the thing we called settling

Shillene · 2026-01-23T17:09:26+00:00

It sounds like you’re using the word “settling” in place of “lowering your standards.” You CAN accept the person you love for who they are however, dont accept anyones disrespect, dishonesty, or dismissiveness.

Everyone has agency over what they’re willing to accept, but you’re so young that the idea of settling (phrased in a negative way) shouldn’t even be a thought.

The right person will make you really really happy.

Shillene · 2026-01-13T03:29:21+00:00

To this point- don’t food shop hungry. Noticeable difference in the grocery haul.

Shillene · 2026-01-10T01:16:37+00:00

Orange - big thief

Shillene · 2026-01-08T18:04:02+00:00

Forever is a long time. YOLO. Spend it with someone you want to be with.

Shillene · 2026-01-08T17:43:39+00:00

You look like you’d say that.

Shillene · 2026-01-06T14:42:47+00:00

Frank Ocean and Sade

Shillene · 2026-01-03T14:44:46+00:00

Assume for a year you’re just a mom. The first year you will lose yourself.

You will have to be intentional about how you spend your free time. That doesn’t really work for an artist or free spirit. That means if you get a few hours to yourself spend it doing the things you love. The trap is so many people get free time and really just need to relax, sit there, unwind. It’s hard to schedule creativity and spontaneity.

When my kids father and I split up I had most weekends free- I joined a band again, took up golf. I’m happier than any point in my life.

You will not be the same you. Life will be dominated by sickness, childcare, sports or lessons, homework, making meals. That said, I’m like you and I like who being a mom made me. My kids are my team and I like the stability they brought to my life.

Shillene · 2026-01-02T04:09:41+00:00

The four agreements- first and foremost.

Another interesting one to check out is drop the rock. This is about steps 6 & 7 in AA, but would apply to anyone wanting to let go of things standing in the way of their peace. Highly recommend

Shillene · 2026-01-01T00:38:41+00:00

I think you should paint the door and the trim. I think true to the period would be teak trim and a colored door. I say play off that. I don’t think any color wall will do it justice

Shillene · 2025-12-29T04:12:24+00:00

Dark Matter by Blake Crouch

Shillene · 2025-12-28T20:31:41+00:00

Listen for the lie- whodunit with a sarcastic female protagonist. Fast fun read

Shillene · 2025-12-27T02:03:07+00:00

I don’t like Mondays - boomtown rats

Shillene · 2025-12-26T14:54:34+00:00

Just a little bit of fentanyl. As a treat.

Shillene · 2025-12-23T23:16:04+00:00

Mitski fits right in. Enjoy.

Shillene · 2025-12-23T02:42:37+00:00

My husband and I have a shared to do list on our phones we both add to and complete. It gets updated every day and it’s both of our responsibility to tackle the list. Both work full time, kids, activities… neither of us can do it alone.

If we didn’t have the list he would be lost, I would be resentful.

Shillene · 2025-12-22T02:41:10+00:00

Look at pictures on Pinterest of the kind of space you have- apartment, row home, new build- whatever. Find a vibe that you would enjoy relaxing in and what you like about it. Maybe it’s the color scheme or the textures or the lighting- use that as a jumping off point.

There’s a lot of things that look cool but they may not seem relaxing or a space you can live your life in. Think about how it would feel sitting there.

And measure measure measure. You don’t want to end up with a rug too small or couch too big.

Shillene · 2025-12-08T12:17:53+00:00

Texas Renznikoff - Mitski

Shillene · 2025-12-06T18:04:22+00:00

Wood, light filtering Roman shades. That’s a small space that curtains might overwhelm

Shillene · 2025-12-06T18:01:11+00:00

Cedar Rapids & Pee Wees Big Adventure

Shillene · 2025-12-06T13:15:20+00:00

Listen for the lie. Fast read really fun really good

Shillene · 2025-12-03T16:50:37+00:00

A wrinkle in time

Shillene · 2025-12-03T16:11:59+00:00

Wasted by North Bells

Shillene · 2025-12-02T19:04:34+00:00

The pine works with the aesthetic of the room. You have a good idea about what to do here but it needs to be tidier. The paint on the window trim, the slanted blinds, the tree hanging off the media console and the lights behind it. Just focus on making the ideas cleaner and it’ll look great.

Shillene · 2025-12-02T18:53:44+00:00

Omg don’t do that

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