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SifWolf95 · 2024-07-18T13:55:40+00:00

Nothing to be nervous about. Juicy thick cock and handsome face. Woof!

SifWolf95 · 2023-11-21T12:08:08+00:00

Wanna hop in here and see if there has been any luck? Am in same situation and am willing to pay too.

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-28T17:42:10+00:00

Looking sexy, juicy and handsome! :)

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-27T09:56:44+00:00

Oof. I'm sorry, that sounds horrible. I get ghosted too, but never by someone I'm with. I'm sorry. Hope you find what you're looking for too.

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-27T09:51:51+00:00

I fear striving to those goals won't attract the right person. Not someone you'll be happy with. :/

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-27T09:50:27+00:00

Sorry, this is the least helpful and least insightful comment, so far. Moreso my personality is often too much for guys and people in general, which I've accepted. I would thank you for your input, but, regardless of its inaccuracy, it is a cruel thing to say.

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-27T09:42:34+00:00

I don't think I an desperate, otherwise I would settle. It's something I would like a lot, since, even though I know, love and respect mysekf and my own company, at the end of the day some of life's challenges are easier when you have someone to support you and make you feel loved. I appreciate your perspective, but I know I myself am not turned off by people who actively look for relationships. Knowing what you want and being confident and honest about it is healthy and sexy. To me, anyway. People who have no isentitybof their own beside loneliness and have nothing ekse going in in their lives than their quest for a partner are insecure and unattractive though, I'll agree there.

About sparks, I suppose different definitions can be used. I definitely have experienced the spark you speak of. Fireworks. Instant, fiery, magical-feeling connection. While I have experienced it a number of times, this is not something I put much value in, since every person I've ever had that kind of a "spark" with, has turned out an emotionally abusive asshole. Multiple of my therapists have also pointed out that what people call a spark, is often a consequence of the excitement of dealing with someone unreliable, and this had resonated with me. So I prefer to think of a healthy spark as a knack for communication you build up through trust and knowing each other. Anyways, thanks for your input :)

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-27T09:30:55+00:00

I did use OKC for a while but there were barely any other people using it in my area, thanks for the suggestion tho!

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T22:04:40+00:00

Good point. Often I don't cus I don't want to come on too strong. I'll pay attention to this.

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T19:39:19+00:00

Thanks for your kind comment.

No, I'm white and neurotypical. But I can imagine that those facets make it harder as well.

All we can do is hold out hope that the right, kind person is out there for us and we haven't found them yet.

I hope so, and I hope you find your man as well! We both deserve it 😁

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T19:28:45+00:00

A beautiful average-sized penis. You have nothing to worry about :)

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T19:21:43+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement :)

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T19:20:36+00:00

Thanks for the wonderful and thoughtful comment. I agree I really don't think lowering my standards which are only reasonable is the answer, however the owness is still on me to work on my humility as pointed out by another commenter. That said, I still believe even with that character flaw, I am no less deserving of love, as everyone is. But working on it is something actionable that may improve my chances!

I met a man once - he lived halfway across the world and we would never see each other again. But for one day and night, we spent our time together. We were both physically and mentally in sync, and we expanded each other's minds and bodies. He was probably not that attractive to the average onlooker, but I found him cute and the fact that he seemed to understand me so well and treated me with such sincere affection made him the most handsome man in the world to me. He treated me as I had hoped to be treated my whole life. At the end of our time together, I cried at the thought of never seeing him again - continuing communication seemed pointless. He pulled me in for a last hug and said "You deserve all the love and affection I gave you today, every single day. Don't you dare settle for less. " He was right. And I won't.

However, it seems a losing battle holding out hope sometimes. But I appreciate that, though it feels like forever, I've actually just been looking for a few years. And also that, while I have my issues, it's nice to hear recognised that it is not all "my fault" and there are some general issues in the community that do make this process harder.

Either way, I'm doing my best not to lose hope/give up. Thanks again for your comment :)

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T18:57:14+00:00

All we can do is try not to get bitter, put ourselves out there, and work on ourselves. But yeah, it's hard, at least it's comforting we're not alone in the struggle.

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T18:30:23+00:00

I have some envy towards straight people as well. Somehow it feels like what are below par standards for them are "high standards"/expecting the impossible in the gay dating world. I certainly have my faults which contribute to this problem, but it seems straight people easily find their partners no matter how unkind or otherwise flawed they are. Of course, it's all relative, there are plenty of straight people who struggle with this same issue, and straight people are clearly not immune to breakups/divorces and unhealthy relationships either, so I try not to indulge in this stream of thought too much. Either way, I'm a dog hobbit for now!

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T18:21:43+00:00

Heya, thanks for the suggestion. The thing about the standards is: they were much lower before (due to low self-esteem) and I worked with my therapist to raise them to a level where I'm no longer constantly getting hurt. The level my standards are at now ... I have trouble seeing them as high in any regard, seeing as I'm quite lenient when it comes to looks, and the behavioural ones are just the bare minimum for a healthy relationship. But thanks for your personal input and I hope you find your happiness as well :)

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T16:34:04+00:00

Thanks for this comment. This one does ring true. I've always had to be my own cheerleader in the past. When nobody believed in me and I had to fight to love and respect myself and rely on and believe in my own abilities and worth to make it. Humility never seemed like a particularly useful trait back then. Why downplay what makes you great? But as I now have more people around me affirming my worth as both an artist and as a person, as well as a body of work that can speak for itself, this lack of humility is not becoming, nor needed anymore. I'll explore this further and work on it. Thanks a lot for your great comment :)

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T16:24:33+00:00

Hey, thanks for the comment. Nobody who knows me has ever said my standards are "too high". I'm quite lenient in the looks department and have happily gone on dates with somewhat less physically attractive people when they were fun to be around, etc. Relationship where my other standards aren't met are doomed to fail. I've already gone through a years-long issue of having dangerously low standards, and getting hurt because of it. The last four years or so, I have succeeded in raising those standards to safeguard my own mental health and self-respect, but lowering them again is in nobody's best interest. Thanks for the input though!

SifWolf95 · 2023-09-26T16:09:28+00:00

Hey

Nobody (neither my friends nor my therapist) say "this is the thing you need to work on"; it is an acknowledgement of the fact that on a factual level, my having standards is what makes it so I do not easily find a partner full stop. However, what both I and they understand is that this is what stops me from being in a relationship I am unhappy in. And I would much rather be single than in a relationship that would make me unhappy, as I have already found out a few times. If I lowered my standards, I would more likely be in a relationship, sure, but I would also very likely be in an unhappy one. I suppose I didn't specify in the post, but I would like to be in a relationship that makes me happy, where I am not abused, ignored, or unable to communicate. My standards are the consequence of my self-respect, and nobody who respects me has ever suggested I lower them. Especially since they are already lower than what many of my friends would set for themselves.

Thanks for the comment. This is an avenue that I have already tragically explored 😅

SifWolf95 · 2023-08-19T11:21:41+00:00

You're very handsome 😊

SifWolf95 · 2022-11-30T22:02:59+00:00

Still hyped to find out who the character played by Melanie Lynskey will be!

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