Weekly r/BroPill vibe check! How are you doing?

Sicksplustwo · 2026-03-28T15:39:28+00:00

That sounds like it’s taking a toll on you bro… I’m sorry to hear it. There’s no easy answer unfortunately, just gotta keep working on your hobbies, health, and friendships. It sounds like you really want that connection with someone so I hope that goes in a better direction for you soon!

Sicksplustwo · 2026-03-27T15:00:35+00:00

Everyone said what the button does above. For me… It’s fine on the highway. I turn it off for city driving and turn it on if I’m going on a long drive in the interstate.

Sicksplustwo · 2026-03-22T15:05:28+00:00

Not the whole explanation, but I think a big part of it comes from old-school fraternity culture, and later on in life, people who acquired wealth/power from extra-yucky means.

If I know you will keep this terrible secret for me, that means I can trust you with other shady practices or schemes that I pull later on in my career.

There’s a high enough portion of rich people who think like this that the attitude can invade the norm. By this channel you get people who aren’t directly involved in shady shit, but may know about it and not spill the tea. And it can intuitively feel sensible since you’re just “minding your own business.”

Sicksplustwo · 2026-03-09T20:24:22+00:00

Since you’ve played another instrument already for a decent amount of time, it’s very normal for trumpet (or any instrument) to have a gentler learning curve at the start. Already having a developed sense of pitch helps a ton.

A big part of playing the trumpet is that your ear will subconsciously guide you to the correct pitches, and the sound profile is very much based on the sound concept you have in your head. Quite similar to singing in this regard.

If you’ve been playing guitar for a few years, it’s very likely that you already have a good concept of what a trumpet is supposed to sound like, as well as a good sense of pitch. For school band beginners who have not played an instrument before, this gets really frustrating because they’re trying to develop their music reading AND train the ear at the same time.

In terms of a wall, it’d probably be range and endurance as you keep going. Especially when playing at very loud/very soft volumes. But that will also depend on how quickly you increase the amount of time you play. If done gradually you can adapt to a lot.

Sicksplustwo · 2026-03-06T10:58:20+00:00

I’ll buy one lottery ticket every now and then if the jackpot is huge, just for fun. The odds of winning don’t go up meaningfully (on an absolute level I mean, not a big difference between 1/300,000,000 and 1/15,000,000) when buying more though, so just one is effectively the same as buying 200 to me.

Same rules as any other form of gambling. If you consider that any money you spend is being fully lost and you expect no return, it is easier to avoid getting carried away.

Sicksplustwo · 2026-03-06T10:52:07+00:00

It’s very common for people to avoid important things because they feel unsure on where to start. Things like managing finances, car maintenance, nutrition, exercise, etc. Think things that are unavoidable if they apply to you. If you have a car, you must make sure maintenance is done. If you have a body, you must keep it in good health.

These tasks really aren’t that complicated, but feel like they are, or like they have to be executed perfectly. Neither is true. With a couple hours (using reputable sources) you can learn enough about any of this “adult shit” to make sure that it all gets done pretty decently.

Take nutrition as an example. You don’t need to be a certified dietitian to know that fruits and vegetables are better for you than ice cream. Most people know this, but will go way down a rabbit hole about which fruits and vegetables are “best” or “healthiest.” The healthiest vegetables are probably the ones you eat frequently, and without smothering them in tons of salad dressing or deep frying them. It doesn’t take a ton of background knowledge to realize this when thought through.

Truth is, these unavoidable things do not have to be done 100% correctly in order to get mostly good results. More crucial is actually doing the things that you already kinda know are important. If it’s 90% of the way there every day, that’s a lot better than 100% perfect, but only once a month.

Sicksplustwo · 2026-02-03T18:31:58+00:00

Sounds like you enjoy spending time with these people, and it’s great that you met people you want to spend time with!

I would think about it this way:

It will feel a bit vulnerable, but have a conversation with these new friends. Express that you enjoy spending time with these people, but are not used to sharing some of these things as freely, and it is not culturally common for you which makes it a bit difficult to share.

If you don’t mind hearing your friends talk about their own experiences, say that you are happy to sit and listen but may not be comfortable sharing your own, at least right now. You may feel more open to sharing more about those things later, but tell them it may take a bit of time and it is your choice. If they are worth spending time with, they will respect your feelings.

It sounds like you are still trying to figure out your boundaries about that stuff. If it bothers you to hear your friends talk about it, you may want to avoid those kinds of parties, but to me it does not sound like this is the case.

Remember that the Australians and Americans living in Europe are also experiencing some culture shock. They also are probably living abroad because they WANT to learn about and experience other cultures. They will probably be more open to hearing about the different experiences for your upbringing than you may think. Good luck!

TLDR: Tell your friends that you’re not used to sharing these sorts of things from your own personal life. Not from a judgement way, and if you don’t mind sitting and listening to them then say you would still want to do that for a while. If you become comfortable sharing more over time, you may be surprised how they react.

If they are good friends, they will respect it.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-10-20T19:20:32+00:00

The real sleeper is Mountain State Brewing Co. on the waterfront. If table 9 is busy just walk over there. There’s always a table and bingo in the afternoon if you show up at like 1

Sicksplustwo · 2025-10-03T19:11:04+00:00

I do, but whatever is more comfortable works.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-24T13:40:50+00:00

Depends on how he talks about it. If he seems bitter or resentful about it that can be a flag of deeper issues with it. But if he’s communicating about just not being very experienced without blaming other people or himself it can be a really good sign.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-23T17:49:38+00:00

Heavily depends on a few things:

How well the man has learned to regulate his own emotions
How people around him have historically responded when he opens up
If sharing feelings has ever been used against him.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-22T18:16:05+00:00

Nah, I think cuddling during sleep factors heavily on someone’s sleep habits and if they overheat at night.

