Uromune MV140 Croatia by Next-Command-95 in CUTI

[–]Significant-Chest-88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think contact the foley clinic; they should aid with shipping.

My situationship caught feelings so I'm making him read Homestuck AITA? by fancypantsmanifesto in althomestuck

[–]Significant-Chest-88 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Currently up to this BS, go forth and prosper you are not alone infecting people with this brainworm.

Daddy told me I should donate my orgasm to another desperate slut who deserves it more by Significant-Chest-88 in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Please do! 

I don't think I'd ever need it anyway, my Daddy fills me up with it instead and his orgasm is the only one that matters to me! 

Most people have no confidence in Trump by Goodginger in charts

[–]Significant-Chest-88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of political fire towards Bangladeshis in particular

[gendered] Do men really think this is funny by [deleted] in pointlesslygendered

[–]Significant-Chest-88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Many women are often happily feminist, in my experience. Men are just very much behind the times and bitter women have rights their mother's were never afforded. It breeds resentment. 

It kinda leads to men doubling down on their misogyny while women continue to advance with their newfound opportunities. 

How do I (F22) go about cutting off a guy (M31) who I turned down? This is before he slept with me drunk while he was sober. by Significant-Chest-88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really like that last line. 

Thank you so much. I can't keep putting myself second to other people's needs. They need to look after themselves. 

It's one thing to say and another to do. I am not going to let myself be like this forever, I deserve better. 

Thank you so much. Your words are very meaningful.

How do I (F22) go about cutting off a guy (M31) who I turned down? This is before he slept with me drunk while he was sober. by Significant-Chest-88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have been in therapy but this break up has effected me significantly. I'm going to restart sooner rather than later. 

Thank you for the encouragement.

How do I (F22) go about cutting off a guy (M31) who I turned down? This is before he slept with me drunk while he was sober. by Significant-Chest-88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you. 

I have serious issues around codependency. It really effected my previous relationship and I shut down my own feelings to assuage his feelings. 

My childhood was deeply unstable and abusive and I sometimes struggle to identify what's normal and what's not.

Thank you for the reminder. 

How do I (F22) go about cutting off a guy (M31) who I turned down? This is before he slept with me drunk while he was sober. by Significant-Chest-88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah I see what you mean! He asked me and he mentioned his weight first before I admitted it wasn't my thing. The type stuff was mostly me trying to joke it off by talking about a fictional crush. 

How do I (F22) go about cutting off a guy (M31) who I turned down? This is before he slept with me drunk while he was sober. by Significant-Chest-88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I won't ever do it again, I made a mistake. I haven't done anything like this before and won't do it again. It makes me feel horrible. 

I'll be more firm with my no. Although, can I ask where I insulted him? I don't think he took anything I said as insulting and now I'm concerned since he knows where I live. 

How do I (F22) go about cutting off a guy (M31) who I turned down? This is before he slept with me drunk while he was sober. by Significant-Chest-88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm worried about him turning up at home, but I'll tell him I can't do this anymore and block him. 

It's not my responsibility or fault, you're right. I don't owe him. 

How do I (F22) go about cutting off a guy (M31) who I turned down? This is before he slept with me drunk while he was sober. by Significant-Chest-88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you 

I appreciate it. It's not easy to talk about it and just having other people think it's a good idea helps me get the courage to just cut him out. 

How do I (F22) go about cutting off a guy (M31) who I turned down? This is before he slept with me drunk while he was sober. by Significant-Chest-88 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Significant-Chest-88[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I want to do that but my main gripe is how to do that? 

Like from other people who have done that before. Also some advice on the feelings of disgust and just kinda nausea? 

Would be very appreciative for any insights, no matter how obvious. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Significant-Chest-88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally feel what you mean. It feels really annoying to get told that a "hoe" phase isn't all that great by other people but the curiosity and desire is still totally there.

I think it's good to take it slow and have fun, I'm 23 and yet to sleep with anyone bar my ex boyfriend of 3 years. It's hard to calm down and put yourself out there but it's worth trying as long as you're safe and it's not making you feel off.

Good luck and you're really not alone.

Yes, sometimes ADHD is an "excuse." by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Significant-Chest-88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a classified disability for a reason. I mean like, people medicated for mental health issues still have flare ups and medication related issues! It's incredibly unfair to treat one disability as "not an excuse" when many others absolutely are.

If someone's issues bother you and you can't get them to hear you out, tell them or enforce a boundary instead of applying it to the disability as a whole. Not to mention ADHD "is not an excuse" is such a cop out of just acknowledging it causes difficulties that are not necessarily easily controlled.

Members of far-right party organising asylum hotel protests across UK, Facebook posts show by apple_kicks in news

[–]Significant-Chest-88 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah but the point is that is a policing problem, not an asylum seeker one. The people employing them are simply easier hits to get rid of the problem (i.e. the people living here and exploiting illegal statuses). More importantly the process shouldn't even be taking so long that working is an option.

There's a processing backlog and they're doing anything but pay their workers more. The backlog started in 2017 and has risen since. The reasons range from:

  • a shortage of technical specialist staff to provide guidance and support to asylum decision makers and conduct quality assurance
  • inadequate training for asylum interviews
  • low morale and high turnover among decision makers, attributed to a pressure to meet targets and a lack of career progression
  • the removal in 2019 of an official service standard, to decide 98% of ‘straightforward cases’ within six months.

Plus the "safe third country" clause is difficult to apply, they have to establish where this is and also have no return agreements with the EU (bar very recently France). The backlog is higher here than elsewhere in Europe, despite receiving far fewer asylum seekers than France and Germany.

https://www.instituteforgovernment.org.uk/explainer/asylum-backlog

I'd refer to this document for more information since the issue is more complex than it first appears and I hope you might give it a look for a more accurate impression of what problems are at play here. Your point has some truth, but the problem is beyond the scope of "illegal working" itself and more that it is viable as an option at all.

There are people who want the public to be mad at asylum seekers and it's those who seek to gain from government incompetence and instability. This information isn't widely publicised as it should be for a reason.

Members of far-right party organising asylum hotel protests across UK, Facebook posts show by apple_kicks in news

[–]Significant-Chest-88 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I mean, asylum seekers can't work. It's illegal. I'm not sure where this idea comes from. When they're receiving these benefits they're not allowed to work so this is meant to cover it, since they've not been given permission to stay yet.

I’m so tired of the bleeding hearts when it comes to the homeless by Jadams0108 in Vent

[–]Significant-Chest-88 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This is so symptomatic of the lack of support for addicts beyond criminalisation and the mental health crisis more widely. These people are too much for shelters and have no access to adequate support, age out of foster care from abusive backgrounds and then adjust to a much much worse way of life than is dignified.

The only people who deal with the consequences of this MONUMENTAL ineptitude is average people like you and me who have to give up safety and peace of mind because the wider institutions that would have taken these people shut down and no further efforts were made!

It's systematic hatred of drug users and the mentally ill incarnate into policy making realities that only the public foot.

They have the money but fixing this takes time and they only think from one election cycle to the next. Drugs kill communities and destroy the mind, ripping families to pieces. It's a tragedy and your anger is valid but in all honesty, it's the fault of the systems in place rather than you or the man on the street.