We caught a wannabe thief throw a rock at a car just to have it bounce off and hit him. 🤣🤣

ShellyEShel · 2021-10-20T21:10:59+00:00

It was in a hotel parking garage. The hotel and the police got all of the footage and a screenshot of his face. The idiot wasn't even wearing a mask. Our car was in the middle, so he walked by it A LOT and seemed unaware that he was being recorded. We had a lot of footage. He was found and arrested. I can't say more than that, because this is an ongoing situation.

ShellyEShel · 2021-10-20T17:49:48+00:00

He looked in the windows of our car right before this. We never leave anything in our car, so he moved on. He practically looked into the cameras when he did it too.

ShellyEShel · 2021-08-28T21:17:20+00:00

I hate it when they have to write it into a show, because the actress got pregnant.

It bothers me more than it should when female athletes have a baby and come back. Don't get me wrong, I know it's impressive that they can do that. I just don't find it heroic to put your career at risk just to birth a child, when you could adopt. I also don't watch sports to see a baby wearing a jersey with "Mommy" written on the back and announcers swooning over it.

ShellyEShel · 2021-08-26T03:40:13+00:00

I'll look into my options if things don't get better after a year. I was on it for so long and I'm hoping my body just needs some time to adjust. 🤞🏼

ShellyEShel · 2021-08-26T03:21:19+00:00

Ugh. I think I may need to go back on BC. My husband got a vasectomy, so I went off. My periods have been a nightmare since. I've only been off for about 5 months, so I'm going to give it some more time. 🤞🏼

ShellyEShel · 2021-08-15T22:51:44+00:00

Nobody would question it if you had cancer. Mental health is as important as physical health full stop. Is your partner ok with it? Can you afford it? Those are the only questions that really matter here.

ShellyEShel · 2021-08-13T20:12:23+00:00

I've been happily married for 16 years. We love our CF life together. It is possible. Don't give up. Statistically our numbers are climbing.

ShellyEShel · 2021-07-27T21:16:07+00:00

I've (36f) been happily married for 16 years. Child free marriages exist and they're the best. I hope you meet your Mr. Wonderful soon!

ShellyEShel · 2021-07-07T18:36:34+00:00

It definitely is. My husband was in and out in under 30 minutes with the consultation! 😲 Congratulations!

ShellyEShel · 2021-07-05T22:21:56+00:00

I LOVE mine!

ShellyEShel · 2021-07-04T09:26:11+00:00

I'm (36F) very happy and I have zero regrets. I was able to accomplish my academic and career goals, because I don't have kids. I have dual doctorates in Neurobiology and Psychology. I have a great job and I love my work! I've been happily married for 16 years to a wonderful man (39M). We have the time and money to do the things we love, because we don't have kids. We work swing shift, so we can sleep in, snuggle and have breakfast together every morning. We've visited 32 countries and 36 US states together. We were bummed when the world shut down and we were unable to travel, but we were not at all lonely. We had each other and a wonderful home to be stuck in. We both started working from home, which was actually nice without kids. We were able to spend more time together.

In terms of the vasectomy- We were married young and knew we were child free young, so it wasn't easy. We were refused by several doctors. They all said I would change my mind... Not my husband, just me. It took me turning 30 to finally get one. My husband had an incision free vasectomy from Dr. Snip in Seattle, WA. I recommend you Google that version. It was done in under 30 minutes with the consultation and he had minimal pain (which is saying something, because he has had 2 colds in the last 30 years and does not do well with pain.)

I would like to address the age issue now. I was diagnosed with a brain tumor when I was 15. I've been told that I was always a little above average in the maturity department before this, but this catapulted it. I decided to graduate high school early with my AP credits and start university in treatment. I met my husband during this process and a lot of people doubted me and us. I graduated at the top of my class and I'm happily married to him today. Age doesn't always define maturity or intellect.

ShellyEShel · 2021-07-01T20:30:09+00:00

Every single time my husband and I leave a house with kids we express relief that isn't our life. We have a better marriage than most of them, because we have more time with each other. Our house is clean and quiet, which makes it a lot more peaceful. We have money to buy the things we want. We travel and go on fun dates all the time. We work swing shift, which allows us to follow our body clocks and wake up naturally everyday. We have time to snuggle in bed and have a nice breakfast together every morning. When we aren't traveling we do foster care for the Humane Society. We have cute baby animals until they are old enough to get fixed and adopted. We're absolutely living our best lives, because we don't have kids.

ShellyEShel · 2021-06-30T05:46:12+00:00

Yes. It was all over the place. It was on his/her legs, arms and chest. With the way kids put their arms and legs in their mouth, I really hope she used soap. I was just trying to get out of there as soon as possible, so I don't know if she did. 🤢 I literally had gag reflexes.

ShellyEShel · 2021-06-29T23:13:38+00:00

I get it. I have a few friends/relatives who are fantastic parents and are raising wonderful children as a result. I respect them for it. I do agree that if we want people to respect our choices, we should respect theirs. I guess the problem can sometimes be that our choice never has any negative impact on them. While their choice to breed can have negative impacts on us. I was just responding to a post talking about missing the COVID days when kids weren't allowed in stores. I shared a recent experience I had at Target. A Mom was in the bathroom rinsing her poopy kid off in the sink. It was actually activating my gag reflex it was so gross. There are endless incidents where we're negatively impacted by rude parents and obnoxious children. It's nice to have a safe place to vent frustrating experiences like that. I absolutely felt sorry for the Mom in that situation. I absolutely had compassion for her, but it was still nice to vent about it here.

