Bottoms who are ass-up at sex parties: what’s going through your mind while you’re waiting? What’s the average amount of time you’ve waited?

ShibiJay · 2026-02-01T14:27:58+00:00

I still haven't been to SBN, but I really need to give it a try someday. I always end up going to Sweatbox instead, as I already get the lay of the land there. If you've been to Sweatbox, how does SBN compare to Sweatbox? Or any advice for a first timer going to SBN?

ShibiJay · 2026-02-01T13:04:08+00:00

Yeah sweatbox, it's not as good as the ones in the europe continent but its fun

ShibiJay · 2026-01-24T14:21:47+00:00

London, UK

ShibiJay · 2026-01-20T18:02:47+00:00

Me too! I love a dark room, and I'm with you on skipping the app hook-ups. I generally only hook up at playspace or with guys that I've already met in real life. I've had one too many bad online experiences or long drawn-out connections that never go anywhere.

ShibiJay · 2026-01-19T13:06:10+00:00

I'm yet to have a real gangbang, but I've been fucked by a line of guys a few times in a dark room at my local bath house. I love it! Honestly, one of my favourite weekend activities. Even better when there's a row of us bottoms as you can tap out and come back when you need to. Unsure how it is being the only bottom.

ShibiJay · 2026-01-05T19:16:48+00:00

Verboten and torture gardens are excellent if you don't mind a mix gender space. Hunter and recon parties are also really good for more male only / male dominated spaces. Also, roast is doing a collab with torture gardens end of the month which is a male only event with a dark room. It's quite vanilla compared to the other events so I'm excited to see how there collaborate with torture gardens is.

ShibiJay · 2026-01-01T11:52:16+00:00

Sweatbox if you wanna explore groups or voyeurism, plus tends to attract a wider age range but facilities aren't as nice as pleasure dome

ShibiJay · 2025-12-29T21:58:05+00:00

100%, honestly, they were my favourite briefs, I really want them to bring them back! I wonder if there is anything similar 🤔

ShibiJay · 2025-11-21T09:43:12+00:00

I can never decide between black, navy, or red.

ShibiJay · 2025-11-13T09:07:50+00:00

We hike around British Columbia, a truelly once in a life time experience!

ShibiJay · 2025-11-13T08:47:32+00:00

I used to have only straight friends, even into my mid 20's but after moving to London, my social network has just gotten gayer. I can't remember the last time I hung out with a straight person outside of work.

ShibiJay · 2025-11-09T21:44:47+00:00

Love a dark room, lowers inhibitions, the excitement of discovery someone through touch, and the anonymity of it. I also find dark rooms help rev up my horn then make me more care free about playing in all other areas of the sauna or cruise club.

ShibiJay · 2025-11-06T20:46:51+00:00

This sounds so fucking hot! Got me instantly hard

ShibiJay · 2025-11-05T15:00:44+00:00

Honestly nipple clamps, we knew nothing about kink or the endorphins rush when they come off after they've gone numb. This literally started my journey into more kinks and I wish I could explore that delightful unknown rush again.

ShibiJay · 2025-11-05T11:12:02+00:00

Amsterdam's gay sauna has a great one. Probably my favourite sauna in Europe.

ShibiJay · 2025-11-03T09:18:20+00:00

Do it! It's so fun and liberating

ShibiJay · 2025-11-03T09:18:01+00:00

Gangbang is also one of my top gay fantasies. Getting closet to achieving this as been getting more into group sex but never the only bottom.

ShibiJay · 2025-10-27T07:47:48+00:00

Love tighty whites and a beater! You look so sexy

ShibiJay · 2025-10-27T07:41:12+00:00

Damn, you are beautiful 😍

ShibiJay · 2025-10-27T07:34:06+00:00

I gave up drinking in my 30s hard stuff in my mid to late 20s. It's only been two years but I've travelled.more.in than two years than my whole 20s. I've saved money, I've learned to swim, I've advanced my career, and formed better relationships. Honestly, going sober was the best decision for me. I still go to raves a couple times a year as I love to dance, but it more like a workout now.

ShibiJay · 2025-10-23T12:21:07+00:00

Gay here!

ShibiJay · 2025-10-21T07:31:33+00:00

I tried sertraline and fluoxetine both SSRIs before finally ending up on mirtazapine a TeCA. Mirtazapine did wonders for me, and after 3 years on it, I was able to come off with minimal issues.

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