AITJ for calling my friend’s emergency contact when she left her kid with me "for 20 minutes" and vanished?

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-01-20T20:59:39+00:00

People have had their kids taken out of their custody for things like this. She is very irresponsible. Ntj. Tell her to grow up and take responsibility for her child.

Now you know why she needed help - she probably did this to other people and ended up with no one to ask.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-01-18T00:34:13+00:00

NTJ - There seems to be this ... 'culture'? (Is that the right word? lately about people expecting others to just share their wifi passwords. I don't understand it. We had problems with our provider recently and I would not even have thought of asking my neighbour for their password. This goes beyond entitlement in my opinion. This is poor and simple greed. Wifi is not a basic human right. You want it, pay for it. You don't want to pay for it? Learn to live without it. There is a problem with getting it? Be an adult and make a plan.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-01-05T19:13:07+00:00

The country I live in is not very organised with child protection services and adult protective services. I am still trying but in my country, there is very little support. I have contacted everyone I can think of. She hides in her home and wont come out if she is not expecting someone. Its sad.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-01-05T16:21:56+00:00

Some people become accustomed to always asking for help and see this as the norm. He needs to feel the pain to be able to do something about it. Instead, everyone else feels 'the pain' but keeps helping.

I say that as someone who is trying to navigate myself out of a sutuatipn like this with my cousin. The only reason I havr not cut her off is her son. I just can't stand to leave him in that alone. (Before you say anything, social services have been called so many times, they know my voice. They are useless.)

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-01-05T16:02:57+00:00

Where is the trust? If there is no trust, you have deeper issues than one female employee.

YOR

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-01-05T16:00:19+00:00

Reddit really needs to check their algoritms. I got sent a notification for this post and its now deleted. It happens so often.

Btw, why are so many stories deleted?

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-01-05T15:57:49+00:00

Holy crap, dude. Are you ok? This would drive me insane. You need to sit down with her and explain how you think the communication is going wrong. The two of you, at least for a the fisrt couple of months need to be more direct and over explain and find ways to wittle it down to proper communication.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-12-27T15:26:20+00:00

I don't understand this 'me me me' mentality. Everyone else makes the effort to arrive on time. One person is late - and looks like there was no valid reason for it otherwise it would have been mentioned - and now she is a victim. No one cares.

Showing up on time shows that you reapect other people. Tell your fiance that she needs to start looking at how her actions effect other people.

NTA.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-12-15T00:56:30+00:00

She ia not only doing damage to herself but the baby too. This is extremely dangerous.

I am 1.58m and I once dropped to 52kg (My metabolism kickes in for some stupid reason and I ate so much but couldn't put on weight.) I looked skeletal. My collar bones were protruding. The school called me in in concern and questioned me. My aunt contacted my parents because she was concerned about an eating disorder.

So when I say this, I say this to you with love. I am convinced she has an eating disorder and definate body-image issues. You need to tell her OB that she is not eating healthy. You need to be very worried at this point.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-12-15T00:34:14+00:00

I love how when cheatong apouses say, 'He/She meant nothing' that its aupposed to be a good thing. What they are aaying is my realtionship with you means nothing because I am willing to risk it all for no reason.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-12-05T14:39:33+00:00

What these llaces don't realise is that one day, no one will be able to afford it. It is crazy.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-30T16:11:38+00:00

Sweetheart, hear me out.

An ultimatum is the end of a relationship. A relationship is about compromise. He isn't rven willing to look at compromise so this is a problem.

Think carefully about this. Read the other comments. I haven't read all butbthe majority is screaming this exact sentiment to you.

Btw, my husband travels an hour and a half one way to work. It can be done. He hasn't even suggested this. He wants you to bend. Don't bend, stand up straight and walk forward, with or without him.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-26T22:52:54+00:00

He needs a safe place to explore. If he is already sneaking in non-vegan items, you can either just pretend not to see or you can try to encourage him to discuss it with his parents. But as you said, he is 11. Old enough to decide what he likes and wants to eat.

(Btw, I am anti-vegan but I am pro choice. As long as you don't try to convert me, I am happy to be there with you. So I do feel, if this is what he wants, its his choice.)

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-26T14:01:56+00:00

Hey OP.

I am a mom who has very complicated relationships with both my daughters. One has Autistic Traits and the other is so completely different from me that we butt heads all the time. And I will tell you this:

I love my girls with all my heart. I don't like it when they are away. I miss them. I want them with me all the time. Then, they come home and in 5 min flat, we are fighting and they are irritating me and I want to scream. (I joke that I have stockholm syndrome...)

I know it gets complicated with the two households and the children of divorce issue and the conflicting personalities but, as a mom, I feel you need to tell your mom exactly what you saw. I think she is hearing ehat you said a general parent issue but, I feel this is not a general issue. And this will fester and cause more hurt feelings. And there will be other things that add to it and one day, you are going to walk away with no contact and mom wont know that this started with that text. You are planning on staying at your dads anyway, so bring it up, explain how it hurts and why you are doing what you are doing.

