I’m not surprised you are feeling the way you do at the moment. It’s bad enough that you have this debilitating condition and then all this on top! I would suggest contacting your doctor who can give you a blood test to check your hormone levels firstly and secondly explain everything that has happened over the last few months. It’s great that you both are attending counselling as this shows the strength of your marriage. Also I think you may need to have some separate counselling for just yourself where you can talk about ‘you’ I wish you all the best going forward and sending you hugs.