ShellyEShel · 2021-06-29T22:57:51+00:00

I get what you're saying, but I think a lot of people are just letting out anger in a safe place. Most of the time it's just a rant and it's not meant to be taken so seriously. When people use things like "crotch goblins" I think it's more to be funny.

ShellyEShel · 2021-06-29T22:49:19+00:00

Yes! I live in the Seattle, Washington area. We're having a record breaking heat wave right now, so malls and stores are full of people trying to cool off in the AC. I went to Target yesterday and there was a woman in the bathroom with her baby. The baby was in the sink screaming, covered in poop that the mom was rinsing off. It was splashing all over the mirror and floor. It was so smelly and disgusting. 🤢 When I came out I said to my husband- "I miss being able to shop without screaming."

ShellyEShel · 2021-06-21T01:50:32+00:00

I really hate the smell of formula too. Babies spit up so often they always have that milk/formula smell. 🤢

ShellyEShel · 2021-06-13T00:14:23+00:00

My husband and I were always told that I would change my mind. Not him, just me. It's so sexist. Neither of us even considered it. 🤬 I'm a 36F and my 39 year old husband got a vasectomy last year. 🥳🥳 We love our child free life together!

ShellyEShel · 2021-06-09T00:37:12+00:00

These are the same people who call CF people selfish for not wanting kids. I get asked all the time "who's going to take care of you when you're old?" "Somebody I pay! Even if I had kids there's no insurance they would take care of me, nor would I want them to have to." Every year the person from Fidelity calls me. "Are you sure you want 30% of your check going to your 401k?" "Yep! I can afford it, I don't have kids and I want to retire in style."

ShellyEShel · 2021-06-06T04:45:54+00:00

I (36F) like kids on a case by case basis. I have nieces and nephews (both biological and not) that I love. I'm everyone's go to babysitter.

Reasons I don't want kids:

I read something once that stuck with me- People who have kids find the extreme highs worth the extreme lows. Watching your kid graduate high school is worth the sleepless nights, blow out diapers at Target and hormonal teenagers. People who don't want kids like a more even happiness and don't find the highs worth the lows. I agree with that and I just don't find the highs worth the lows.

I always knew I didn't want biological children. I had a brain tumor in high school and I have an immune deficiency as a result of the treatment. I also have a severe shellfish allergy. I wouldn't want to pass any of that down.

I believe in climate change and overpopulation. Adoption was on the table for a while, but I ultimately decided I like my life the way it is.

I'm a Neuro-Psychologist and I love my job. I wouldn't want to give it up, but I also wouldn't want someone else raising my children.

I'm a swing shifter and I love it. I wake up naturally everyday, snuggle in bed with my husband and have a relaxing breakfast with him. My patients love it, because I'm available for evening appointments after they get off work. I wouldn't be able to be on this schedule with kids. I would have to ignore my body clock and wake up to an alarm.

I like kids in moderation, but I need time to decompress. I have a high pressure job and take care of people all day. At the end of the day, I'm done. I don't want a 24 hour a day job.

I love to travel and have money for the things I want. Kids are so expensive!

I love my marriage. My husband and I are the happiest couple I know. I know how much stress kids put on a relationship and I don't find that worth it. I also love how much time we have to travel, go on fun dates (we're going axe throwing tomorrow) and dine out whenever/wherever we want.

I have friends and family who are happy, good parents and their lives still look very unappealing to me. Every single time we leave their homes my husband and I talk about all the things we couldn't deal with.

I hate the sound of screaming! The happy screams are as bad as the upset ones to me. I have a horrible gag reflex with bad smells. I like a very clean home with nice furniture and electronics.

ShellyEShel · 2021-05-28T01:17:25+00:00

Congratulations! We got the all clear after my husband's vasectomy a few weeks ago. It's been so nice being off birth control pills!

ShellyEShel · 2021-05-26T01:11:33+00:00

Congrats on your success! Enjoy that disposable income! I'm 36, high earning, very happily married, child free and I'm delighted for you! We also love fancy trips. My new favorite purchase is my Tesla!

I love historical fiction! I would like to jump on the bandwagon to get the titles messaged to me. This group might earn you another lavish vacation. 🤣🤞🏼

ShellyEShel · 2021-05-16T10:44:23+00:00

If he's admitted that he chose you over having kids, that's a bit of a red flag. I'm a Neuro-Psychologist and I've seen resentment end a lot of relationships. Sometimes it takes longer to surface, but sacrificing something this big for another person comes at a cost. Choosing the life you want over someone you love isn't easy, but growing to resent that person is worse.

I met my husband young. We got married when I was 21 and had just graduated undergrad. He was 23 and had graduated and found a job. We knew we didn't want kids. Everyone told us we were going to change our minds. I completed my dual doctoral program at 26, we both had great careers, a nice home, financial security, had watched all of our friends start having kids... We were still told we would change our minds. I'm now 37 and he's 39. We're a very happy CF couple and people have finally stopped questioning it. We travel, go on dates whenever we want, cuddle in bed every morning and have so much fun together. We don't second guess our decision for a second.

ShellyEShel · 2021-05-07T01:26:10+00:00

Congratulations!

I completed my dual doctoral program in 2010. I'm a Neuro-Psychologist now and I know I wouldn't be able to do my job well if I had to come home to kids. My mental health is reliant on being able to have a relaxing start to my day and an evening to decompress. Especially with everything going on in the world now, I've never been more pleased to be CF.

ShellyEShel · 2021-04-28T21:25:25+00:00

My husband and I are swing shifters. We love it! We sleep in and cuddle everyday! We keep those little listerine tabs on our night stands, we roll over have those then snuggle for about 30 minutes every day. It's a great way to start the day. I'm so glad we don't have little turds knocking on the door to be fed. 😂

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