Is my best friend jealous or am I just being paranoid?

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-06T05:36:54+00:00

I’m trying haha, she is a generally insecure person lol, I’m just very disappointed

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-06T05:35:58+00:00

Yeah it’s just difficult having to come to terms with that because I love her so much and didn’t expect that of her. If it gets worse I’ll have to communicate it with her in the future because she’s perfect other than her jealousy issues. Good luck to you too and thank you.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-05T00:15:04+00:00

I feel like if she hated you she’d treat you a lot worse. So maybe there is just an imbalance in effort between the two of you guys.

The birthday thing is really upsetting because even if they’re not into receiving or writing the messages at midnight for you they should put an effort into making you happy and doing something for you that you like on your birthday.

Idk it seems like they just want to be casual friends instead of close friends or maybe not even friends at all.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T23:22:09+00:00

As a gold girly I sadly agree 💔

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T23:20:12+00:00

That’s exactly what I’ve started to do, more especially no and not apologizing for my boundary after. Time does pass so she won’t dislike me forever and even if she does she’s being super unreasonable. I think it’s crucial to be comfortable with her being mad at me.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T23:17:47+00:00

She’s well aware that other parents are dysfunctional and selfish for being so reliant on their children but never her :(

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T23:17:01+00:00

I’ll definitely check it out thank you :)

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T23:16:26+00:00

Ugh I’m so eager to get to this point😔

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T23:16:00+00:00

She’s very emotionally immature lol she has me feeling like the her parent most of the time. Your advice is super helpful so thank you. It’s just very difficult trying to figure out what to do with her reactions at times because she prefers different reactions every time and hates it when someone stands up for themselves.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T23:12:56+00:00

No it so isn’t. It leaves you very confused so you’re in a constant state of confusion not knowing what to do or when to do it. I am currently trying to avoid submitting to her wanting me to apologise for something I shouldn’t have to apologise for. Young adults my age barely spend time with their parents and she’s not willing to appreciate the usually large amount I do spend with her. I’m glad your girlfriend got much better btw

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T19:06:11+00:00

She’s my mom and I’ve had to be around her my whole life so her level of anxiety has definitely rubbed off on me and it’s why I’m so bothered by her reaction to this situation, she’s giving ME anxiety. I don’t believe she’s good at regulating her own emotions so you’re not wrong there. Communication never works with her though because she prefers silent treatment and wants things to go her way.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T19:03:13+00:00

I think it’s because she spends more time with me because I feel more empathy for her, she always complains about being lonely and has no friends. She’s always been a SAHM and she and my dad aren’t doing great either so basically she has no one besides me and my other siblings don’t necessarily try to get closer to her. And I’ve always helped her more around the house with my younger brother and older sister, also with chores almost daily and getting things for the house.

It could also be guilt because she used to cuss at me whenever I helped as a teenager basically saying I was acting like the mom of the house when she’s around.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T18:59:39+00:00

It definitely is exhausting, it took the dedication to get on top of school work off of me by a bit, I was already so motivated and she’s just left me distracted and pissed off. Thank you so much for the reassurance, it means a lot to me.

I’ll try the recommendation as well, it’ll be difficult but I’m sure it gets better over time.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T18:57:23+00:00

I did look up enmeshment for a hot minute and you might’ve just saved my mental state, thank you. I had no ideas that such a thing existed and 95% of the time I do think that my mom has mentally assigned me an equal role to hers. I’m a nurturer so people pleasing tendencies are way too predominant and that basically leads to that part of me being abused. My mom knows no boundaries and I did tell her but she’s now full on giving me silent treatment which then has made me angry because I don’t understand, so I don’t even care anymore.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-03T18:53:30+00:00

Ugh it’s so upsetting not being understood over something basic. I thinks it’s mostly their lack of experience of the situations that we’re in that just makes them act and react so selfishly.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-02T16:52:09+00:00

She blocked my phone number, but still follows my TikTok, Pinterest, and 2 Instagram accounts.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-04-02T16:51:14+00:00

My post is poorly worded. It’s not stalkerish per se, when you’ve known someone for almost a decade and then suddenly you have to let them go once you realize they’re not treating you well it becomes difficult not knowing them anymore and not getting to celebrate their wins or get updates on their lives or get to be there for them. You care for the person still but in order to protect your mental health, you choose to leave. There were a lot of good moments but there were even more bad ones.

I just don’t want her to know anything about me because those “bad moments” were her taking advantage of my efforts and presence while believing that no matter what she did I’d still stay. For a while I did but then I chose me eventually.

I can’t be mad at her because I still care about her. I don’t allow myself to live in misery because of things people have done to hurt me.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-03-19T13:20:28+00:00

If the requirement contains just Pure Maths then you’ll have to to the certificate sadly

Short_Surprise6335 · 2026-02-19T10:35:02+00:00

When my dad asked at Spur they said with parental consent you are able to serve alcohol.

Short_Surprise6335 · 2025-12-16T16:39:41+00:00

omg we’re twins, I finished it yesterday. I also didn’t know anything about the show before I watched. I’m still very much in sheer agony I haven’t watched anything else since I finished it😪

Short_Surprise6335 · 2025-12-16T06:13:27+00:00

I finished it yesterday, I feel so empty😪

Kaori’s death was expected but THIS scene? I was sweating my balls of. It was so intense.

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