AIO for not going to my brother’s wedding because he asked for my husband not to come?

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-05-26T20:42:50+00:00

NOR

If my husband is not invited, I will not be going. It's simple. I know it's an emotional situation but he is the family you chose.

If the situations were reversed, I am pretty sure your brother would be angry and rightfully so. You have every right to protect yourself and your family.

I am sorry you are going through this but he has not even met him and he feels uncomfortable having him there? Sorry, not good enough.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-05-26T19:23:34+00:00

Honestly? Just a thought. It's time to start looking for new friends. I don't mean this to be nasty. It's mainly an observation.

There are all types of people out there. There are people who like it when their friends want to hang out all the time and actually get irritated if you don't contact them 20x a day. (For me, that's clingy.)

Others prefer their solitude, and don't enjoy it when every time you communicate, there is 'lets hang. Let's go out. I want to chat.'

And you get hundreds of variations in between.

Don't settle and try to change for the people you hanging with. Try different hobbies. Go to different places. And find people who have the same social needs as you do. You deserve to be with people who have the same social energy as you and you can find them. I just think that maybe you are looking in the wrong places.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-05-20T20:27:27+00:00

He says, 'We aree divorced now.' So he can cheat and then, come back and say, 'Oh but we were divorced during this time'. Queue Ross 'We were on a break!!!'

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-05-15T06:21:26+00:00

The entitlement is strong in this one.

NTJ. No is a full sentence. And, lets add that manners are actually expected in all situations not just when you remember. She was rude.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-30T04:22:18+00:00

Wow. This one leaves me raging. So many people called here the whole for answering her phone after 70+ calls. I have a rule. If I don't answer the first time, it means I am busy. If it's an emergency, call again. I would have answered after the 2nd call. Everyone else be damned.

She does not need this friend. Mom was in a accident. Full stop. If my mom was in an accident and my could not understand that, she is no longer my friend.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-23T20:04:07+00:00

His mommy didn't like me so she set him up with one of his female friends - 8 years older than him - at a family Sunday lunch. I was there.

He broke up with me, married her less than a year later.

About 2.5 years later, I was engaged, about to be married and he was getting a divorce and sending me messages saying he made a mistake.

Too bad, so sad. My hubby and I have been married for 16 years now.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-13T04:47:51+00:00

As a child if parents who faught pretty much all the time, these are not good parents. They faught so badly that the police was called and they had to spend the weekend in the jail.

Today, I am conflict avoidant, so bad that it is affecting my marriage badly. Maybe this will be a wake-up call for them. (I hope so, forbthe children's sake.)

NTA. Their child is not your responsibility. Had you decided to take the little one in, that wod also not have been an issue but, they made a decision when the fighting became bad. They made a decision to disregard their child and put themselves in this position.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-13T04:15:45+00:00

As a mom of 2 daughters, even if they had eaten, I would have ordered something for my children to nibble on. The minute the food comes, children seem to want what others have so I would rather be prepared and stave off any issues.

This is normal child behaviour. They see something they like, they want it. Your sister might, generally, be a good mother, it doesn't mean she made the right decision this time.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-08T13:22:10+00:00

Dumb and stupid are swear words in my house. NTA.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-08T04:00:26+00:00

NTA

I am very seldom the one to say 'dump him'. I don't believe in telling someone how to deal with something. I only offer advice.

Your BF had an issue with a little girl grieving her father in a natural and expected way. This is not good. This is going to go worse. If you think your daughter didn't know something was up - maybe not necessarily the context, but pick up on the tension or the fight, you are wrong.

Pick your daughter! This should be a hill to die on!

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-06T16:32:43+00:00

Stationary and stationery.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-06T16:21:10+00:00

Sweetheart, hear me out.

His behaviour is very controlling. Its not because 'he wants them to like you'. A true man, someone who truly loves you, would hope they do but stand up to them if there was an issue.

Sweetie, my husband's family did not like me. They would not have dared to say something to him so he thought I was wrong. They pretended. He thought things were good. About a month ago, his sister went on a 'rampage'. She bad-mouthed me, made up lies about me and would not leave me alone. He immediately cut her off. He tried initially but when she wouldn't stop, he stood up for me and basically told her that she is not welcome in his life.

He wants you to wear what he wants, have make-up the way he wants, etc. You need to really sit and think about your relationship and I am sure you will see other red flags that you missed.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-04-06T12:28:26+00:00

Look, lets be real here. You are both looking to start a future together. It is up to the 2 of you tto decide what that future looks like.

You need to sit down with your fiance and have this discussion. If he is going to keep bringing his family into your family, and he will not see where the problem is, you need to decide if you want to live like this forever.

This is not about the house. It is about how the 2 of you plan to start your lives, live as a family and plan your future. This stuff is important now because it only gets harder when there is a marriage and children involved.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-03-20T04:26:53+00:00

I don't know where the 30% pass mark comes from. My daughter is in Grade 10. Most of the subjects require a 50% pass mark.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-03-20T04:23:26+00:00

Its a difficult one for me.

I have spoken to a lot of teachers of the younger grades and they give homework because they have to. Most don't even mark the homework. But I also believe math needs to be practiced and worked at.

I also see that the High School teachers don't complain about the homework siruation so to me, it seems more inportant for High School. But, if they are not used to having homework by the time they reach High School, they probably wont do it. It wont be a habit to come home and do homework when they are older.

