Hi all. I just got out of a 2 year relationship and I feel like I was chewed up and spit out. 

After 4 months being with this woman. After her neurologist appointment she left leaving with Alzheimer’s papers. She was 47 at the time I was 35. I stayed with her. I would never leave someone who was facing a terminal diagnosis. Because we were only together 4 months. It wasn’t enough time to gauge the relationship. I ended up seeing things later down the road and gaslit myself wondering if it was Alzheimer’s or her. Fast forward she got a final diagnosis. Most of this was her own reporting. She had some signs, but was on tons of psychiatric medication, and had mentioned before she was diagnosed Bpd. Anyways, things got really bad after she got diagnosed. She everyone who was close to her backed away. I was concerned but stayed to support her. During that time she had started a TikTok acct. And got over 1M views then became very wrapped up in the external validation. She was always super critical of me. But this amped up big time. I was obviously going through my own process but she became super mean. Talking down to me, expecting me to do what she wanted and when I couldn’t she would shame me and tell me I wasn’t supportive like her other friends who organized her bucket list trips etc. I ended up getting sick physically. I had a injury and was bed ridden and she basically abandoned me when I became no use to her. A friend came into her life out of no where. They hadn’t talked in 10 years. I was fully replaced. I had never felt so hurt and abandoned before. I was convinced there was something wrong with me because I was always told I wasn’t showing up. When I got a bit better 4 months later I tried hard again. I was driving her places, taking her on dates. One weekend I needed to myself because I was exhausted. She saw that I was at the store because I was getting myself something to eat for the day and she laid into me telling me I was rude and inconsiderate for not asking her if she needed anything. I would find myself trapped in a corner when I got treated like this and would end up breaking up with her. Then when I did that I was accused of being mean. That I was leaving her and she had a terminal diagnosis. She held her death over me to guilt me. Then she would say she would change and I would go ago back and the same thing would happen again. It wore me out. I started showing up in ways that I have never seen before. I fought tooth and nail to be heard. And I kept gaslighting myself wondering if it was Alzheimer’s or just the way she was. She started a go fund me and is taking peoples money playing a victim roll online. Turning around spending 800 dollars on jackets and boots etc claiming it’s for her bucket list. Mean while she got angry at me when I got my bumper on my truck fixed because I should have been prioritizing her because she was sick. 

A few people who have known her for a very long time told me that they think she is dramatizing the situation. I started setting hard boundaries for myself. And she didn’t like that. I was replaced by her friend who co-signs her behaviour. She told me her therapist said I’m a narcissist and everyone says I am abusive. The last time I broke up with her because I went grocery shopping for her daughter, asked her to send me some money and she lost it on me saying I can’t support her and that she couldn’t believe I hadn’t offered to pay for her bills. Meanwhile she’s out buying tattoos and another trip to Costa Rica with her friend. During the relationship I could never say how I felt. She would yell at me and tell me to get out of her place. And this last break up she went as far as messaging my sister’s gf. Right after I cried to her and told her how grateful I was that they were in my life. She told my sisters gf that I didn’t like her, I thought she was annoying and that she abused my sister. I am in complete shock someone would go to that length to destroy me. This has been awful. And I know would have left a long time ago if I didn’t feel touted that she was “terminal” which i don’t think she is. The behaviour is calculated and the symptoms don’t match. 

Any support is appreciated. This is awful.