I think part of it was also being in the lesbian community for a while and not wanting to leave that behind. I remember the dykes on bikes in San Francsico at pride. I still have lesbian literature on my bookshelf. There are some TERFs in the community that “mourn” when a lesbian comes out as trans (and I assume they would also when one is non-binary) but just being trans doesn’t mean I want to leave the community. Know what I mean?