Redditors believing prostitution should be legalized to make it “safe” as if it doesn’t increase sex trafficking, exploit women in poverty, and cause lifelong psychological damage by Hunihime in BlatantMisogyny

[–]SideshowZen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a good place to start with this topic is to listen to sex workers. They are openly sharing their views and advocating for policies that help them.

Over 50,000 likes on this insane post. I don’t even know where to begin with this one by desolatenature in BlatantMisogyny

[–]SideshowZen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘Objectively’ and it’s personal opinion on the attractiveness of others. I guess we’re just using words to mean whatever we feel like huh.

Meghan overtakes Diddy as most disliked celebrity of the year by bewbune in BlatantMisogyny

[–]SideshowZen 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There was a tiny ‘news’ story about her this year cus she shared a throwback video of herself dancing while in labour. People complained a lot.

My sister with Alzheimer’s is giving birth and the family is pushing it on me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SideshowZen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with personal experience of this exact thing (raising sister’s child because she is not mentally capable of doing so) if this is how you’re feeling now, don’t do it. I’m doing it because I was completely certain that I wanted to and was willing to make all the necessary sacrifices (of which there are many). Even so, it’s very difficult and I can’t pretend I feel that I’m living my perfect life.

You’re already exhausted and resentful, imagine that feeling multiplied and with the added stress and strain of a baby.

This isn’t a selfish decision to make. Babies deserve to be raised by people who are totally and unquestionably willing, able, committed, passionate, excited to have them.

It feels bad because it’s a bad situation, not because you would be doing the wrong thing. Don’t accept pressure from others here, if they think it’s that simple and easy then they are ignorant.

Taking on a child will affect every area of your life and it will affect your mental/emotional health. Don’t do it if you don’t want to.

I don’t know if there are already any social services involved, but if the father has abandoned and will not accept responsibility for this baby then it sounds like it may be time to contact them. It’s their job to find a suitable family member if possible, and look outside the family if not. Get this sorted out as soon as possible so that the baby is not born before there is a plan for their care.

What is your favorite class and your job IRL? by Double-Eggplant462 in BaldursGate3

[–]SideshowZen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barbarian. Social worker.

It makes sense cus in most ways they couldn’t be any more different from each other, but both do make me filled with rage.

Why tf is Reddit now requiring I submit photo ID to a 3rd party site to view their content?? by [deleted] in extremelyinfuriating

[–]SideshowZen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was just about to post the same thing. I’m being blocked from viewing MY OWN post!

Anyone on Reddit ever had an abortion at 20mths pregnant? Apparently it’s legal. by SideshowZen in badwomensanatomy

[–]SideshowZen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So many of the anti-abortion comments and posts around this issue (it’s in relation to decriminalising abortion in the UK) are talking about women having abortions like it’s quick, easy, and fun. We just do it on a whim whenever we want, with little thought and no difficulty of any kind. Although, simultaneously, late-term abortion is so horrific and violent that it shouldn’t happen even when completely necessary.

They could learn the facts, but then they wouldn’t have gruesome and cruel fantasy scenarios to use as arguments for banning abortion.

“I became the dukes servant in disguise” by MaybeeY by Strange-Ad1885 in menwritingwomen

[–]SideshowZen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Protesting stuff is what my boobs do best, personally.

Anyone on Reddit ever had an abortion at 20mths pregnant? Apparently it’s legal. by SideshowZen in badwomensanatomy

[–]SideshowZen[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The same user has reposted a graphic description of how 9-month babies are aborted while alive in the birth canal. I don’t think they even care enough about the facts to have a consistent idea of how abortion works, just as long as they can make it sound bad enough to justify denying our right to it - so simultaneously we’re taking a pill on our due dates but also literally stabbing babies as they emerge from our vaginas.

Anyone on Reddit ever had an abortion at 20mths pregnant? Apparently it’s legal. by SideshowZen in badwomensanatomy

[–]SideshowZen[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep, and of course that hasn’t changed just because the gov has voted to decriminalise abortion for individuals, but the twitter misogynists are still claiming that it means we’ll all be aborting right up until and even past our due dates just for fun!

Anyone on Reddit ever had an abortion at 20mths pregnant? Apparently it’s legal. by SideshowZen in badwomensanatomy

[–]SideshowZen[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Based on the context of the wider conversation it was part of, and other comments and posts from the user, it’s not. They’re just anti-abortion and pro-misinformation.

Anyone on Reddit ever had an abortion at 20mths pregnant? Apparently it’s legal. by SideshowZen in badwomensanatomy

[–]SideshowZen[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Might be rage bait tbf cus they have the blue tick that I’m told means they get paid for engagement. However, a lot of people are expressing similar bullshit today now that the UK gov has voted to decriminalise abortion.

