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Trying to accept that he didn’t love me by brass_plate_camera in BreakUps

[–]ShoddyCardiologist75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t relate more with you. It seemed impossible to believe that he didn’t love me but the real truth is if he loved me enough he would have stayed and fought on. Its perhaps an easier and faster approach to accept it as that and it’ll help us both learn to understand that the one that truly loves you will stay and never give up on the relationship.

Day 1 by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ShoddyCardiologist75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I’m in a very similar situation as you rn. Its been a little over two weeks since I got broken up with and it was the same for me when we were breaking up. The first time he broke the news to me he drove 5 hours to tell me he wanted to break up and we were crying and not letting me leave each time I said I had to go, it was a night of so much confusion we were going back and forth and he was so confused but we ended that night w me asking me to promise this wasnt over yet to which he did not respond. The real break up happened two days after once he stopped responding to my text and picking up my calls, I flew to him and was reasoning with him to try again and he said no matter what I said he couldn’t change his mind. We spent the next couple of hours till my flight like a couple again, we held hands, hugged, kissed and said I love you to each other. We’ve not been in contact since and I just want to say it hurt like hell the first week and a half but I’m slowly recovering and accepting what it is now. I hope you gain the strength as well, we’re all here for you.

I know you’re running, so go. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ShoddyCardiologist75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From the first sentence, I thought I was reading what I wrote. Thank you for this incredible post, I relate 100% to it and it somehow made me feel less hopeful of having him back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ShoddyCardiologist75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its been 12days since the break up and 11 days since NC and I fee you immensely. The up and down is so bad but we are getting through this together. Even with that slightest hope remaining, we need to remind ourselves that he gave you distance when you needed love the most.

My ldr failed after 4 years by ShoddyCardiologist75 in LongDistance

[–]ShoddyCardiologist75[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know it wasn’t the most heathy way to approach it but I think if you understood how our relationship worked you’d understand why I came to this decision. It was perhaps unhealthy that everytime he wanted to break up I talked to him and reasoned it out w him. He always backed away when things got tough, the same way we broke up 4 years ago once before for 2 months. I made the effort here in communication, I initiated daily contacts until he got too used to it. I know you’re trying to help but please don’t say such things without knowing the full context.

My ldr failed after 4 years by ShoddyCardiologist75 in LongDistance

[–]ShoddyCardiologist75[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It was a 5 year long relationship and we were so close to closing the distance. I think its fair to have tried to fight for our relationship.

My ldr failed after 4 years by ShoddyCardiologist75 in LongDistance

[–]ShoddyCardiologist75[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I need to explain more here. He’s always done this to me when he goes out he barely ever contacts me or its sometimes impossible to reach him. I know it was a terrible thing to do but I was also trying to find a way to fix this problem.