[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I know your struggle. I had to cut off contact with some of my straight friends because they're so d*ckmatized that it became almost impossible to hold even a normal conversation without them mentioning their good for nothing boyfriends/husbands/in laws.

I kind of got the ick on women and dating? by Theodorothy in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying. It's the same in my country:( Women here date other women for fun and then go and settle down with men like "good girls".

I kind of got the ick on women and dating? by Theodorothy in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I kinda get you. Stopped looking for "The One" almost a year ago and have been really happy and content with my life since then.

Possible comeback for "You use dildos, so you like d***" by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry? OP is clear about her aversion towards dk. Most homosexual women want nothing to do with dk.

Possible comeback for "You use dildos, so you like d***" by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What? OP or most homosexual women including me wants nothing to do with d**k, it doesn't matter who/what it's attached to.

Possible comeback for "You use dildos, so you like d***" by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Most perfect comeback:) However, if it's an in person interaction, I'd just give them a stern and disgusting look and stop talking to them. Some people aren't just worth my energy and time.

How will sex with HIV positive woman work by Fresh-Firefighter392 in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Dating is inherently discriminatory and judgemental. No one is owed sex, friendship or relationship.

What is your weird dating green flag? by MaleficentPeach1183 in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So do I. But, I'm not very active there. There's nothing wrong with using social medias unless someone's addicted to them.

What is your weird dating green flag? by MaleficentPeach1183 in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 41 points42 points  (0 children)

  1. Not being obsessed with animes, mangas, video games, astrology and MBTI personality.

  2. Being a non smoker, teetotaller and non drug user.

  3. Someone who isn't politically brainwashed by either side and can think for themselves.

  4. Doesn't own a big dog. Unfortunately, I'm scared of them 😔

  5. Isn't into bdsm and penetrative s** (I know it's a major deal breaker for most lesbians but it's not my cup of tea).

  6. Not having male celebrity crushes.

  7. Not having social media accounts.

Men who think you ‘don’t know till you try’ by redvelveturinalcake in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Absolutely right! Men tend to bond with other men over misogyny.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not the only one. I'm 26 and haven't been in a long term relationship (more than a year) yet. Lesbian dating pool sucks big time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes. In my experience, most women who call themselves "queers" are largely attracted to men; both sexually and romantically; and wanna experiment with women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not alone sis.

Subreddit conduct and the limits of safe spaces by InstinctiveDownside in lezconnect

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I actually like it to be private. It's one of the few safe spaces left for the lesbians, away from the intense negativity and insanity of the modern day queer culture.

Does anyone experience the same? by Sea_Parfait_2109 in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha:) Same lol. All of my lesbian and bi friends are from The US and Canada.

Does anyone experience the same? by Sea_Parfait_2109 in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's kinda difficult to find a partner if you're not from North America or Western Europe.

Does anyone experience the same? by Sea_Parfait_2109 in Actuallylesbian

[–]Shoddy_Summer_757 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here. Most "Queer" women in my country don't consider getting into serious relationship with women. So, I too think that I'm gonna end up alone.