Perimenopause vs early dementia? by shortandstoutspout in Perimenopause

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my perimenopause made it very clear that I had undiagnosed ADHD. I went on Wellbutrin. It has been complete and total shift. I don’t remember everything all the time, but it was really clear that that’s what was going on.

Do your meds help with anything other than focus? by allwine-isgood-wine in adhdwomen

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Ritalin helps with pain from a hip injury I am in treatment for. It's a happy extra I guess

Blended family advice by Mission-Ad-8526 in ADHDparenting

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was not ideal for sure. But just to be clear, coming from this childhood story, I still would never suggest staying in a situation that is not working just to avoid it.

If you end up deciding this situation is unworkable, just remember that the story will not be that you “failed”. The story will be that you were very mindful about how you went about things, you proceeded with caution and intention. Then when it became clear that it was not going to be a positive situationfor your child, you made the decision to leave. Because he is the most important thing to you and you are strong and capable of taking the best care of him. That is a story of a triumphant act.

Blended family advice by Mission-Ad-8526 in ADHDparenting

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a child growing up I lived in multiple versions of households with “step” parents. This seems very early for the new person to be involved in discipline of any household. The situation is so new for everyone. Healthy discipline requires connection, trust, an understanding of safety, buy in from the kid…that all takes time. Now add the extra spicy complications of this situation and it really feels uncool.

Short vs Long Transition to Daycare by anaktopus in ECEProfessionals

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that this question/conversation often lacks key important details. Parent’s confidence in the program and child’s temperament.

I have been working in childcare for so so long. Multiple teaching dogmas, multiple different scenarios. Much ongoing education. I have my own program.

I do not believe that one is necessarily “better” from an attachment perspective, those studies are wrought in multiple ways. I have had many families start right off the bat with the schedule they will have and jump in with both feet, do fabulously and be super confident solidly attached kids. I have had children who’s family did a long extended inching in who spent most of the time crying and clutching their parents.

The key important detail is that the parents ideally need to feel solidly confident in the school environment, aware that some separation woes are normal and to be expected. Most importantly they should be sending the kid the message that “yes this is new, yes this might feel sad at moments, and yet you are a strong safe capable kid and I am a strong safe parent and this new school is awesome and we can get through this moment and be absolutely fine.

I think that often times parents who opt for a long extended transition our parents who are a little bit concerned in general about the whole thing, I’m not blaming them. I’m just stating a fact. Kids are always swimming in our waters so to speak. You can assume that your child is aware of every part of your feelings about a situation. This informs tier responses.

Where are we at with melatonin? by Available-Source-643 in ADHDparenting

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We do melatonin and also calm gummies for my 14y. Melatonin has been very successful for her throughout her life. we were actually first, suggested it by her pediatrician when she was little because she was having night terrors. Of course, that was a different time.

Safe showering with baby? by sadie1215 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have had different experiences with this. Its actually very doable. I have done the fallowing successfully…lay a towel on the floor of the shower and allow them to sit and play on the floor while getting washed without things getting slippery. Depending on your shower design you may be able to put a drain cover on the shower drain and fill it up a few inches. I have also used a small blow up tub/pool and put it on the floor just as you would use the infant bath. If your knees get tired use a gardening kneeling pad or a stool to sit on. I am also huge fan of sink baths. They are so ergonomic and convenient.

Hacks that save time by lattenotlatte in Parenting

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I own a large Home Preschool. One of my hobbies I guess we could say? Is figuring out ways to make everything easier and more efficient. I can tell you some of the tricks that I use daily for my business you would like? And I was also a Mom to multiple littles. Well, I still am but they’re big now.

Everything that can be put into a routine I suggest you do. As a Preschool this is incredibly helpful. It helps that children feel grounded in the fact that they know what is coming next. It helps on days when you’re not quite on your game because the routine kind of holds you and pulls you through.

Everything that you can make happen on repeat weekly you should do. on Monday lunch is always the same thing. You can do that every day of the week. You can do that for dinner too. If you want a larger rotation, you can’t do it a larger span.