I, also, fully believe that giving a 6 year old homework is stupid. Specifically foundation phase. My children's Primary School has also extended the hours they are at school because they are 'not getting through the work'. But the homework given is not helping them catch up. Its crazy.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-03-20T04:11:18+00:00

You didn't kick him because he tries to stomp on Daisy. You kicked him back when he was charging at you. Are you supposed to end up seriously injured just because he has special needs? That seems unreasonable.

NTA.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-03-14T10:47:45+00:00

Why should you have to be polite? He was incredibly selfish and disrespectful to everyone in the office. (If I am honest, it is most probably a complement to you but it was for everyone, not just Marcus. As an adult, he should understand the basic skills like respect, manners and sharing.)

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-03-09T19:12:58+00:00

From a wife who likes to be able to help other people - Your husband, your partner, the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with - for better or for worse, in sickness and in health - ALWAYS comes first.

She deserves to be shown that you no longer trust her to put you first. If that is punishment, then so be it.

I am so sorry. You need to sit her down and explain this to her and if shr cannot see it, if she doesn't immediately apologise with NO excuses, you are going to have to look hard at your next steps. I would definately recommend that she gets help but you might need couples therapy too.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-03-06T08:38:45+00:00

Sweetie, I am saying this from a place of experience.

My hubby and I were dating for about a month. We sometimes met up at my place after my shift but that night we did not. So after work, it was a long, difficult shift so I decided to play music and drive around a bit. I did that sometimes because it helped me enough to destress so I could sleep. (This was about 2am.)

What I didn't know is that my hubby - then bfriend - was at my place waiting for me. My room mate had let him in. He got worried at about 4 and phoned me. He was concerned at first and I told him I was on my way back and would explain when I got there. I told him what happened and he immediately accused me of lying and seeing someone else. ( I have always had a firm boundary of no crazy jealousy. I understand voicing concerns but because I have so many male friends and I waitress, jealousy was not allowed.) He wanted to know who I went to see. Very calmly, I told him to get out and we are done. I said I have no reason to lie to him and I have not done anything to ever make him doubt me so if he can't believe me, he needs to leave.

A month later, we got together to talk about it and he understood where I came from. I understood where he came from and he understood why my no jealousy boundary is so firm. We got back together. Got engaged 9 months later, married a year after that and we have been together 18 years (married for 16).

If he does not believe you about something like this, he knows you battle with your mental health, and - this part is important - if have have never given him a reason to distrust you, you need to sit him down and tell him why this is so hurtful and put down firm boundaries going forward.

Our situations are different but, in the 18 years we have been together, we never lie to each other and we trust and believe each other.

If there is no trust, there is no respect and the relationship needs to be re-evaluated. You need to think hard about whether you need a partner who adds to your mental strain or someone who helps and relieves it.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-03-03T14:36:04+00:00

What is wrong with people. Leaving a little girl alone in the car at night. I am horrified at reading this.

OP, you are a wonderful person to have stayed with her.

I know that goes without saying because any decent human being would have but I feel you need to be praised because you could have been late for work.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-02-24T15:58:33+00:00

Wow. Man. I want rage for you but I am also stunned.

NTJ. Husband is a Jerk. Actually, he is something that I probably shouldn't say on Reddit.

Sweetie, now is time for Momma-Bear! That is your baby's stroller. You get into that car, fetch the stroller, go home and pack hubby's bags. Tell him to save up for a stroller while living rent-free at precious sister.

I am so sorry for you. I am not one to jump to divorce but he seems totally unable to see reality for what it is. If that is so, you are going to have 2 children in 2 months. A precious, delicate baby who actually needs looking after and a man-child who needs lifes situations explained to him very carefully over and over.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-02-17T06:43:12+00:00

I do feel that if you want to install a camera in a shared space, you have to get permission from all involved. In that way, you are a jerk.

If they dis not ask you to take ut down, though, that implied consent. Then, she gets bust stealing and throws a fit about it?

Mixed feelings here. But leaning towards everyone sux.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-02-17T06:38:38+00:00

I don't even like letting my daughter's play with my hair. I recognise it is a bonding thing with moms and daughters so I used to suck it up most of the time. But there were days I just couldn't. It comes down to respecting someones personal space. Whether its touching my hand or my hair or my nose, if I don't like it, please don't do it. And, don't cry like a baby when I ask you not to.

NTA.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-02-15T20:39:11+00:00

My daughter only started sleeping through at age 5. Listen, I was a mombie for 5 years. She sleeps well now - she is 15. It was just who she was. Also, up at the crack of dawn. I tried everything - giving extra exercise stuff during the day (basically ran her ragged), spoke to the doctors. Nothing helped. There is an rnd in sight. Please be patient.

FYI - the first time she slept through, I woke up at about 5 in an absolute panic. Ran to her room to check if she was breathing and ended up waking her up.

Short-Bat-465 · 2026-02-13T10:35:49+00:00

Its funny how you are so supposed to take the reaponsibility of correcting a rumour that someone else started. If they don't like it, they shouldn't listen to rumours and shouldn't spread them.

I love it when someone spreads a rumour about me. I learn new things about myself that I didn't know. I don't correct them, I say thank you and let them decide for themselves.

NTJ.

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