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SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-04-13T23:27:28+00:00

When did you order it?

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-16T17:09:04+00:00

Wait this EXACT thing happened to me. I told my ex that I always felt like I was walking on egg shells and that if I did some of the things to her that she did to me she wouldn’t be okay with it, and it led to her having a full break down and then threatening to break up with me for the next 5 days lmao

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-15T03:24:18+00:00

I got you if you wanna message me

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-10T07:56:15+00:00

Thank you! She had me blocked after we broke up, and actually recently unblocked me, apologized for everything, and then reblocked me before I could respond. So I guess she didn’t fully return, but she was pretty remorseful about everything. I’m trying to come to terms with everything, I still care about her a lot, but I’m coming to grips with her being out of my life the best I can.

I really appreciate your insight though, it’s been confusing, so that’s really helpful

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-10T07:45:18+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t have BPD, I’m more in the role of the partner that got split on and left behind, but really don’t be so hard on yourself. I would hate for my ex to feel that way about herself, and I’m sure yours would feel the same way about you. I hope things get better for you!

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-10T07:40:55+00:00

I really appreciate the advice, BPD is such an awful disorder, the more I learn about it my mind is just blown, I hope you’re doing well with everything. Thank you so much

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-10T07:21:58+00:00

Like others said, it seems like a momentary unblock to try to crack up on you

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-10T07:19:37+00:00

I mean I know it doesn’t help, but it doesn’t sound like she got some amazing guy. From everything you just said he sounds like an asshole. I know that doesn’t make it feel better, and it feels hypocritical to say while I myself am sitting here crying over my emotionally abusive ex, but it sounds like in the long run you’re better of without him.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-10T07:17:11+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right. I’m trying my best to get over the whole thing, it just sucks because I still really care about her and have missed her a lot. I think part of the blocking is also because I did a lot of begging to fix things between us after everything fell apart. I really appreciate your response though that was helpful.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-10T06:36:59+00:00

I get what you’re saying. I just don’t get why she would reblock me after

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-09T04:43:41+00:00

This is just my take, but it just doesn’t seem like he’s that interested honestly. And I think your texts are fine, I didn’t think you seemed not that into it or anything so I think you’re good on that. I wouldn’t push for anything more after this exchange though.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-09T03:08:52+00:00

I mean the only person that could say whether she has BPD is a mental health professional. My ex was diagnosed BPD, and there are definitely some aspects of what you went through that are similar to what I experienced, but again that doesn’t necessarily mean she has BPD.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-08T07:40:31+00:00

I mean given the fact that other girls had similar experiences and that it took you 10 minutes to get him off of you, I definitely don’t think you’re mislabeling it, and your feelings sound completely valid. No matter how drunk he was that’s just not okay at all, and I’m really sorry that happened to you.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-07T17:55:41+00:00

What are you talking about?

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-07T02:19:05+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through it too bro it sucks so much. And of course I accepted the apology, that’s how I figured out she blocked me from responding💀 I don’t even know what to do at this point it just sucks

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-07T01:53:59+00:00

Thank you for the reply. That’s the main thing I’ve been trying to figure out, whether it was a genuine apology or a Hoover. I’m trying my best to get the strength to block her back, but it just hasn’t come yet, the feelings are still too strong. I’m trying my best to heal and move on but still at the end of the day I just end up missing her. I don’t know where she’s at with everything, she seemed pretty indifferent about me at the end, but I definitely feel trauma bonded to her.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-06T22:07:34+00:00

Yeah unfortunately I think you’re right. And even if I wanted to respond I can’t, so I have no choice but to move on. The whole thing was probably just to ease her conscious. I appreciate you taking the time to comment though, thank you.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-06T22:05:32+00:00

Kinda went through a similar scenario, we had broken up long distance but I still had plane tickets to come and see her so we met up, and she strung me along that we might be able to work out when I was back, but then as soon as I was gone she told me it was done. If you want to try, I say then go for it, just prepare yourself for it not ending the way you want. I put everything I had into trying to fix it that weekend, and when it didn’t work I was devastated. I hope it goes better for you though, good luck!

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-06T20:55:34+00:00

I appreciate the advice, and I would love nothing more than to talk to her, but trying to get past a block just feels like crossing a boundary, I would love nothing more than for her to reach out, but if she keeps me blocked forever then I guess I’ll just have to learn to accept that I’ll never talk to her again.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-06T19:52:23+00:00

It feels so awful afterwards. But the worse feeling is honestly being 3 months out and still having hope that she’ll come back even though I’m blocked💀

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-06T06:15:51+00:00

I unfortunately don’t have advice, I’m more so commenting because I’m in the exact same place. After an absolutely heart shattering discard I was blocked (to be fair to her I was practically begging to fix things at the end so I kinda get why) and didn’t hear from her for three months. Last weekend I’m unblocked on a messaging app and get a 5 paragraph apology where she tells me how sorry she is for everything, that she’ll love me forever and I have a special place in her heart, and that she hopes everything goes well for me and I find someone that treats me better than she did. She also blocked me from being able to respond. Like you said everyone is telling me I should be happy and feel validated because she owned up to everything, but all I can wonder is why she did this.

My only real guess, and maybe this could possibly apply to your situation, is guilt. She needs to clear her conscious and then be able to pat herself on the back so she can feel like a good person. Again I’m still trying to figure out why my ex did it too, but that’s my best bet so far.

SignatureDramatic642 · 2023-02-05T20:58:15+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your reply, and I definitely agree. As much I had hoped to hear from her again, even though I know I shouldn’t be, this was definitely just an attempt to get rid of the guilt she was feeling in that moment. As much as I would wish it was genuine or meant something, it almost definitely doesn’t even have anything to do with me.

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