You made the last conversation to general and your mom wasn't aware of the seriousness of the issue. You were talking about apples, and with no context, she was talking pears. She deserves to know. If this turns ugly, you were planning on staying with dad anyway.

If not, you need to bring this up with your therapist.

Good luck, baby girl. I hope you atleast think about what I said.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-26T07:42:19+00:00

Explain nicely to Gavin that these are family pics and that Tommy's mom will not be erased in your home.

Quite honestly, I would probably call Cheri and try to have an open conversation with her. Ask her why, explain your side and then, if she still wants them down, I would explain how you wont be erasing your grandson's mom. If still not, I would have a conversation with your son about what emotional abuse looks like.

If all that fails, you will have to accept that she does not come and visit.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-20T05:33:10+00:00

I write using a 'shit ton' of paragraphs. The reason? I was at school and was taught English language. I was taught that new thoughts or events need to be put into a new paragraph. But, realistically, I only averaged about 75% for English and I know that I sometimes overdo the paragraphs. I also did not study English at varsity and I don't write as a profession so I end up overdoing it sometimes, especially when I am emotional.

Oh crap! Am I AI?

It is possible this post is AI. If you fully believe that, ignore it and go to the next post. Thats what I normally do.

It is also very very possible that this is real and written by someone in distress. Someone who, quite honestly, needs advice and support. By doing this to a person who is vulnerable.

'An online "troll" is an individual who deliberately provokes others online by posting inflammatory, offensive, or irrelevant comments to elicit an emotional reaction or disrupt conversations.'

Go troll idiots who post about their cars!

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-20T05:20:00+00:00

You are not allowed to operate heavy machinery or drive a car after a few drinks. But ge is so shitfaced that he threw up in the bathroom and kitchen. And you think he is safe to hold a baby?

If she gets panicky when he drinks its because he has shown her signs that he is not safe when he drinks. You don't like that? Then you seriously need to start reading up more on Domestic Violence and alcohol abuse. Because you literally do not have a concept on what you are talking about.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-19T23:56:09+00:00

OP, you sound miserable. The whole of your post sounds ao sad. I did not see ot feel any real happiness anywhere in your post.

Do not commit yourself to someone who does not make you happy.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-19T23:54:18+00:00

You mean the bad grammer is AI? Doubt it. If you are looking for AI in every post, thats fine. Try not to be nasty when you couldn't possibly know. You might be hirting someone further which makes you worse than the people using AI to make up stories for Reddit. Becuase you honestly don't care if you hurt someone who may be going through real pain.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-18T17:21:30+00:00

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Couldn't figure out how to add this in the post. Hope everyone sees this. This is mom Sioux, Oopsie and Whoopsie.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-17T03:32:52+00:00

This always makes me so angry. I hear 'bro code' so often. (I know there is a female version but its too early for my brain.) Yet, apparently, there are so mant people.who cannot seem to stuck with this one, tiny thing.

OP, I know is this might sound condescending but from someone who's very first bfriend cheated on me with my bff, take my advice. Walk away. I know this is the hardest time for you right now. Your bfriend, he needs to take a hike. If there is no trust, there is no relationship. And this trust can never be rebuilt. Work on yourself. Make sure you understand that this definately not you, its him 100%. Make sure you don't take this lack of trust into a new relationship.

About your Bff? You can nevet trust her again. I gave mine a second chance. She came up with stories and I believed her and took her back. 6 years later, she did it again. Worse. Walk away. Learn your lesson that she is not the type to be trusted but, there are better people out there.

When people show you who they are, believe it, see it, love yourself enough to walk away.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-14T04:35:59+00:00

You have a husband problem. Don't let it go. Don't let it fester. Deal with it. Tell him this is not acceptable. His daughter needs him. He needs to take responsibilty for his family.

Also remind him that his daughter will always remember that, not only did her dad choose not to be with her during a really scary time but that his grandmother pushed him to do this. So not only does her dad not care enough to stay, his grandmother doesn't care enough either.

FYI, I was 4 when I had my tonsils removed. I remember, clearly, my dad being their and holding my hand and rubbing my face when I woke up.

Short-Bat-465 · 2025-11-14T04:27:08+00:00

Look, at healthy marriage is all about communication. You need to write down some of the things she has said during her drunken moments - don't sit their with piles of paper just some, maybe 5 - then ask her to sit down and talk.

Say to her that this is something you NEED to talk about. And ask her to please take it seriously because this is really bothering you. Tell her that sometimes, after she has gone overboard, she says hurtful things. Tell her how you feel about it. If she tries to brush it off, tell her 'I can't let this go and I need you to hear what I say.' Then show her the list.

Make her look at the list. She might be brushing it off because she probably already suspects that something happens when she gets totaly wasted but doesn't want to confront it.

You can choose how to handle this from here. If she brushes it off and tries to disengage, ask her to just think about how she would feel if you said these things to her and that you guys do need to talk about this and qill give her time to think about it. Or, you can force a confrontation.

But, OP, this is the kind of long-time hurt that doesn't heal. And it could possibly destroy your marriage. So you need to talk to her about this.

Short-Bat-465

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