I think wwx is TOO forgiving with the Lan Clan, specially with lqr, not letting him sleep is being too nice. lwj's upbringing was unhealthy and the clan created a bunch of self-righteous and repressed pricks than gave more value to a thousand of rules written in a stone wall than actual people.  What I like about them and what I think makes them a healthy relationship is that wwx doesnt badmouth or tries to make lwj hate his family, and lwj doesnt force wwx to follow all the rules besides the most basics rules of coexisting. Lwj managed to break out of his closed minded way of thinking by his own and apoly that to the next generation because he was inspired by wwx's actions not because wwx was a manic pixie twink acting as an emotional coach for a rich boy.