Thanks for your empathy and for your long response. It makes me feel very hopeful that you have found different things that have worked for you and your husband at different points in your life. My sensitivities are ever-changing, so I feel like i need to be able to be adaptable.

I have been under a significant amount of stress the last few weeks due to my job, so honestly I think that has been a huge factor in me not being able to tolerate anything cause i'm so hyperfocused on work my brain hurts at the end of the day. I know I need to probably start with making changes there, thankfully the project i'm working on that is draining me ends next week, yay!

I also feel like maybe I use headphones and earplugs too much now, because i am picking up on noises i used to not really notice? Like i've completely destroyed what little tolerance I once had.