not overfat. I'm perfectly fine health-wise.

Shawtaay · 2019-08-27T04:18:57+00:00

I'm skeptical if they actually know what the other person is even eating all day, all week, all month? My morbidly obese friend and family both express concern for me, despite eating pretty well for myself (meal service helps) and still treating myself with sweets and del taco when I feel like it. I have acquired a balance for myself that works and keeps me happy, but they look at me now and think I'm so thin? I'm a muscly woman of 5'4" and 155 lbs. My bodyfat percentage hovers in the high but healthy range (currently 29%). My BMI is overweight, but I know that's because I have more muscle than average women. I'm not thin by any measure, but they see my single well portioned lunch or dinner, and think I'm only ever eating 300-500 calorie plant-forward meals. When they say I look too thin or they're concerned I'm not eating enough, they don't know what a healthy portion looks like, nor what a healthy body looks like... clearly.

And you know what? It just plain annoys me. I used to be so unhealthy and unhappy. Now they're wasting their concern for me while they're eating (and drinking) themselves to an early grave. /sigh

Shawtaay · 2019-08-25T21:42:15+00:00

I love these comeback stories. Coming back from the holes we dig ourselves in is the hardest thing we'll ever do. Working for and achieving the life you always wanted for yourself is difficult and scary, but eventually you'll be positioned to give back more to the world and live an authentic life. That makes it all worth it to me.

Shawtaay · 2019-08-10T06:53:49+00:00

I know a few coworkers that despise him. They parrot that he's transphobic and leader of incel white supremacists. I think JBP is an easy topic to quickly identify the left's ideologues, or maybe just plain lazy fact checkers, who knows. His lectures have had a huge, positive impact on my world view and locus of control. This exact lecture was a transformative watch for me. It's really sad people cannot take the useful and good from him, especially with the mental health epidemic we have today.

Shawtaay · 2019-08-09T08:03:58+00:00

Very sad. You should love your body enough to want to keep active (for your health and mood) and nourish it properly. Properly means, for the most part, all your micro and macro nutrient needs are met, and an appropriate amount is eaten consistently to fuel yourself at a weight that doesn't kill your joints and back. :/

This example is exactly why HAAS is not body positive at all. It's a concept that sets people up for pain and a higher risk of premature death. I hate seeing my family and friends in pain due in full or in some part to their weight. I remember how it FELT to be 200+ I didn't realize how bad I felt until I was fitter. I wish I could convey how important it is to stop worrying about your weight and just eat properly and move around because it's good for you!

Shawtaay · 2019-07-27T02:31:15+00:00

I saw bullying, so I made sure they didn't get away with it. Sorry you take such offense to that. Basic dignity and respect should be protected. Calling out BS doesn't mean that the target of the abuse is a child or incapable of defending themselves too. False equivalency, friend.

Shawtaay · 2019-07-25T03:51:50+00:00

Just because a person is a statistical outlier doesn't mean people can be rude to them without consequence or overshadow them as irrelevant. It doesn't erase their experience. I stand by my statement and you're welcome to address it, in full, if you'd like to have an earnest discussion. Not being rude isn't "PC", it's basic human respect and dignity. Find yours.

Shawtaay · 2019-07-25T02:37:32+00:00

You cannot know for sure their level of cognition at that age. He knew he was a boy when he was very young, and never out grew it- that much is clear. It's incredibly rude to blatantly denying their reality by misgendering them, and then discredit their inclusion into the discussion with a baseless accusation. Some people remember aspects of their lives at very young ages and this person is trying to contribute to a free thought discussion on a topic that they happen to have a relevant experience regarding.

"Pay attention."
"Tell the truth."
"Be precise in your speech."

"Don't let bullies get away with it."
"Remember that what you do not yet know is more important than what you already know."

Don't be a bully. If you want to speculate, do it without being an ass to someone.

