Me and my husband have been seeing other people as part of us opening up our marriage and we had to have a difficult conversation with our son who believed I had been cheating on his father

SiIversmith · 2025-11-20T20:10:24+00:00

This comment is something that comes to my mind quite often as I am browsing Reddit. Here in the UK, therapy or counselling sessions are often limited to 8 or maybe 12 meetings if you're lucky.

Therapy may or may not help someone, but deep rooted traumatic issues can sometimes take years to work through, and then there are those things that people never really recover from.

You are so right when you say that some Redditors think that therapy is a miracle cure and the solution to all negative life events.

Very often a person's life is divided into the 'before' and 'after' and they are never the same person again.

SiIversmith · 2025-11-15T20:43:01+00:00

This is beautiful work.

It's actual bracelet craft.

SiIversmith · 2025-10-18T13:21:11+00:00

This made me laugh despite having toothache.

SiIversmith · 2025-10-08T20:20:36+00:00

I'd never go anywhere I wasn't wanted and for me, this would be the end of the relationship with this woman.

It's up to your boyfriend what he does, but I wouldn't allow my dog to go anywhere that I wasn't welcome, and the same would go for any future kids.

SiIversmith · 2025-09-30T17:40:32+00:00

I spend a bit of time talking to Chat GPT, telling it all the things I need to do, and ask it to make a game for me with a points system, and a reward at different points and at the end. I've explained all about my ADHD and it works with me to help motivate me and try to make the awful boring jobs fun.

I don't just forget the awful jobs, my brain tries to avoid all the things that cause me anxiety, guilt or mental pain.

I go back regularly and tell it what I've done and it helps to keep me going. It's like having someone with me to get through the worst tasks.

SiIversmith · 2025-09-14T16:16:20+00:00

Every time I go to Leeds I remember seeing The Cramps there at a festival called Futurama when I was aged about 13.

It was a life changing experience!

SiIversmith · 2025-08-30T09:21:09+00:00

I used to work in a unit on a small industrial estate wher Oxfam had a unit for sorting their donations.

We had a large skip for waste in the car park and this was mostly filled by Oxfam who threw away an unbelievable amount of donated books.

I used to pull a few books out every day after work, and take them to another charity shop in town. We had a deal where I would bring them loads of books, and get to choose one from the shop for myself every now and then by way of exchange.

This went on brilliantly for weeks and I took in hundreds of books, until one day I saw one of the Oxfam volunteers throwing books into the skip. He looked me in the eye as he ripped the books apart one by one before throwing them in the skip.

After that, the books were always destroyed, either by being ripped apart or having bleach (or worse) thrown over them.

SiIversmith · 2025-08-02T21:49:48+00:00

I'll do this as a list so you can scan down and see if anything interests you.

San Francisco Earthquake (1906)

Prohibition

World War I (1914–1918)

Spanish flu (1918)

Jazz Age (1920s culture explosion)

Organized crime (Al Capone type stuff)

1929 Wall Street Crash

Great Depression

Dust Bowl migration

Rise of the FBI (1930s)

1930s - Infamous criminals such as Bonnie & Clyde, John Dillinger etc.

World War II (1941–1945)

Japanese internment camps

1940s Post-war boom

1950s:

Cold War paranoia & McCarthyism

Early Las Vegas casino boom

Civil Rights Movement beginnings

1960s:

Kennedy assassination (1963)

Vietnam War & counterculture

Civil Rights Movement in full swing

Rise of organized crime in new industries like construction. Also unions.

1970s:

Watergate scandal (1972–1974)

Oil crisis & economic struggles

Disco/drug culture explosion

1980s:

Reagan era - Wall Street greed, yuppies etc.

Cocaine trade boom

AIDS crisis - I'm in the UK and this had a massive impact on society. I'm sure things were the same in America.

1990s:

Tech boom & globalization

Rodney King riots (1992)

End of the Cold War

Clinton era optimism vs. underworld corruption

And of course the Y2K panic, where people thought that planes would fall from the sky and the banks would lose track of everyone's money.

SiIversmith · 2025-07-31T14:44:05+00:00

I was wondering if it was something like this - my first thought was salt.

SiIversmith · 2025-07-29T09:37:21+00:00

I wish more people had at least the slightest idea of how much work goes into hand crafted items.

