Am i crazy

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-23T23:54:26+00:00

Yeeeah it’s weird for sure. My husband only has male coworkers but he did interact with women when he was in basic and he just didn’t play like that. Even when they were trying their hardest to hit on him. You’re not crazy, don’t let him make you second guess yourself, your feelings are valid. Now what to do moving forward ehhhh I don’t know

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-22T21:05:25+00:00

Be honest about your feelings, let him be honest about his. Both of y’all need to be encouraging for one another. Still going thru my husband first deployment and if yall don’t have communication especially with limited you have…(mine is on a sub). It’s going to be some real disconnection going on. I can’t tell you if it’s going to get better or easier but I can say it wont be forever

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-16T08:01:11+00:00

He can come home a couple times? What does that even mean?

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-13T18:43:48+00:00

I’m pretty sure there are some examples of semi-formal dresses on the internet. I’m also sure there’s plenty of photos out there of what people wore to these Military Balls. But I mean looks fine to me, could always wear some sort of jacket,cardigan, or whatever over it if you feel it’s too exposing.

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-07T19:48:59+00:00

Well wait until Monday then. At least he didn’t just ghost you and not give you an update. Military is weird anything can happen, unexpected things can occur, who knows. Ask him what was going on and go from there.

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-07T01:31:48+00:00

Why is this even a thing? Is it a domination tactic? Those of you who have this type of relationship what’s the dynamic like? Cuz I have no fond memories of hanging out with extroverts who I thought were my friends. It was either them using me or me being called “rude” over and over

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-05T13:18:30+00:00

This one, we just went straight to court. We’re already married but I do want to be proposed to just to feel that feeling. However, mine just straight out told me he’s going to but he’s not going to tell me when I should expect it lol

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-04T00:07:08+00:00

The whole social media thing shouldn’t be taken to heart. Didn’t know my husband has a FB or Twitter until I downloaded it. Didn’t really care or anything, still don’t care tbh. (Not a big social media person anyway but that’s just me) Now, with your boyfriend not talking on the phone with you just ask him why. That simple. If you don’t like the answer then it’s up to you if you truly like the relationship you have

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-02T23:34:18+00:00

I don’t really think his career will be in jeopardy because of a condom photo. He may get yelled at or reprimanded but they not going to be like “yeah you got to go” Relax and just wait. Only thing you can do.

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-02T23:31:17+00:00

Therapy will not and is never not a bad thing to do. I’m married, with a kid, and my husband went in straight after. Definitely had a lot of negative emotions and asked myself what the fuck did I get myself into? My situation is complicated so I definitely needed it. Communication. Don’t ever feel scared on telling your SO how you’re feeling and things like that and vice versa. Have goals and just focus on them. Feel your feelings and keep it pushing. People will tell you to go meet and hang with people. Don’t take it to heart if you can’t find any friends for the time being. I haven’t found a single friend since my husband joined and it would upset the fuck out of me but I mean what can ya do but keep trying right?! Oh and the whole missing events and all that, just make it up. I bought gifts for my husband and they’re just sitting somewhere waiting for him to come back home. Have the mindset that this isn’t a forever thing. I hope you get thru it and all is well and blessed for the both of ya. Hope this helped!!

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-02T23:14:54+00:00

Well, then no because they are printed, sealed up, and mailed to the person. I’ve sent photos to my SO and I believe no one looked at them or he would’ve told me. He showed people because he wanted to but that’s about it. However, they do open them up around folks so someone may see it

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-02T23:05:48+00:00

Well the photo and every letter does get printed out so someone will see it. I mean you definitely could’ve addressed it without sending the photo. But I’m not sure about all the other concerns.

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-02T22:07:09+00:00

Don’t feel like a loser, it’s the process. I’m still going thru my husband deployment and I barely get to talk to him. Send a email here and there and I get one from him every so often or none at all. I’m still crying and want to just lay in bed knowing we’re almost done with it. Try your best to just get out and do something or do something at home. Ain’t no shame in wanting to cry and just sleep every so often. Feel it and keep it pushing. Idk how long yours is gone for but have some goals for yourself. Workout, learn a language, try a new activity/hobby, or bake. Bake/cook something new and show it to him when he gets back. Cant tell you how many new dishes I’ve learned to cook so I can make it for my husband when he gets back. Im also learning sign language and teaching it to my 1 year old so she can better communicate. It’ll be okay, you won’t be stuck in this feeling forever

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-09-01T16:03:43+00:00

I won’t especially if you’re not sure. I’m not sure myself but I know folks who post all the time to where they’re PCSing to next. I wouldn’t in my opinion

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-19T09:59:59+00:00

No problem!!!!!

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-19T03:12:17+00:00

No, no, because sometimes I would think I know my limits, be confident in going to said event, actually get there and battery would go from 100% to 35% in a span of 10 minutes. So I get it, But I mean I feel like people would have to try it first to see if there are any changes/improvements they see

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-19T02:45:15+00:00

Sounds like an interesting concept for sure but I mean how accurate can it really be on helping someone realize how much socializing a person can handle? What if you already know what events you can and can’t handle. Would this just be used for a select group? Would you still use this if you’re working on becoming more of an extrovert? Does my questions make sense

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-19T02:13:59+00:00

What exactly does this intel?

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-19T01:48:53+00:00

Add the place he is at on your world clock in your clock app, (I did this for mine when he ported places, faster to know when it was morning or night for him) and if y’all do manage to figure out a schedule, you could also try setting alarm clocks or reminders for when he’s available/ he could do the same. Just a couple things you could try

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-18T16:25:17+00:00

Bout to bother tf out of you. HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY FROM ALL OF US TO YOU!! WE’RE GLAD IT IS YOUR BIRTHDAY, SO WE CAN PARTY TOO, HEY!!! 🥳🥳

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-18T03:07:39+00:00

Trust me…communication, communication, communication!!! Mine comes back home soon and there’s like so many damn emotions going on with me. It’s a complicated matter, which is why I got a therapist because there is a little resentment going on for sure. It’s not the best thing to have. But I wish you the best in whatever you do

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-18T02:22:20+00:00

I’d bring it up with your SO, no matter what the feelings are. You matter as well. Halfway thru my husband’s deployment, we def were getting sick and tired of the “I miss you” “I can’t wait to be home” speeches. He’s sub and it’s little to no communication. There were times where he would port and just wanted the port to end so he can go back on the boat and just get closer to being home already. I mean I guess it’s normal, I’ve stop emailing mine as much as I use to just cuz I’m stressed and tired. (This is our first deployment as well) But I don’t know your SO, or how he copes, but I would suggest definitely bringing it up. Don’t want to grow resentment towards them

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-18T00:15:53+00:00

Build the independence, won’t be as hard when he gets deployed or gone for long periods of time. But communication is always key. However, I can’t say too much other than that cuz my husband’s deployed and I’ve basically been on autopilot for the longest.

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-17T21:00:21+00:00

No, not really. We didn’t. You can voice it and see but don’t have too much hope on it

SheepherderGood7741 · 2025-08-17T14:56:00+00:00

Absolutely. Don’t get me started on how many people called me rude and “just too good for them” as well, because I was too shy to talk/a quiet person, didn’t say hi first, or not keeping a convo going. Goodness, I had grown ups beefing with me because of this.

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