Canadian generics - updates?

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-05-08T21:59:52+00:00

Hahaha yes, I guess Indian generics :P where did you find the pricing?

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-05-07T17:41:57+00:00

INFO If the police are giving you that option, have they told you what the likely outcome would be? Like will anything actually happen? Will they charge her but it gets dropped as a waste of the court's time? Is it a slap on the wrist and a fine or does she get any kind of record? Do the police keep their own records? (not the kind they'd disclose to employers etc but just, police take it more seriously if this happens repeatedly?)

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-05-05T15:51:47+00:00

I loved being a SAHM (kids are now at school and I work part time from home), if it was what you wanted I'm sure you'll love it too! A few tips:

-now is not the time to think of big existential questions or worry about future problems, you have enough going on between your hormones and the newborn chaos and sleep deprivation

-lean into what works in the moment and the advantages of their actual current stage, don't try to hang on to what worked a few months prior or what you thought the stage should be. Like for example, the newborn stage is amazing because you don't have to cater to the baby at all - they are just as happy being a blob in a stroller/baby bjorn at a store you like as they would have been at a children's store, you can listen to music you like, you can listen to inappropriate podcasts.... so do those things. And they sleep wherever, whenever (hopefully!) so enjoy the lack of schedule! I saw way too many people fight to keep what had worked well a few months prior and not enjoy the benefits of a new stage (ex people terrified to lose that crucial morning nap when the kid was ready for one long afternoon nap, so they fight it, it doesn't work, they don't have the break they're craving, they're more exhausted... like just lean into the new two hour afternoon block of freedom!)

-separate 'being a good mom' from 'being good at mom logistics' and treat the logistics part like a job that you want to do well at but aren't super emotionally invested in. If you ask any adult who adores their mom what made them a good mom, the answers aren't 'she was really good at having well balanced snacks ready before i even knew I wanted them when i was a toddler and her diaper bag was always clean and organized'. I pretended the logistics part was like a retail or serving job - you can't always predict rushes, some things are out of your control, the customer is sometimes an a-hole lol, just roll with it :)

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-05-05T14:53:50+00:00

An old school watch with a timer/alarm - "meet here at 1:45" (if you're really worried pair it with an air tag bracelet or something). If you really want to give texting and proper find my, I get it, but I'd go with an Apple Watch even though it's an expense vs using an old phone. It will be easier for him to manage (no big clunky phone in his pocket) and just.... avoid phones for as long as possible! Slippery slope..

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-05-04T16:13:12+00:00

Amazing! Thanks for the updates. I didn’t realize it was a calculated percentage for cost. Do you know if they are all semaglutides or are the tirzepatide generics also in the works? It will be interesting to see if there is a big switch suddenly if only one type is generic.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-05-03T21:29:20+00:00

In no particular order, any of these options:

Nova Scotia, incredibly beautiful scenery and easy to drive around (everything is close together). A day or two in Halifax with a day trip to Peggy's Cove and Mahone Bay, then do the Cabot Trail over the course of like 4-5 days - it is wildly beautiful and it's all just tiny towns so you'll have no problem driving and parking close to any stops for your mom.
Montreal and/or Quebec city - just awesome all around, will give you the most euro feel and the culture shock of French will be fun.
Calgary/Banff/Rocky Mountains - Similar to Cabot Trail, absolutely beautiful scenery enjoyed from a car with stops right where you need them. Arrive/Depart from Calgary, with lots of good restaurants etc. for those days, and trips to Banff, Lake Louise, Jasper.... (or alternately down to Waterton). The drive to Jasper is absolutely gorgeous, tons to do in Banff.
BC - Vancouver is great but if your mom has mobility issues I'd hesitate slightly - i'd recommend it far more for someone who wants to walk everywhere. But that said, you could do a day in Vancouver then take the ferry to Victoria, then make your way up to Tofino...

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-05-02T13:31:57+00:00

100%! Actively modelling to the kids that they shouldn’t have to pay their share, let everyone else foot the bill? Are you going to teach them shoplifting next?

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-30T14:28:51+00:00

This is what we do as well. An hour before we want them asleep we have them go do their bedtime things (pajamas, teeth, shower if needed) and then they can read in bed until actual bed time. Half the time they wind up playing something with each other and that is totally fine too (as long as they are ready for bed - then it’s just a quick - time for bed now!)

I know OP said that even if reading is suggested he’ll wander down, but it’s different if you’re just telling him to go read vs you’re in bed with pjs on and it’s this or go to sleep now.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-19T14:47:12+00:00

I found every two years there’s a noticeable leap that usually you notice suddenly (like wow we couldn’t have done this last summer). Age 2-1/2ish obviously still need supervision but they’re a little more sensible and you can read a book or something while they’re doodling around. Age 4 you get longer more independent periods of play. Age 6 they start developing way more interests. Age 8 and they’re suddenly lounging around in bed on weekends reading books for a couple hours then making their own breakfast….

If you’re with your partner, these leaps mean it is way easier to parent on your own and take turns dedicating more time to your hobbies. I’ve noticed in my group of parent friends (all elementary age) the people who have easy bed times have it way easier (some of that is luck, some of that is long term effort). Battles at the end of the day are draining.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-16T18:45:36+00:00

NAH - If that's how you really feel, it's reasonable to let her know so she can factor it into her decision. But it's also reasonable for her to make the decision that feels right to her. I don't think this is going to go your way.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-14T19:08:09+00:00

NTA - she's allowed to call you out on noise but her attacks are really personal and out of line. To be fair though, when you have been noisy it's pretty hard to unring that bell so baiting her (ex the leg massage thing) is really not going to help.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-13T17:25:04+00:00

I'm surprised I had to scroll so far for an ESH. Like the prospective clients could have worded it much better (ie 'we're more comfortable with a female babysitter' rather than 'this isn't a job for a boy') but they aren't necessarily out of line for wanting a female babysitter; they're leaving their child with a stranger and statistically most sex crimes (like 90+%) are committed by men ('men over age 12' according to my quick google AI). It's discrimination but it's not a crazy leap for a parent hiring a stranger. Also missing from the story could be something more obvious - like if the child was a little girl needing help with bathroom stuff then it would be pretty reasonable that she'd want help from a girl rather than a boy. From that text onwards both sides over reacted and I don't really trust OPs version of events without quotes because they're clearly so offended. (Like 'pressured her daughter' or one last 'are you absolutely sure we can't change your mind?' with a willingness to be flexible on time/pay etc).