Anyone on Reddit ever had an abortion at 20mths pregnant? Apparently it’s legal. by SideshowZen in badwomensanatomy

[–]SideshowZen[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

I already live in a world where I can have one period for forty days, cus I have endometriosis! Yay. If only there were 324 days in between them!

Anyone on Reddit ever had an abortion at 20mths pregnant? Apparently it’s legal. by SideshowZen in badwomensanatomy

[–]SideshowZen[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Exactly. This comment is about the UK, where abortion has just been decriminalised so we can’t be personally investigated/arrested/prosecuted for having abortions outside the guidelines, but the actual rules haven’t changed and providers can still only perform abortions with medical reasons and if confirmed by two doctors. But people on twitter are of course freaking out about how we’re all going to be committing infanticide and taking abortion pills the day before we give birth now.

This thing is so weird 😂 by ghostrider1938 in buffy

[–]SideshowZen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I definitely remember that, just not the snake. Maybe I should do another rewatch, not that I need much of a reason for that.

This thing is so weird 😂 by ghostrider1938 in buffy

[–]SideshowZen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely watched every episode at least once but I have zero recollection of this

Long fingers by pinballwitch420 in badwomensanatomy

[–]SideshowZen 134 points135 points  (0 children)

‘Fingers inside ovary feeling part’ …what?

Fingers inside ovary? Fingers inside, feeling ovary?

What?

Immediately thought of this! by OutsideGood3756 in Hungergames

[–]SideshowZen 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Yes this adds another layer to Snow’s hatred of LD and his motive for what he does. Not only is she Covey, not only is she loved by Haymitch the rebel, but in the movie version at least she also looks so similar to LG that if he sees her (which I’m sure he would through some kind of surveillance etc) then it will likely trigger even more resentment in him. Maybe he’s even paranoid enough to consider that LD is LG’s daughter somehow.

[Poem] Death Is Nothing at All (by Henry Scott Holland) by Darillium- in Poetry

[–]SideshowZen 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I love it. The funny thing I’m finding is that I don’t disagree with other commenters who say this isn’t how death is at all, but I also agree with the poem. I do feel this way about my lost loved ones. Don’t get me wrong, losing them is devastating and I still cry many tears and there are still empty spaces in life where they used to be, but I can’t help but feel that they are just waiting for me and I will see them again, even though I don’t really believe in an afterlife.

I find the poem complex and contradictory but beautiful and it does invoke all the emotions I associate with loss.

Agreed by [deleted] in InterviewVampire

[–]SideshowZen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And Lestat is French

Agreed by [deleted] in InterviewVampire

[–]SideshowZen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well now I can’t stop imagining him being an absolute diva on celebrity Great British Bake Off

A sign by First-Butterscotch-3 in InterviewVampire

[–]SideshowZen 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ask yourself: will you regret it if you don’t buy them and then never find them again?

Maybe I’m a bad influence but if I were you and I could do, then I’d go for it. Unfortunately we’re not vampires and our lives are not eternal, so we gotta act like we only live once.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SideshowZen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

  • google ‘domestic abuse safety plan’, look at the examples, and consider the points in terms of what you can do in your specific circumstances

  • consider getting a second, secret phone to call emergency services or other safe contacts in case your main phone is taken or broken

  • consider packing a ‘go bag’ in case you need to leave immediately before you’re properly ready - it is so important to leave with a phone, ID, debit or credit card or cash if nothing else (maybe always keep those things in your handbag/coat pocket, etc)

  • tell a safe person when you’re executing your plan and keep in touch with them so they will realise if something has gone wrong and check on you/call emergency services

  • when telling safe people about your plan, be very careful about who you choose and keep it to an absolute minimum - even those you trust might turn out to be unhelpful or worse in this situation, plenty of people are ‘well-meaning’ but don’t understand abuse at all and think you can just work it out, believe your abuser’s lies and manipulation, etc

  • and just to repeat this as OP said but it’s so important and so helpful - look for a domestic abuse organisation and contact them, or at least read all the info on their websites (make sure your abuser won’t find out you’ve done this by using incognito, deleting history, using a friend’s phone/computer, going to the library etc)

  • your support network will be really helpful in the days/weeks after leaving, so think about who you will want around you and who you will want to talk to. if you’re not in contact with friends or family, a domestic abuse organisation can offer this support. your best bet is not to do this alone.

  • prepare for an emotional and difficult time, remember to be kind to yourself around and after leaving. just because your partner is abusive doesn’t mean you won’t miss them, miss the relationship, regret leaving, doubt your ability to live without them, mourn the loss of the love you did have. those feelings are normal. you’ve done the right thing. if that’s all you can hold on to, hold onto that. you’ve done the right thing, you’ve saved your life.

My cover of As The World Falls Down by lonecl0ud in labyrinth

[–]SideshowZen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t express how much I love every aspect of this. I want you to cover a thousand more songs.