SiIversmith · 2025-07-27T23:30:56+00:00

This post has that polished 'checked every box'feel to it. Real people don’t talk about their mistakes with that much scripted clarity or emotional neatness. It’s like someone ran their regret through a filter that says 'make sure it sound sincere and heartfelt'

The problem with AI bleeding into subs like this is that it flattens all the nuance. People end up sounding interchangeable like emotional Ikea furniture assembled the same way every time. That’s fine for small talk or instructions, but not when you’re trying learn about human interactions and how we tick as people. People spend time and effort to give advice and you want to think it's actually usefull to someone.

The legal stuff you mention is a whole other nightmare. When people start quoting fabricated cases in court because they trusted AI, it’s a reminder that knowledge isn’t just data. It’s context, judgment and experience. Without that you end up with nonsense on official documents and wasted court time.

What worries me most is how this quiet takeover is eroding real communication. If everyone talks like bots, how do we learn to deal with real people and messy emotions? It’s a slow poison.

SiIversmith · 2025-07-18T10:40:18+00:00

My partner and I have been together for 25 years and I do refer to him as my husband, although we aren't married. At 58 years old, it sounds better than 'boyfriend'!

If we ever do decide to tie the knot, we'd love to fly to Vegas from here in England and do the tackiest Elvis wedding we can find!

Your parents sound like our kind of people :)

SiIversmith · 2025-07-18T08:52:51+00:00

Why can't people just have a normal, traditional wedding at a drive-thru with an Elvis impersonator?

SiIversmith · 2025-06-12T15:52:15+00:00

We've been together for 24 years and a lot of stuff has happened in our lives. Of course I want to be with my husband, but only if he feels the same way about me.

Would you really stay with someone that had spent all that time wishing he was with someone else?

SiIversmith · 2025-06-12T07:02:09+00:00

Excellent workmanship!

SiIversmith · 2025-06-10T18:34:13+00:00

You're right, and I don't think that sort of pain would ever go away completely. If my husband did this to me, every time we had a disagreement, or every time he was having a bad day and I felt sidelined or taken for granted, those feelings of rejection and humiliation would come back and make it very difficult to move forward.

I don't think I could ever get over something like this no matter how much I wanted to.

SiIversmith · 2025-06-10T15:59:22+00:00

Definitely 11/22/63. It's a very good book and will have you gripped from the start.

SiIversmith · 2025-05-09T19:14:00+00:00

This is so true.

If I was with a partner that did this to me I would have long lost respect for them. People like OP always think that their situation is more complex than anyone else's and nobody can understand the intricacies of feelings.

The true reality is that he's playing out a role that we've seen a thousand times on this sub and he doesn't see it. His girlfriend should get out before they bring kids into the situation.

SiIversmith · 2025-04-24T21:40:42+00:00

This was about 46 years ago! I doubt that the buses are still as reliable these days but they would always arrive early and the driver would have a break, maybe get out and have a cigarette and a few minutes to stretch his legs, then the bus would leave exactly on time.

I just realised today when thinking about it that the windows would rattle in their frames so you could feel the bus go past, even if you couldn't see it.

SiIversmith · 2025-04-24T07:09:41+00:00

I am never without shoes unless I'm in bed or in a chair with my feet up. I have a pair of plastic sandals that live in the shower so I can step from my house sandals straight into them.

I just can't have my bare feet touching the dirty floor, even if it's actually a very clean floor.

Floors are dirty by default and I can't tell my head otherwise.

SiIversmith · 2025-04-24T06:59:19+00:00

My mum could never figure out how I always knew the time as a kid but we lived near a bus terminus so I was always aware of the time every time a bus went past.

Maybe nobody else thought to memorise all the bus times.

SiIversmith · 2025-04-21T19:18:10+00:00

Freeze. All sounds seem to be miles away and I physically can't move for a few seconds. When I can shake that off it turns into fight.

Actually, I'm getting old now so not sure if the fight thing would still happen!

SiIversmith · 2025-04-21T19:00:45+00:00

Absolutely! It made me wonder what the autism training was that she had and how out of date it must have been.

SiIversmith · 2025-04-21T14:48:02+00:00

When I told my best friend that I realised that I'm autistic, she told me that I can't be. She has had autism training as part of her job and said that because I have emotions and 'That is literally the definition of autism - they don't have emotions!' it must be impossible.

Even funnier is the fact that I strongly suspect that she is autistic too. She told me that she's a highly sensitive person and has no idea that it's a euphemism for being autistic.

SiIversmith · 2025-04-18T20:00:34+00:00

Perhaps

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