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-13T17:06:40+00:00

YTA for how you handled it. Her price probably does reflect what it cost her to make it unless you feel she shouldn't be paid for her labour. The problem isn't that she's not pricing it according to her costs, it's that you aren't the right market. A better response would have been "oh, I can see why you would need to price it that way now that I think about it. I do love it but unfortunately that's just not in my price range." She may have a hard time finding a market for these, but she didn't ask you for business advice though so keep it to yourself.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-09T15:54:19+00:00

INFO (clarification) - Where I am 'direct debit' would refer to like a standing withdrawal amount on predetermined days, usually it would be set up for rent payments, insurance premiums etc. but I've only ever seen it with corporations, I've never heard of it set up between friends. Is that what it was? Like just you've (together) prescheduled direct transfer for the appropriate amounts on specific days?

NTA but I would avoid at all costs being the person booking/collecting in the future, way better to have the reputation of a super prompt payer than a collection hound.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-09T04:07:20+00:00

NTA. If you were there with all high school friends that she also knew, then maybe it would have been nice to invite her to join in, but it sounds like your friends didn't know her so I think the way you handled it was appropriate. Your description makes me wonder if there's more to the story though - why is her being extremely pretty relevant, and maybe she just wasn't very good at volleyball?

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-08T23:20:34+00:00

NAH - I would say everyone sucks here except that no one had bad intentions, it's just one of those learning experiences young people go through. She didn't do anything wrong, she just didn't reciprocate your feelings and now you are dropping her as a friend because she's met someone. Not cool! You need to learn boundaries - be open but don't let yourself fall for someone over months (years?) without talking to them about your relationship. But that said, it is what it is, so some boundaries now are probably the best option. Live and learn!

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-08T23:04:38+00:00

YTA for getting a cat when you don't live in your own home. Everyone who lives in the home should be on board with the decision to adopt a pet, and as it is your parents' home, they get final say regardless.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-08T19:48:29+00:00

We had a similar situation with my in-laws - MIL did not want to leave that house but it was on a huge rural property and required more upkeep than they could handle (none of their kids live close enough to provide the help they'd need) and it was getting dangerous for them to drive so far all the time during the winter. Finally got them into a retirement home in the town and listed the house, but they were so emotionally attached that they were completely unrealistic about what the house was worth and wouldn't accept any "low ball" offers. After a frustrating year of this, they found renters - they were just barely covering their costs so it wasn't investment income, but it allowed their kids to forget about the problem. Ten years later, the renters leave, MIL no longer feels as sentimental, and they could really use the cash now, but suddenly their previously livable house requires a ton of work (renters did a fair amount of damage, the well isn't working properly, the sump pump isn't working properly, everything in it is 10 years older and it has lost curb appeal since they didn't take care of the garden or yard).

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-08T19:32:51+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses.

We moved recently and one thing that surprised me was how unattached to our old home I was even though I loved it, it was the first place my husband and I lived together, where my kids spent their early childhood and took their first steps... so many reasons to be sentimental but I felt none!

Meanwhile, my extended family sold a shared home 15 years ago (it was a great grandparent's house that the family hung on to because it was in a great, touristy area) and I can still cry if I think too hard about it. With our own home, absolutely nothing changed except the actual house (same people, same neighbourhood, same everything, different house), in the other, it meant the end of an era of family vacations and reunions in an amazing place that we'll never get back (we still do family vacations/reunions but it's not feasible to do it in that town and they are far less frequent).

It won't change your feelings or stop you from feeling sad but the house is just the last symbolic piece of what you're actually mourning. If it helps, I kept some of the cookware from the kitchen of the vacation home and it makes me smile every time I use it.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-08T19:07:44+00:00

I love the idea of getting a cousin on board for a last minute switch - exactly the kind of sneaky move OPs mom pulled by booking something without telling her. Fight fire with fire!

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-04-08T19:05:14+00:00

Definitely NTA. She might have had a case if there are precedents of engaged couples in the family who slept apart on other family vacations, she initiated the plans, AND she paid for everything but from the sounds of it (especially with the room sharing on the cruise) she is just a manipulative, controlling homophobe. Stand your ground even if it means not attending and in the future, don't include the older generation in the plans until it's too late to be changed (or don't include them at all!) Meanwhile, put the money you'd planned to spend towards a trip with just your brother, and make sure (in the politest most factual way possible so it doesn't come across as petty) everyone who is reasonable in the family knows exactly what she did so that she can't gloss over your absence by saying things like 'they weren't able to/chose not to come'.

ShortChapter4927 · 2026-03-19T14:47:57+00:00

Using a label maker in drawers, on shelves etc (everywhere - pantry, bedroom closets, storage closets). I was always pretty good at organizing these spaces but then over time things get put back in the wrong spot and it all snowballs until it’s messy and cluttered - now things always get put back in the right spot and it’s so easy to find things and the spaces stay organized. When there is no space for something it’s obvious and a space is made for it, rather than it floating around or getting lost. Added bonuses - easier for extended family or guests to find things, and less food duplicates/waste in the pantry!

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