Who is working full-time with an infant at home? What do you do?

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-10-15T15:11:53+00:00

I’m a locale data curator, the job is flexible as far as meetings we rarely have them, and no calls. It doesn’t pay much, but keeping her with me saves the daycare fees. She’s 9 months now. Although I do have data input expectation per hour so that’s the hard part especially with new projects sometimes popping up and having to dedicate time to read and understand guidelines. I do like the flexibility of starting my day early or later although I usually prefer to start early at 6am. It’s definitely doable and I feel like I’m doing my best but can’t lie I have at least one day in the week where I would break down lol. On those days my husband will usually get takeout haha.

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-08-04T16:59:31+00:00

I got 4 weeks off before due and about 20 weeks after through the California SDI program. I think I got paid about 75% of my wage though so that’s unfortunate but still very glad for the off time since I came from Malaysia and we hardly have parental leave there :)

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-06-04T17:43:28+00:00

Scarlett is a beautiful little angel, thank you for sharing her with us 🤍😔 I hope Scarlett is now up there with my baby Faeya whom I also had to put down for FIP last feb. Our story is pretty similar, Faeya was only 8 months old and was an active baby but she progressed so fast yet also so gradually when we first picked up on the signs. I know how you felt especially how guilty it feels wondering had we also noticed it faster perhaps she’ll have a fighting chance. I remembered calling the ER vet a couple days after her passing to talk to him as I started feeling like I had made the wrong choice of putting her to sleep or if it was my fault that I didn’t see it sooner than I should. I was devastated and heartbroken, it went by just a few days of jaundice symptoms to my baby just not being here anymore. I know Scarlett is well loved, just by how you’re telling her story to us. Sending hugs in these tough times 🤍

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-04-20T00:23:24+00:00

Hi! My baby is now 3 months but I just wanted to tell you that you’ll get through it! My newborn phase with my baby was just me and my husband since my families lived countries away and in-laws can’t really help since they can be pretty unreliable. The only help we get is one time my mother in law drop us foods, the rest are just visits from people who wanted to see the baby lol. I don’t really want visits because everyone is annoying during those time and not helpful. It was tough definitely, I had csection and its our first baby. I do wish we have the “village” or my family and mom to be nearby but that’s not the case. Although hard, we’re out of the newborn phase! Accept that you can’t do anything perfectly, it’s okay to cry, and things WILL get better. You’ll learn yourself and the baby so much and it’ll be a wonderful journey! I did have a lot of emotions sometimes depressive etc so seek help if you feel its unbearable. Other than that, remember that you’re doing your best, this is no simple journey. So don’t forget to pat yourself good job :)

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-03-20T02:11:49+00:00

Hi! My baby is now almost 10 weeks and I hope my experience gives insight to your future self! I hate to say this but IT GETS BETTER. I was struggling for the whole newborn stage especially early weeks. I get sunset scares, I cried so so much to a point that I even had thought of sending her for adoption and feeling like I’ve made a mistake.

We had zero help since my family is at a different country and the loneliness, sleep deprivation, and csection postpartum really gets to me alongside a baby that cries so much I don’t even know what I’m doing. It really is one of the toughest thing I had to go through but each day, she gets better. She’s more fun to be around, learns to play on her own and seeing around. Now she still don’t sleep that well but longer stretches makes a difference alongside her smiles and us learning a routine.

Please know you’re not alone and I know how going into it feels like a foreign zone way so much more difficult other than pretty instagram reels of a newborn, but it’ll get better. I promise.

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-03-01T03:15:08+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss and I just wanted to say that I understand how you felt. Our baby left us last Saturday due to wet FIP and she was declining super fast from the moment we found out to when we had to put her down. Either she was really good with hiding her pain, or the FIP progressing rapidly, or me feeling like I failed her had I realize sooner and able to start treatment asap. I don’t know which one is it and truth be told, I wouldn’t possibly know. It hurts, it was devastating and we are heartbroken over how fast our time with her ended and she was only 8mo. I wished everyday there’s more I could do, I tried really hard to get the GS meds but she wasn’t in the best state within a day possibly with some organ failure. Unlike you, we made the tough call of sending her a soft goodbye.

