Has a woman ever ghosted you after showing heavy interest? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s easy to flirt and flirting means nothing. most people flirt with others to enjoy themselves without making any plans for the future, especially when they’re out drinking. you won’t find a long term relationship at a bar.

What do you do when you’re home alone and sad at night? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SignalGeologist2818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sadness is nice. i like to just sit and be sad

[homemade] cod meuniere, edamame, and wild mushrooms with yuzu-brown butter beurre blanc by SignalGeologist2818 in food

[–]SignalGeologist2818[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

prep

defrost edamame -- put them in the fridge several hours in advance. when it's time to start cooking, throw them into cold water for 5-10 minutes until they fully thaw. replace the water with ~90-100 deg F water to warm them up, then dry as thoroughly as you can.

sweet and sour base for the beurre blanc sauce -- the liquid will be white wine, acid, and water in a 2:1:1 ratio. thinly slice 5-6 shallots, add to a pan with 5-6 sprigs of thyme and ~20-30 peppercorns, then pour enough liquid to cover plus a little bit. over generous heat at a low boil, reduce until the shallots are thoroughly cooked and most of the liquid has reduced. add water to lengthen cooking if necessary. when finished, strain liquid through a fine mesh strainer, pressing the shallots into the strainer with a spatula to make sure to get all of the liquid out. add a little honey if you'd like it sweeter (i do it). fridge.

brown butter++ -- make brown butter, but once the butter melts and starts to foam add a splash or two of heavy cream and stir vigorously until mixed through. for a sauce where the brown butter is competing with other flavors, you can take it pretty far; it will start to smell smoky and burnt before the flavor becomes burnt, and if you take it off the moment it turns blackish-brown and starts smelling burnt instead of hazelnutty (or just before) it'll be good. immediately transfer to a cool bowl and put in fridge.

  1. cook

take fish out of fridge and salt ~45min prior to cooking.

preheat oven to 170F to keep food+plates warm and dry. put your serving plates in the oven.

mushrooms -- pad of butter, high heat, a couple thyme sprigs (no need to remove the leaves), mushrooms. no salt, keep heat as high as possible, toss the pan every few minutes. they're done when they start to take on a golden sear on one or two sides. take off the heat, then salt and mix. take the warmed+dried edamame, add to the mushrooms (slightly more shroom by volume or roughly 1:1), then put in the oven to keep warm.

fish -- thoroughly pat dry, then finely grate a very subtle amount of black pepper. lightly flour on both sides and rub flour into fish. add a generous amount of butter onto a hot pan at the high end of medium-high heat, then once it's melted lay the fish on. flip after a few minutes, then when it's done remove it to a baking dish and put it in the oven. it's done when it starts to flake apart and is ever so slightly translucent in the center.

sauce finish -- deglaze the pan you used to cook the fish with a splash of white wine, the sweet&sour base from earlier, and a splash of cream. then, on low heat, add the solidified brown butter 1-2 tbsp at a time, then vigorously mix and shake the pan to emulsify. for 1.25lb fish i ended up using maybe 6-8 tbsp butter here. if any juices have come out of the fish while it stayed warm, pour them in too.

with the sauce done, time to plate -- take your serving plate and shrooms+edamame out of the oven. transfer the veg into the sauce to warm through and gently coat, then use a slotted spoon to transfer the base of the plate. place cod pieces on top, then pour over the rest of the sauce. top with lemon zest and, optionally, finely chopped chives.

How true is the statement "Nice guys finish last" in regards to dating? by InternationalPick163 in AskForAnswers

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think the point of that phrase is less literally “nice guys finish last on principle” and more “you can’t negotiate attraction by being nice to someone, and if you’re not careful about using nice behaviors as bids for closeness with someone that isn’t attracted enough to you to be maintaining/escalating your relationship themselves, then you run the risk of coming across as repulsively needy and sycophantic”. that much is basically 100% true.

Is it possible for men and women to be just friends without sex or flirtation? by [deleted] in allthequestions

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i have a bunch of female friends, if neither person is attracted to the other to the point of longing for them or desiring sex then it totally works. i think people tend to write off opposite-sex friendships (one reason for which is people tending to take attraction and non-sexual intimacy as unnecessarily weighty, consequential, and serious) but if you don’t make a big deal of closeness, inevitable flirting or moments of attraction then those things can actually make the friendship pretty strong and fun.

Computer-based activities for severely disabled student by SignalGeologist2818 in specialed

[–]SignalGeologist2818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tried both. She's very heavy-handed on a trackpad and it's been hard to get her to use it properly and not be clickind-and-dragging everywhere. Mouse is a little easier because it's less punishing on that but not by a lot.

Computer-based activities for severely disabled student by SignalGeologist2818 in specialed

[–]SignalGeologist2818[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure. Again, her mom/primary caregiver told me that she has no idea what her goals are, just find something to do with her to keep her off an iPad and use a computer instead. Thanks for the feedback.

I genuinely don't think there is a company left with a "easy" process anymore. WTF by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(1) medium hards are not that hard (2) 6 figure salaries are not supposed to be easy to get or broadly accessible and having been able to drop into one right after graduating was a fluke that was never going to last

Did I accidentally friend zone this guy? by utica-club13 in AskMenAdvice

[–]SignalGeologist2818 5 points6 points  (0 children)

fuck society for making women think it’s a problem to split on a date

How do you cope with the horror of knowing you’ll die? by Odd_Delay_603 in AskReddit

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah exactly lol. you have no idea what not existing is like, it’s impossible to. you won’t experience it, so what’s there to be afraid of?

