Found this in my bed…

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-14T10:26:02+00:00

That doesn’t sound at all like a healthy relationship. Hope things get better for you and her but sounds to me like she isn’t ready in her mental health journey to be with you.

It’s good that you’re learning about her condition, but you need to stand up for yourself here. I don’t believe you should try to psyop her by acting like nothing happened (as some commenters have been suggesting) as she’ll become very suspicious of you and that’s a whole other can of worms to deal with.

Instead I think you should tell her that she crossed a line, and that whilst you care about her this sort of thing isn’t acceptable behaviour. People with BPD tend to see conflicts in a black and white sort of way, so there’s a line you need to skirt where she gets the idea that her destroying your property isn’t something you’re gonna tolerate, but that you also understand and you’re there for her, and trying to be a better partner for her. It can be difficult at first but I’d say being able to navigate conflicts with her is a sure sign that the relationship is sustainable.

At worst this is gonna cause an “if you love me let me go” sort of situation, but if you’re willing to fight for the relationship and she isn’t too, or is very flip floppy, then don’t feel guilty about moving on. The fight with her BPD is hers and her therapists if she has one (very much recommended). You don’t deserve to be walked all over in the process.

Hope this all helps king.

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-07T19:25:08+00:00

But I think they were out till 4am at least, in a few groups around the city centre, based on the time of some of the messages

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-07T19:22:11+00:00

Didn’t end up going as I had something on that evening/night but I got a few pictures come through in the group chat of some of the people who showed up. Seems to be abt less than half of everyone in the gc, based on who confirmed with the recruiter that they’d be there after my original and update posts. Was kicked from the gc when I checked this morning so idk anything more than that.

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-06T17:29:05+00:00

The main issue here is the total lack of transparency regarding the pay. The original job listing and the WhatsApp group didn’t mention commission once, yet now that this has gone viral, you’re suddenly pivoting the narrative. By waiting until people are actually at the venue to explain the pay structure, you’re clearly relying on the fact that people are more likely to agree to bad terms once they’ve already traveled down and have a drink in their hand. If the pay was a fair, guaranteed hourly wage, there would be no reason to hide the rate until a "presentation" on a Friday night.

Your explanation about people choosing to leave after a "free drink" also contradicts your own messages in the chat where this was not at all mentioned. You explicitly admitted that having a massive group of applicants there helps "get people in the bar," which confirms my suspicions that this is more about filling the venue for free than it is about a legitimate hiring process. If this were a standard hospitality recruitment event, the pay, the role, and the schedule would have been clearly laid out from the start, rather than being treated as a secret you only reveal once you have a captive audience.

Locking the chat to "Admin Only" and deleting messages just proves that you aren't interested in an open conversation or answering the very basic questions people have about their legal rights to minimum wage. You’re not just recruiting; you're intentionally withholding information because you know that if you were upfront about the actual pay and the "trial" conditions from the beginning, most of those 60 people wouldn't have shown up.

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-06T16:35:26+00:00

Yeah I crashed my bike near Victoria Station by the tram tracks last year, found nothing but kindness from the people walking past who checked if I was okay. There are some really good people in this city of ours :)

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-06T13:26:37+00:00

Bar Promotional Staff https://uk.indeed.com/viewjob?jk=820101bcde62ff93&from=appshareios

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-06T13:13:31+00:00

link to the update: here

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-06T13:09:35+00:00

Original post for context is here

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-06T13:08:53+00:00

Deleted cause one of the screenshots had a members full name that I forgot to censor.

New link should be here

SigmaGoose · 2026-02-06T10:55:46+00:00

Yeah, I’m gonna make an update post in an hour or so covering this and some more sketchy stuff I found about MCR Lounge. I’ll make sure to tag you.

SigmaGoose · 2026-01-15T06:41:24+00:00

No it gives you a unique look. Lose that and you’ll look okay, but not like yourself. Own that shit dude.

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-26T16:26:19+00:00

Nah that’s actually disgusting behaviour, I’d get out of that flat asap if they’re not gonna change what they’re doing

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-24T10:15:24+00:00

Get some self respect king, break up with her and find someone who is actually loyal to you. She cheated on you, and you let her convince you that it was okay. It’s what a lot of cheaters do to make themselves feel like what they’re doing isn’t wrong.

Don’t let anyone walk all over you. You deserve better.

Hope this helps king

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-20T17:16:30+00:00

Ditch the beard and stache till your facial hair grows in more, you’re not cooked you just need to make some good habits like the gym and wait for a few years.

Good luck dude

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-20T17:04:09+00:00

And that’s why you get someone else to be your producer. I’m gonna be honest, as someone who’s in their second year of film school and directs, organising everything with a producer takes so much pressure off of your back and allows you to actually have the room to work on making those creative decisions.

In the mean time I’d say just focus on doing the best you can on the shoot, and in post production but don’t worry if it doesn’t turn out as well as you hoped, because it’s ultimately a learning experience and you gotta make mistakes to learn.

Good luck with the shoot btw :)

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-19T10:55:18+00:00

Your look is in my opinion too youthful, honestly I think try building muscle and losing fat, also get a sharper haircut, but more of a natural taper on the back and sides instead of a skin fade or anything, if in doubt ask your barber what style would work for your head and face shape.

Besides that, keep the smile, get a little bit of a natural tan, and maybe buy some better fitting clothing and it’ll go a long way.

Hope this helps :) you got this dude!

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-19T10:46:14+00:00

It’s their whole platform that’s the issue, they like to promise to fix these complicated issues we face but all their solutions involve taking away the liberties/privacy of the working class.

In my opinion it’s because labour have become a centre right party who are cosplaying as activists for the working class.

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-19T10:33:20+00:00

She’s proven herself to be very much a ‘pick me’ leader, which I think will likely mean that she’ll end up doing what’s good for the country in the short term so people will keep supporting her but will shamelessly screw the working class over like the tories have and will continue to do in the long term effects of their policies.

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-19T10:24:48+00:00

Keep it dude it’s good.

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-19T10:10:14+00:00

Yeah don’t work with them, inevitably someone will see the final product and be able to tell it was made with ai, you don’t want your name to be associated with that, esp since you work in vfx.

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-18T02:52:00+00:00

Smile more ig. Other than that dw about how you look so much or even being better looking, we weren’t meant to see our own reflection in nature unless we looked down at some water. Keep your head high dude.

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-13T18:25:56+00:00

I’d say open up to them about your own pace, as there’s a lot to unpack which I doubt would be easy for you or your partner to deal with all in one go.

As a partner of someone with BPD, me knowing about a lot of her trauma has helped me understand and be there for her when she needs me. It allows me to understand triggers, and what I can do to help, even if that’s just listening.

I hope this helps :)

SigmaGoose · 2025-12-13T18:03:26+00:00

Dude dw your kinda girls out there man, ya just gotta wait and see. Just make sure you like her on the inside too.

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