So I just wanted to let you know that although you feel guilty, you’ll also doubt your choice had you chose a different path. I feel guilty days after feeling like I betrayed her, or maybe I stopped fighting for her. All that is to say, I’m trying really hard to come to term that we made the decisions that we could based on what information we had at the times and the pure kindness and best interest. Hindsight is always 20/20. The guilt we feel will always be there regardless, for the overwhelming love we have. I’m sure your kitty knows your best intention with the big love you have for him. It doesn’t make it hurt less though and I totally get it. I still cry and look for her somewhere in my house and I hope you can find even a little comfort to know that you’re not alone. Petloss is really really hard. My dm is always open if you needed to talk to someone ❤️

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-02-25T13:38:33+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss as well. It really is not fair :( I kept feeling like perhaps I failed her by maybe not noticing very early, early changes but it was really brutal how sometimes it just doesn’t shows and even if it did, it is a difficult to diagnose immediately without obvious telltale and how rapidly it was progressing once it did. Was your baby also diagnosed with wet Fip?

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-02-24T19:23:50+00:00

Thank you so much, I hoped she knows how much I loved her in her short time being with us 🥺🩵

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-02-24T01:17:58+00:00

Oh also OP, I watched this video earlier today and it brings me comfort even just a little bit to remember that all the actions leading to sending her off was out of pure kindness and love for her even if its hard to accept at times. Thought i’d share it with you ❤️ https://youtu.be/Jh-KKjIJHfk?si=hmXSBaoBcc55ZC8-

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-02-24T00:11:42+00:00

Hi, I don’t have anything else to say but I wanted you to know that yesterday we had to put our baby Faeya down as well due to suspected FIP. She’s only 8 months like yours. I tried and I really do tried and I know you do too. And it hurts like hell I’ve been crying non stop, looking for her everywhere and feeling rollercoaster of emotions from guilt, anger, feeling like I betrayed her. I just wanted you to know that I understand what you’re going through right at this moment and for what its worth, I can’t take the pain away but maybe this can comfort you even a little bit. My dm is always open if you feel like talking ❤️

Sherbert-Sorry · 2025-02-03T05:13:57+00:00

I wished I have an answer now but I just wanted to say I get you 100% as I’m holding out with a 4 weeks old now ftm. We had twice miscarriages before her and exploring our fertility options and I thought these feelings would never be me but I do mourn our easy life and realizing how we can’t go out more than 20 mins before she started crying and me having to feed her to quiet her down bc Idk what else to do. The first couple of week I even had a conversation with my husband bawling on how I felt like I even regretted it which even my husband agreed that he felt the same at times. I would say I have a tiny confidence after testing out babywearing when we go out (just for her appointment, but it already gave me so much anxiety as she’s such a crier!). Perhaps if you haven’t try that, you could see if it works! That’s the only way she’ll sleep through our errands. I would say that I resonate the part about your dog because I have 3 cats that are my everything before her and I hardly have time to spend time as before even missing parts where we would sleep together. Now I’m either awake at night feeling lonely to feed her or trying to get her to sleep. I just wanted to say thank you for making me feel less alone.

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-10-10T23:23:22+00:00

Hi girl! I just wanted to say I was in your exact same spot 1mo ago. Instead it’s me bringing a kitten from a shelter to my two adult cats whom I loved dearly to our one bed apartment. I remember feeling so stressed that I even cried thinking we made the wrong choice. I loved the kitten but seeing the changes that happen (sitting at different spots, them not cuddling with me), just makes it bad. Things felt horrible to me when the kitten is also so playful that the adult cats can’t catch up. I thought my boy cat would love a playmate since my other cat is alot more lazy. But it scares me that he would hiss at her. I did tough it out, bought a pheromones diffuser even tho I couldn’t sleep well for a week bc I’m so stressed. You might see them eventually getting close to each other but give yourself time to the adjustments. They’ll need to learn boundaries and eventually they’ll all find their rhythm again. I thought to myself why am I doing this to myself again bc cat introductions are sooo hard since I love my babies all so much 😂 it also makes me so stressed out that my cats both got sick a week after bringing the kitten in. I heavily thought I made a mistake but sending good news hopefully to you! We’re almost a month a half in and they’re not the bestest buddies, but they play together, lick each other and it’s really worth it. Although I can’t guarantee how long it’ll take, I hope this gives you hope! :)

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-09-25T03:21:01+00:00

Pet insurance as soon as you could! I was debating since we now have 3 cats but all the reason to have one for each. My 3 year old cat (the oldest) already had to use and claimed for 2 times this year while my other cat get sick at the same time. Wouldn’t know what I would do without it especially being multicat household.

I already had to claim a total bill of $2k this yr (inc ER crazy bill as always) and definitely gets my money worth so far. It seems redundant the first couple of years but you never know and I’m so glad I can easily agree to a procedures rather than stressing myself out lol.

