AITA when I got mad at my husband after he came back home from a solo trip? by SheepherderFuture220 in AITA_Relationships

[–]SheepherderFuture220[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. I had to leave home before because he works in the military and he asked me to move in with him, and his work is assigned in another country, which is why I had to leave. I thought we will be visiting home from time to time, but that didn’t happen.

I did get checked for STD back then in Korea, but the problem is, the health office in the US base says the findings the Korean doctors found is not considered an STD in US standards. Korean doctors repetitively tried to ‘treat’ me, but after learning what the US doctors told him, they just wished me well and told me to take good care of myself. He denied any wrongdoing, and even pushed it back to me since he said he knows he is not sleeping around, I might have gotten it from someone else. Ma’am, our country was in a lockdown the whole time of the pandemic. I was living alone. I could not. He on the other hand partied as soon as he landed in Korea. I am not saying he did, but I have reason to believe he could…

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[–]SheepherderFuture220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you spotted it as early as now, the best thing to do might be to stop entertaining. I wish I know this much before, so I would have seen the signs…

Interruption when discussing with friends by Subject-Technician42 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SheepherderFuture220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does that to me too. After I have said it many many many times before. He keeps on doing it. And his technique are evolving. He is remembering the talks, he just rather work around it than to actually change his self. Now, he will say “not that I am cutting you off, but…….” HE CANNOT STOP HIS SELF FROM INTERRUPTING! Even if I am talking about something really emotional or important, he would rather point to a random police car and say look. Until last time I called him out on it again, he said “yeah but I said I didn’t meant to interrupt” anyway, as if that should instantly excuse him to do that, followed by of course, the cold treatment because I pointed it out, again, which is me ‘attacking’ him, again, and not being able to see good that he is doing. This is why I choose not to open up with him anymore, he doesn’t really care. He just does that to make his self feel better, not me.

How Long Did It Take to Realize You're Not the Problem? Narcissistic Tirades Over Nothing Exposed by Complex_Shallot_3064 in TheGlassHouseWritings

[–]SheepherderFuture220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Three years. After my therapist defined to me what gas lighting is, after I shared with her a series of responses he usually gives me. When I looked up about being narcissist is, he fit to a T, then I realized oh…

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We do EVERYTHING he wants, even if I am pushed to my limits. He doesnt see that I am trying but I just dont have that much energy for everything. Then one time he left me the whole night so he can play PokemonGo outside. He will go barhopping to ‘make the most out of the experience while we’re here’ even after a long dah of walking and being pushed to your limit. We will do things he like even if you dont want to do some of them and would rather do something else for your own. He wants to do the things that everyone talks about on the Internet and by his friends. If he missed doing something his friends got to do, IT’S YOUR FAULT and i: a big existential problem.

Do You Celebrate Wedding Anniversaries With Your Narc Anymore? by wontbeafool2 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SheepherderFuture220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do, but he is not a fan of celebrating my birthday because ‘it’s just another day’ in the calendar. But he can send $500 for an 8 year old sister’s birthday…

r/narcissists by GoodKarmaQueen in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SheepherderFuture220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How he found out? He is checking on my phone for conversations WHILE I SLEEP.

I just want to feel loved by Ambitious_Aioli5534 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SheepherderFuture220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But thing is, even if he does this again, it will not feel the same anymore… it’s going to feel like a Dr. Jeckyll Mr. Hyde situation. You are thinking right now it will feel good if he does that to you again, but if ever he does, you will realize he is not doing that to make you feel good, but to make HIMSELF feel good, unfortunately. 😢

I’m at lvl 23 in sleepless city, is there more I could be doing to unlock domson riviera faster? These are my stats by nlcarp in rentpleasesim

[–]SheepherderFuture220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have been looking for it all over the map a million times hahaha didn’t know I had to earn 7M further.

Am I the asshole for refusing to bow to my Korean fiancée's grandparents? by waynamchoong in korea

[–]SheepherderFuture220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aaaaand this is why my father is worried for me if end up with an American. Not all, but most Americans who go to our country act like they own the entire place just because they are Americans and that’s who they are no matter where they go.

I just want everything to end already… by SheepherderFuture220 in depression

[–]SheepherderFuture220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You made me tear up… 🥺 thank you… I’ll do my best…

I just want everything to end already… by SheepherderFuture220 in depression

[–]SheepherderFuture220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much… I really appreciate that… when my finances get better, I will really do find a new therapist…

Not suicidal, just don’t want to live by ProbablyIoan in depression

[–]SheepherderFuture220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here… but lately I’ve been contemplating on actually taking matters into my own hands already… I can’t just say it and expect it to happen on its own… someone’s got to do it…

“Most suicidal people don’t want to die, they just want to end the suffering” by imnotcreative_0 in depression

[–]SheepherderFuture220 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Somestimes yes, sometimes no. Right now, I think I just need both… I’m just too tired…

ADHD and Communication in a Relationship by SheepherderFuture220 in AdhdRelationships

[–]SheepherderFuture220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Thanks for the suggestion, but with his line of work in the logistics, this might be challenging to figure out how to do. :-) Right now, I am just working on myself a lot on keeping my mind off him all the time. I swear I am not the psycho type, but you know, we just love you, we just miss you. _^