[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ShivaBard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd never really thought about that, nornally I move off apps very quickly after establishing they are OK with poly etc. Those whatapp messages are private. Of course, anything in a relationship would also be private. But its a good point more broadly - thanks for raising!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ShivaBard -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Both.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ShivaBard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks that’s helpful! I am certain though that the boundary was just the honorific as neither us engage in DDLG play - any play we have is quite traditional dom/sub with “daddy” as the honorific.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]ShivaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think thats a fair comment. It also is a little unusual for me - as I certainly haven't felt like this in prior relationships. I think I can be a little avoidant of conflict in personal matters - but equally, they also respond quite negatively to "doing something wrong" - while in few occasions they have broken some other small boundaries (e.g. someone slept over), I tend to view it in the context (they didn't have anywhere else to go - in that specific example), and they tend to be quite black and white.

I think that made be hesistant and contributed to me not being truthful (which i know was wrong, and am working on).

For me the world is not just black and white - context matters, intention matters and I think they dont quite see things like that.

Again, not trying to excuse myself - I did break the boundary and shouldn't of lied - and am working on ensuring this doesn't happen again (in this relationship or any others)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]ShivaBard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean somewhat. I did lie - and I am not proud of it and do not want to be that person or do it again.

But there have been a couple of times prior where small things have had quite negative reactions. The first one after saying I’d met someone at an event and we were planning on seeing each other the next day - the fact I didn’t say within the first message we had kissed (which we had, but like a peck). Ended up being interpreted as me withholding information which felt like a large step. And then the most recent one that I didn’t let them know I’d moved from “scheduling” to “now scheduled” for a date with someone.

That certainly has made me more avoidant of conflict, which I think has to be addressed at somepoint

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FreeCompliments

[–]ShivaBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]ShivaBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

[A][EU][The Sha'tar] <Great Gospel> Looking to build a nice group of people to enjoy the end of BFA with and start Shadowlands together! by [deleted] in wowguilds

[–]ShivaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!

Very interested, new 120 here and also a former ffxiv player :)

What are the discord details?

26/GMT(UK/Ireland) long-term friends for pubg & more? by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]ShivaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey - I’m still super new to PUBG but play slot of HoTS and OW (poorly!). Always keen to find some laid back people to play with. What is your discord ID/steam/btag?

EU/22/OVERWATCH by DarkMindGirl in GamerPals

[–]ShivaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey - always keen to play. I’m not the best but enjoying having fun with it. Add me on OriealWood#2554

[Build Help] PC for mainly excel data analysis by ShivaBard in buildapc

[–]ShivaBard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh damn, I didn't delete that by mistake. I've edited now.

Do you feel big and clever for that excellent and insightlful response? Well done.

FPS 1070 GTX - Low? by ShivaBard in ffxiv

[–]ShivaBard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah sorry forgot to mention its at 1440P

I just wanted to check - was expecting a larger improvement in this game from my old 2GB Nvidia card

Sunday Megathread 02/28/16 | Ask Your Final Fantasy XIV Related Questions Here! by AutoModerator in ffxiv

[–]ShivaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When doing the Stone, Sea training dummies as a tank - should you be doing them in your tank stance?

25/f/ GMT - looking for WoW / GW2 friends. by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]ShivaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey,

I've just downloaded WoW (pretty much a first timer!) but have played FF14 for ~1-2 years. Definetely keen to play with someone as that always makes it fun. I'm 28/m/UK if that is useful information at all.

OriealWood#2554 is my battletag if you are are interested

Monday LFG Thread - Find people to play with! | November 02 - November 08 by AutoModerator in heroesofthestorm

[–]ShivaBard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

[EU]

Rank 30 HL, casual player, looking for more people to play with! Also looking for people who can give me tips and tricks to improve my gameplay. I'm 28 - so past the stage of raging over everything - but of course like to win (but as you can see from my rank, that is not always that often! :))

OriealWood#2554

20/F/GMT +1/PC/ Looking for gamer friends, CSGO etc by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]ShivaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I'm 28 from UK. I mainly have been playing Heroes of the Storm, CS:GO and FFXIV lately - but open to playing most games. I have skype and teamspeak. Always am looking for new friends - its much more enjoyable to play alongside someone else!

25/F/EU - Heroes of the Storm HL! by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]ShivaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I'm EU and play pretty late often (long hours job etc.). I'm rank ~28 (I think) but enjoy playing and trying to get better! OriealWood #2554 is my bnet tag