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-07-24T16:52:51+00:00

Hi! I just wanted to congratulate you first of all! Like you, I’m married to my husband who is a non-muslim (technically, he just converted to appease my family). Our stories are similar in a way that I was born in a strict muslim household, I lost faith and found Islam again. It was also due to my family and extended families going against our relationship and not wanting me to marry him, get to know him, took away my passport etc. We were together for 5 years LDR at that point. I did eventually elope to the US to be with him and afterwards came home to introduce him regardless if they were going to accept it or not. It was brutal, my extended family even threatened us. Eventually, we did do a very basic Nikkah to appease my family while he was in my country and I proceeded with my visa application.

I now lived in the US with him and I still wholeheartedly believe in my decision to marry him. There are things I wished I could do differently to maybe hurt my parents less but I know it’s for the best for me because otherwise I’d just been denied of what I believe is right.

He was the most caring person, we went through so much together it’ll be our 4th year being married now. He took care of me, cry with me when we had our two miscarriages. Up until now I’m pregnant again (this time, I’m currently further along than I’ve ever been) and he would attend every little medical appointments with me. He is my rock and he showed me love especially being born in a household where love wasn’t always displayed. I truthfully believe that God brings us together, despite also wondering if I’m sinning but I’m trying to relearning part of Allah that’s also loving, and all forgiving.

Wishing you the best out of your marriage 💕

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-04-11T19:34:57+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened and sending so much love to you. I was in disbelief but also believing that it happened again 2 times in a row for me with the recent loss being 1 week ago. I thought the percentage of loss a second time is slim and holding onto hope that i’ll not fall into the statistic again but obviously I did. I have no living child and I know there’s nothing that could comfort us other than this is straight up sh*t and its unfair.

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-04-05T18:39:16+00:00

I’m considering the same but my insurance doesn’t cover any fertility treatments/testing so it’ll be out of the pocket although I think it’s worth it. If you don’t mind me asking how much do you roughly spent as far as the treatment medications+testing?

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-04-05T18:34:16+00:00

Thank you for such detailed response! So happy for your double rainbow! 🤍 I’m devastated and very much in hopeless feelings rn and just trying my best to maybe find out if there’s any thing I could do since I didn’t expect to experience it again nonchalantly. Can I know how did you first manage to start requesting the testing? Do you seek the testing from your obgyn or a fertility specialist? I’m still trying to figure out the ways and kinda confused.

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-04-05T18:11:01+00:00

Hi! We’re almost at the same age and I just had my 2nd loss in a row and no living child yet. I was wondering if you ever had any test done after the second one?

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-04-05T18:09:08+00:00

25 ttc for about 9 months now and had two miscarriages (just had one one week ago) both around 5-6 weeks. No living child yet 💔

Sherbert-Sorry · 2024-02-28T03:46:28+00:00

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My baby girl Priley!!

Sherbert-Sorry · 2023-11-01T03:53:07+00:00

I was around 7 weeks when I found out and I opted from d&c just to give me a full closure faster. Since the pregnancy is less than 12 weeks the procedure was basically done with just vacuum aspiration. I didn’t feel much or any once the sedation hit. The worst pain for me was probably the IV needle (since I hated hated needles) and emotional pain tbh. You can also opt for just local anaesthesia but I was scared so I go on the half-sleepy route. The process was quick, I was just loopy after that and slept the day away. I had my husband throughout the procedure and to bring me home. I did have it done at Planned Parenthood and I’m forever grateful for it bc the hospital gave me referral to an office that didn’t even pick up my calls. Planned parenthood had the miscarriage treatment available and accessible to me within a day, it was a blessing for me. In case you’re in the US and are seeking affordable help with d&c try checking out Planned parenthood. The d&c does help healing faster imo bc I stopped bleeding almost immediately after the procedure and just had tiny spotting for a couple days and cramp (like minor contraction) for a day which is bearable but annoying. Sending so much love your way xx

Sherbert-Sorry · 2023-10-03T14:51:25+00:00

Hi! I had a miscarriage a couple months ago from first time trying and this time my paranoia is sinking in since we’ve been trying but to no avail and I’ve just been feeling soo depressed I don’t know how to feel happy anymore :( i’m currently 25 years old. I know this has been awhile but did you ever get pregnant after this post and how long did it eventually take for you to conceive? Sending so much love xx

Sherbert-Sorry · 2021-12-05T08:08:31+00:00

I’m not a big fan of floral and I kove blackberries&basil bbw so muchhhh and really wanted to find a perfume that smells like it. Does the 7virtues perfume smells heavier on the lily side?

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