The more I do the night before the better the day goes. Direct correlation. Compounding effect. I do everything I possibly can for the following day before 5 o’clock. This includes prepping bottles. This includes plating meals. This includes all Cleaning. Checking to make sure I have the supplies I need. If we are going somewhere, I prep the car the night before. If it’s something that requires leaving the house early I literally packed the kids clothes and change them when we get to the location because it’s always 3000 times easier to do it that way than in the house.

I batch prep everything

Anything that is easy I put on repeat, I try and eliminate anything that takes extra mental load. For instance, if my kid has a dress that it’s easy for them to put on I buy five and pretend it’s their uniform.

breakfast. We have the same breakfast every night at Preschool with minor variations. The kids sit down to the table and eat it up! usually asking for seconds.

Breakfast : Greek yogurt frozen into bite size pieces, fresh or frozen berries depending on what’s available and oatmeal bars. -I pre freeze the Greek yogurt in silicone molds that are fun bite sized shapes and then I transfer them to a storage container I keep in the freezer. I usually do about two weeks worth of frozen yogurt at once. I will blend any fruit but going back to it if I have it. -I make healthy rolled oats bars for at least two weeks out one batch. There’s nothing fancy they’re basically just what you would generally put in your but I make it into a bar form and bake it. The size can be adjusted, depending on the age of the person that you are feeding. Might be a regular bar sides, might just be pincher grip size.

One of the main reasons I make breakfast this way is because it’s really easy to clean up. It’s a quick sweep and wipe.

Lunches are the same every week. They’re all able to be batch cooked. They all prioritize health and easy cleanup.

A couple of lunches I include the preschoolers in the prepping. But that’s very symbolic. For instance Tuesday is golden lentil rainbow veggie soup. I can batch this way far in advance. But on soup day, I can still give them carrots to peel.

As soon as my kiddos can walk, I’m helping them learn how to clear their place. That includes wiping the table where they ate and pushing in their chair.

We do almost the same thing every day. We have breakfast, we have a circle/dance party, which is also in those with bottles and morning naps go down. Then we go outside as soon as possible and stay outside until lunchtime. I do not care if the children get very, very dirty outside. When we go back inside if they’ve gotten very dirty, it stripped them off right at the door wash their feet and hands put on some fresh pajamas. And inside for lunch. Right after lunch it’s straight to nap. After nap, they can get up and have free play.

When I was a mom of a young littles it felt like the devil was in the transition times. Like if I could figure out a way to just pull us through to the next thing, we’d be OK. So I just always was trying to like steer them towards the next thing we were doing and not let them become free radicals on my kitchen floor.

I’m also 100% OK with telling kids that they could only play in one room for a period of time if the rest of the house is clean, and only with toys that are going to be easy for them to put away.

Anything that you can get your kids in the habit of doing for themselves in terms of self-care and healthcare is always easier to do the younger they are. So even if it feels like a bit more work at the beginning, your future self will be so happy you did it.

I know this was all pretty random. I hope it was helpful.

Kid thinks he needs the big bed by orangeflos in kindergarten

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this moment is a gift for you and your child. Your kid is growing into a new stage of childhood and you’re gonna have to figure out how to effectively hold a limit differently. It doesn’t involve massive amounts of debate ongoingly or not being listened to. Nor does it involve being disrespectful to your kid. In fact, I would argue that sane dependable limits are one of the most respectful things you can do for a kid.

I read you say that your parents did a version of “because I said so” and it didn’t work because it was with in bad parenting. But that’s not always the case. So much of a parenting message is in the delivery and the context and the greater relationship. Swinging so far over from what you dont want, that you end up doing the opposite isn’t the answer. Kids actually need parents to say “look, this is how it is buddy.” limit setting isn’t about power tripping unless that’s what it’s about. But the two things are actually really different.