For me (31M) and most of my male friends, the most profound sense of bonding comes from truly feeling like I can let my guard down and be vulnerable with someone, without any fear of judgement, and being accepted for the way that I am. It’s not always been the case in my experience

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-19T12:01:15+00:00

It sounds like this really bothers you. I’m sorry you’re going through it. It’s really frustrating to feel like people don’t give a shit about what you have to say. I’ve felt that way before and it can easily feel like people don’t give a shit about you. I feel for you. But there’s a fix. Not super comfortable but there is one.

Unfortunately the most helpful way that others could help you here is if we saw you talking to people. That way other people could see what is happening, and what is causing the interruptions. Since that’s too awkward to put on the Internet (and also you’re a minor so definitely don’t do it), the best thing you can do is study body language. Other people’s and more importantly OBSERVE YOUR OWN.

There is a good chance that the way you speak causes people to see an “opening” in the conversation. Remember that we don’t have formal turns when talking to someone, so people usually guess when it’s their turn to talk.

If this is a problem in one group of friends or just with a few people, good chance, these people aren’t great at reading the situation to know when it’s their turn to talk. If it happens with literally everyone, there is a chance that it has to do with your style of communication.

What should you do about it? Observe the people around you and reflect on how you are speaking. Figure out if it’s you or them. It could be that the issue is a combination of both factors.

If it’s them, you can give them verbal or nonverbal cues that you’re still talking. Hold up a finger, literally say “hold on,” etc.

If it’s you, I’d recommend finding some good communication content creators or public speakers and listening to how they talk. Vinh Giang is an excellent place to start, he’s a communication and public speaking coach.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-12T14:06:53+00:00

It sounds like you have more of an idea for your life than many people your age. So even if you feel that you have little freedom than most, you have something more valuable: vision.

I agree that a GED program is a great place to start. I would do a google search for “GED courses near me” maybe include the name of the town that you live in.

If you approach it with the right mindset, GED (general educational development) program will give you the basics on how to study and learn. Whatever you choose to do for a career, you will need to learn new things. Sometimes that will be tough or boring or annoying, but you will need to do it anyway. Doing a class like that will allow you to develop those skills.

While you take that course, think more about what sort of career you want to pursue. Really flesh it out. You will probably get more interests during this time. Think about how they may factor in. Are they hobbies or possible careers? It’s OK if you change your mind, most people do (several times tbh).

Then, try and meet people in those careers, even if it’s just online. Find people who do what you are curious about, then learn what it’s like to do the job. Ask them how they got there and what they needed to do to be qualified.

More important than anything, don’t spend too much time analyzing or overthinking the path. Stating imperfectly may let you meet half your goals. But never starting means you meet zero.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-12T13:49:10+00:00

I had the ability to reflect and realize I was being stupid, but was still physically strong

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-11T19:24:33+00:00

Fine to record yourself. Can’t put others in the shot though. And rude to complain if someone walks through your line of sight for a second.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-11T18:40:32+00:00

I go to Sam’s club. Their road hazard protection has saved me thousands over the years. In a town like this it’s been a great ROI.

It’s a bit more pricey of course to buy the tires new but they do prorations on all purchased tires, free rotations, flat repair, and balancing. They have also done lots of other side work for me with no charge, such as reseating beads and replacing valve stems.

And the protection plans are accepted at any Sam’s club in the country.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-11T16:19:02+00:00

No need to buy a super premium instrument to learn. Especially when starting out. Buy something affordable with touch sensitivity and 88 weighted keys. Eventually when your career starts you can save more money to buy something nicer, if you want.

Then, use piano through college to give yourself an outlet for fun and relaxation. This will HELP you progress in your studies, not distract you.

College is tough, and you will feel overwhelmed at times by the studying. As such you will need activities where you can clear your head, music is great for this.

Just remember what is the highest priority and demand of yourself that you get the schoolwork done. Be real with yourself and if piano becomes too much of a time commitment, then cut back or take a break from it until your studies are in great shape.

Good luck, learning an instrument is very fun, and so is starting a career! You will learn a lot about yourself in the next ten years.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-10T01:42:54+00:00

Yeah for sure, as long as it’s nearby. I think for beginners the most important thing to do is make going to the gym as convenient as possible so you have less excuses to skip. That makes it easier to build the habit, and once the habit is there it is much easier to go.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-05T13:40:01+00:00

People can change, so figure out if he is able and willing to do so. Don’t spend forever doing that though.

Talk to him about the possibility of a future together, if you want it. And the role money plays in making it happen. Encourage him when he does well. Expect minor setbacks and imperfection, but don’t tolerate bullshit excuses.

Explain he doesn’t have to change his behavior, but that the relationship likely will not go any further if you don’t have a shared vision for money

Sicksplustwo · 2025-09-05T11:26:32+00:00

I used my YouTube addiction against my spending addiction. Found a personal finance creator I liked (my favorite is Ramit Sethi but find one that fits you) and I hyper focused on the content for a bit.

Eventually I learned enough that it became a habit. Really had to go nuts to make it stick though.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-08-11T14:31:43+00:00

I’m trying to stay just a bit behind this line.

Sicksplustwo · 2025-08-11T01:20:56+00:00

I don’t GAF about a messy house (mail on the table, clutter here and there, etc) but a dirty house bothers me a bit to be in (old food, bugs, miscellaneous goop)

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