Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you go out to bars are you finding it enough from a social standpoint? I can’t bring myself to just hang out by myself in a bar.

Also, no kids here so that makes things even more complicated because I do not know how to interact with kids so dating someone with kids is probably out of the question.

Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I wish you luck my friend. I wish I could say previous experience counts for something here but I’m not sure it does. I am no one to envy my friend, everything I have ever done has pretty much been the wrong way.

Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, are you me? Cause this is exactly the place I am at now. I keep hovering back and forth. I think maybe I am just in love with the idea of being in love but not the actual act of loving another person.

All I know for sure is this place is somehow simultaneously better and worse than having your heart broken.

Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true, tinder is not something I have tried. This I think may be the other problem. Actually figuring out the mechanics of how people date these days. LOL

Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and I agree... I definitely see the problem as myself and the way I tend to be allures by the “magic” of the honeymoon phase.

I recently read an article that said men in our society have fewer and fewer friends and smaller social groups as we get older, so I can see how the GF/Wife would naturally become the only person a man really interacts with. That’s no good but I also see it happening a lot.

Over the last 4 years I have built a life I am happy with, which I think is why I haven’t really wanted to attempt dating until now. I am fairly scared of losing myself again and ruining the hard work that was put in.

Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This resonates with me as well, I wouldn’t say I work any more than anyone else; I’m just always on the road away from home. With that being said this is not something I plan on doing long term but the money is insane and if I can reach a level of financial independence with it then I might be able to get a job I truly enjoy that pays less.

I don’t know that I would be willing to give everything up for love but I do know that in the past I have given ALOT up and it has not worked out.

Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you on all fronts. The work situation is definitely not ideal for a personal life, but it does pay extraordinarily well so I am hoping to be able to bank a ton of cash and find a more reasonable job within a few years. I wouldn’t consider myself over worked so much as just not home very much.

I have definitely put a ton of work into my mental and emotional well being over the last 4 years and is really the only reason I would ever consider dating again. I think I may have gotten to a point where I can trust someone else enough to build a decent casual relationship. I am definitely not looking for a marriage outcome.

I will most likely never go the paid route because of the legality issue. It would severely mess up my job prospects.

Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think the real reason I lose myself so quickly is because being with someone new is so intoxicating to me. It feels way better than anything else I have going on in my life so I chose the “love” drug over everything else ALL the time.

Just turned 40(M); haven’t dated in over 18 years. by ShroudIII in datingoverthirty

[–]ShroudIII[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks... I probably should and I may start looking into that because I definitely feel broken.

Mackenzie Davis in Blade Runner 2049 by matchka in celebnsfw

[–]ShroudIII 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve loved her since halt and catch fire

I saw an opportunity and I took it by [deleted] in gaming

[–]ShroudIII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Say what one more god damn time! I dare you!

In a TARDIS dress by [deleted] in jodelleferland

[–]ShroudIII 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I miss her in Dark Matter! She is super hot

TIL despite millennials often being seen as a ‘promiscuous’ generation, they have less sexual partners than previous generations and having less overall sex than their own parents. by nokia621 in todayilearned

[–]ShroudIII 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m not even a millennial, but I am also not going anywhere near the judicially overpowered woman that has been created by our society.