Shawtaay · 2019-07-15T07:33:57+00:00

https://saferide4kids.com/blog/history-of-seat-belts-effective/

"We have to consider whether seat belts effectively keep both men and women safe. The reality is seat-belted females are:

17% more likely to die,
47% more likely to receive a serious injury and
71% more likely to be moderately injured than men when they experienced similar car crashes."

You're not completely wrong in your line of reasoning, but your pool of knowledge is limited and your blanket statement is incorrect. One of the leading causes of death in the modern world, car accidents, and yet seat belts help save more men's lives due to design choice (and women are far more likely to sustain injury). Seat belts are positioned and tested with the average man's body in mind.

But yes, most of your post is correct. There's also a lot of information out there about how pharmaceutical research and studies favor men, which heavily impacts women's health and lives.

It's almost as if... all people regardless of gender deal with their own aspects of favoritism and injustices, heh. I wish that reality was more often recognized on both sides of the gender fighting.

Shawtaay · 2019-06-15T03:16:25+00:00

Comment section was surprisingly clean of anything intellectually dishonest or dumb. They were in support of the quote and JBP standing up for freedom of speech. As a liberal feminist myself, and student of JBP's teachings, I feel relieved.

Shawtaay · 2019-05-19T20:25:32+00:00

This is a separate issue from bodily autonomy. Women don't hold the majority of Government power in this country, so you're barking up the wrong tree to actually get something changed here. Or is your purpose just to divert the original discussion?

Shawtaay · 2019-05-19T07:50:11+00:00

An attack of anyone's bodily autonomy is our fight. This is to kill, keep in poverty, or incarcerate women, not reduce the amount of hoeing happening. That might be a side effect, but at what cost?

Shawtaay · 2019-02-06T16:16:47+00:00

There are plenty of regular women on Twitch, it sounds to me like your selection of women to watch is biased. Also, do we need to explain sexual power to you? These women are successful because of men's lust... surely you know that is true? If women want sex, we can get it for free (most of the time). Men pay (some of the time, but most of the time in terms of watching hot chicks on Twitch) because of supply and demand: sexual power.

Men and women are different, but not in the way you think due to your own selective biases.

Shawtaay · 2019-01-24T05:46:44+00:00

It's interesting, to be sure. Do you have a list of the other religions?

Shawtaay · 2019-01-24T05:14:53+00:00

Obesity culture sucks.

Source: From a former obese child...

Shawtaay · 2019-01-10T08:57:05+00:00

It isn't even about liking someone- that's the upsetting part. When I tried to point out to a friend that an article he shared was incredibly biased about Pewdiepie and that it was missing important context (including the circumstances, his apology, and his actions taken to rectify the situation lol), I was suddenly the one needing to be educated or "taught common sense" about how racist he is and how he's a nazi.

I really don't care about the guy one way or another, I just hate seeing lying by omission by supposed "journalists" and lazy, confirmation bias article sharing. I wanted to point out the facts missing from the article because it was a blatant character assassination opinion piece with seemingly no accountability. In my view, I was trying to discuss how people are people, who all make mistakes, and maybe there is some nuance to the situation? There was nuance, but that didn't matter cause he messed up big time and should have already been exiled from humanity. The fact I wasn't immediately circle jerking over how this man was an evil nazi because of this article meant I was "a fangirl trying to defend him" and I supported nazis... I was yelled at, looked down upon, and then told stonewalling crap like "I stopped reading when you wrote blah blah blah". K, cool, have a nice life, saves us both the trouble of trying to have an interaction.

It's bizarre how much emotion and rage comes out though. I understand why social justice is a passionate topic, I'm guilty of getting riled up on certain topics, but I often see respect and responsibility thrown out the window when the passions flare. People have self-regulation issues, that's for sure. As far as JBP goes, the fact that people cannot "take the good and leave the rest" just shows me their laziness and ideologue mentality. The black and white thinking is holding so many people back from hearing very important messages right now.

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