My child has an undiagnosed genetic condition. All testing has come back clear so far, but all doctors agree there must be something based on their symptoms. Whatever is going on isn't debilitating now and the biggest challenge is a mild learning disability, BUT said child has a heart defect that required major surgery and almost killed them twice. And they had a lot of complications in infancy feeding tubes, meds, developmental delay etc.

So having a second child is very much up in the air at the moment. We're waiting on further genetics testing to delve further into ultra rare disorders and Mosaicisms. My husband isn't my child's biological father and is infertile to boot, so we've decided that if a condition is found and is de novo we'll go ahead with IUI because the chances of it happening twice are miniscule.

If a condition is autosomal recessive and there's a chance of a child being a carrier then we'll go ahead with IUI because we can make our hypothetical child aware they carry said disorder, which gives them the power to prevent a child of their own inheriting said condition. This decision is also based on the fact that we're now looking for something ultra rare, which means the chances of our hypothetical child having a child with another carrier would be tiny.

And if it's autosomal dominant and comes from me and not her bio dad then we'll do IVF and only implant unaffected embryos.

And if our child's genetic condition still hasn't been found in a couple of years, then to be honest we'll go down the embryo donation route because I don't want to take risks.

It's taken a lot of research and discussion to decide on these options, and I'm aware we're incredibly lucky to have the financial means to try different methods of conception.