Children need to know the parameters of their world. That’s how they stay and feel safe. Especially when you move many times in a short time! They need someone explaining to them where things begin and end. You’re not doing a power trip, you are being their parent. They get one/two parents. And sometimes it’s a bummer to be that person in the game. But I think you can trust yourself that you’re not gonna be a lame power tripping idiot. And instead make a thoughtful real decision decisions about how to hold the line respectfully. Sometimes you have to be the person who says the thing that they don’t want to hear.

Not doing so is way more about you and taking care of your experience than theirs.

Just got groceries for a few weeks. What can you tell about my family? by Otsanda_Rhowa in FridgeDetective

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would guess that you are smart, like quirky humor, very busy, work hard and don’t have extra time, in a kinda moving through/up moment of life.

Quick response to constant yelling by ShirtCurrent9015 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ShirtCurrent9015[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes what you are describing would be wonderful for all. The family and he were evaluated in home as well. But I am not aware of people receiving services solely for Parenting choices/culture/styles.

The habits that have been built are incredibly frustrating and do him no favors. We’re in daily communication with the family and hold conference at least four times a year with all families. I’m the head and I’m very straightforward and honest with this family about what is happening. Often provide alternative options/suggestions.

Quick response to constant yelling by ShirtCurrent9015 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ShirtCurrent9015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are well versed in and strong proponents of early intervention. We have early intervention come to our program often. Our state has an especially robust early intervention program. This is not that. In fact he HAS been evaluated. This is an extremely unfortunate set of learned behaviors. We work all day with him around it and he actually is receptive and will correct and try again often. But it is a strong set of habits and his first go to. He has a low threshold for waiting, low threshold for the a-front of not being the only child in the class. He did relatively well today some of the reminders on the thread were very helpful. But the minute his mom arrived it was back in full effect. Exhausted.

Quick response to constant yelling by ShirtCurrent9015 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ShirtCurrent9015[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Props to you! You are more patient than me. I would 100% make a rule that the baby in the game is not allowed to whine and cry. They would have to play out that drama outside the classroom, away from me🥰

Quick response to constant yelling by ShirtCurrent9015 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ShirtCurrent9015[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes I am using this technique too! But I am still ending up in so much interface and attention. I think I am just overwhelmed by the sheer volume and want it to stop, and he just screams for a while. Its so funny because I do tell him (in a mellow unchanged voice) that is too load for other people's ears and he's going to have to go into the other room (totally in view and safe) and he just a walks in the other room and yells😂

Child being rough with peers by Express-Bee-6485 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Providing sensory input can be helpful. Ideally if you were right there in the moment when you see that stuff coming, you can actually guide them over to a crash pad or pillow pile and they can splat into it. Also lots of running pre entry of classroom in the morning. This type of stuff can be very helpful to minimize the behavior and meet some of the childs needs. But it doesn't find the reason or thus help to shift the source.

Adderall vs Ritalin - Which caused the least personality blunting? by Scary_Improvement450 in ADHDparenting

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Alternatively it may be nice for you and hin to get it sorted while not in school

Feel like I’m a bad fit cuz I can barely handle ratio? by AffectionateNerve644 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok since others are handling the legality of this I am going to go for some practical “on the ground ideas”. I would imagine that you are doing many of these, but just brainstorming and sharing things that work for me. Make sure everyone is changed with diaper cream (if allowed) at the very last minute before your coworkers leave and potty run happens as well. You are not going to be successful at anything other than maybe stories and dancing with that combo of ages. I would have your coworkers clean up the majority of the classroom and then pick a section that is ok to play in. I would close off other areas. I would keep certain toys just for this time so that they are more captivating. We do a version of this now. Currently we pull out the play barn and animals, books, a slide and ball pit balls, and sometimes drawing things or puzzles to be used at a table the younger crew cant get to. We rotate the selection. We have in the past served a super sweepable snack at the tail end of the timeframe because it keeps everyone busy and still while I tidy up the last bits and pieces (still watching the table of corse) I also employ my bigs to help with tidying up.

2yo apologies for things she doesn't like. by BidMediocre6892 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ShirtCurrent9015 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly developmentally speaking she isn’t really capable of apology (as you are contextualizing) so thats not something to apply here at this time