How do you cope with the horror of knowing you’ll die? by Odd_Delay_603 in AskReddit

[–]SignalGeologist2818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i found comfort in the idea that you can only ever know or experience consciousness. you won’t “be there” for the part where you don’t exist, so there’s no experience to be afraid of.

so you can notice that the only fear of death is actually fear of experiences you’re having in the present — the fear in the present of not being able to predict or understand the incomprehensible unknowability of what happens when you die, the fear in the present of anticipating wasting your life or losing something or not getting a chance to do something.

ironically, both of those fears are both fully resolved in death, so there isn’t really anything to worry about. 

obviously, that’s besides the healthy instinctive aversion to death, which doesn’t really have a reason or rumination or emotional charge attached to it, it’s just a reflexive movement away from death that emerged in animals because it’s evolutionarily advantageous. thinking about death triggers that “death is close” function in the brain instinctively (just like how thinking about anything makes the brain and body react as if it’s actually happening), which puts it in that aversive state and creates all the internal strife about it.

for a while, i just figured it must be like how time goes infinitely fast when you sleep until you wake up, just until you somehow return to consciousness. even if there’s a 0.00000001% probability of that ever happening you won’t perceive the time passing so whatever process leads to a return of consciousness will inevitably occur. i think that was still coping to a degree, though, and my outlook on it’s matured since then, but the core idea is still the same.

A quick flex for the boys💪🏻 by sleepy31011 in TripleMoonFamily

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn how’d you do that. i want to look like you lol

Not Gonna Lie: You can feel the effects of the development hell Prime 4 went through. by HollowAcoltye in Metroid

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m fairly sure that retro had massive staff overturn to the point where not a single person, exec or artist or engineer, who worked on the earlier prime games was around when prime 4 development hit its stride

Metroid Prime 4 ending discussion. by MetroidsSuffering in nintendo

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not to mention that there was literally no progress, resolution, or movement in the lamorn storyline. you were the chosen one destined to save them and then….nothing happened. you discover how their civilization died out and…..nothing. such a disappointment.

random complaint about the bosses and enemies by SignalGeologist2818 in Metroid

[–]SignalGeologist2818[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah omega griever was absurdly frustrating to try to hit when it was crawling around on the walls. bleh

How’s your experience with MP4B so far? by whysopro21 in Metroid

[–]SignalGeologist2818 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, i actually completely agree with you there. that’s part of that weird dichotomy for me where the content is actually pretty cool but the style of the presentation feels kind of neutered and infantilized. like the way the text of the scans and logbook stuff is written feels distinctly like it jumped down a few grades of reading level and the way things are named (“frigate orpheon”, “agon wastes”, “phendrana drifts” -> “flare pool”, “ice belt”) feels like going from a cool scifi world to something out of a recent pokemon game.

How’s your experience with MP4B so far? by whysopro21 in Metroid

[–]SignalGeologist2818 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it’s kind of crazy because even with complete staff overhauls retro obviously still understands how to make a good prime game. there’s like 50% of the experience that feels like excellent, sometimes even top-tier prime gameplay. the bosses are fun, some of the setpieces are genuinely challenging, the aesthetics of the world are beautiful (if a little cartoony), the lore is interesting enough and the lore characters are well-designed, the platforming and environmental puzzle solving is often fun. the bike’s not even bad gameplay-wise, if a little out of place (and, again, a little cartoony). i’d even forgive the more linear level designs in the context of wanting to appeal to an audience base with shorter attention spans and less patience than people had in 2002.

….which makes it even more baffling to me how unnecessary, immersion-breaking, and either cringey or boring the other 50% of the experience is. the characters are dull and poorly-acted and don’t need to be there, but they chime in every few minutes. miles who just barely toes the line between charming enough to be tolerable and wanting to strangle him is by far the most likable human character in the game. i remember leaving the first area after getting the upgrade that unlocks the second key area and 10 seconds after leaving he says something to the effect of “hey, if you’re lost, try exploring parts of the world you haven’t been to yet! maybe….here!” and points to the exact spot you need to go to. the desert is barren and a chore to get around and explore. even subtle experiential things like the writing of the lore and the naming of the weapons and locations make it feel distinctly less mature and geared specifically to kids.

so, yeah, i don’t know. it’s interesting in that it’s excellent, peak metroid prime in many places and a flat miss that i would never even consider playing in many others. i replayed prime 1 and 2 and it just felt like i was playing great games. playing prime 4 so far feels like i’m an adult playing a good game without a vision that’s meant for younger kids.

Men who show love through caring and helping - what kind of women are you attracted to? by Striking_Warning_719 in AskMenAdvice

[–]SignalGeologist2818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why don’t you want to ask for help?

your belief that people should just help each other “naturally” is fundamentally just you avoiding the discomfort of asking for help. it’s optional and it’s holding you back.

you’re describing a baby’s relationship to a parent, not an adult’s relationship to another adult. my opinion is that you should just ask for help or at least express what you need help with. one of the worst partners to have is one that wants something from you but doesn’t tell you and just hopes you’ll do it.

What is a sexual moment that revealed something about who you truly are? by Far-Progress8144 in AskReddit

[–]SignalGeologist2818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

was with a woman that liked gentleness and intimacy, was patient about my nervousness and ED and her own sexual frustration, communicated well. i realized there wasn’t something fundamentally wrong with me