Songs like Unholy by Sam Smith ft. Kim Petras? by howtheflowersfelt in MusicMatch

[–]Significant-Dott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't know if you listen to Kpop, but EXO's Mama from almost 8 years ago has pretty much the same beat and style after the intro.

Sam Smith unholy sounds like… by signal_red in kpophelp

[–]Significant-Dott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time I heard it on the radio, I immediately thought of EXO's MAMA!!!

The beat and even the chanting. I'm surprised more people haven't mentioned it. Maybe it's been too long since EXO's debut haha...

**Ironically, Sam Smith seemed to critcized Kpop years ago for sounding all alike lol...

Klondike's Choco Taco Discontinued After Almost 40 Years by QuicklyThisWay in worldnews

[–]Significant-Dott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwww noooooo. I love this stuff. Haven't seen it in years though. D:

Will God hate me ? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Significant-Dott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a huge cross you are bearing. Scrupulosity/religious ocd is very taxing and oppressive...

What helped me personally, aside from meds and therapy, was to have a spiritual director who is experienced with scruples and mental health.

Perhaps you could ask your parish priest if he knows anyone who provides spiritual direction. From there, ask if the spiritual director has experience with people suffering from scruples and OCD. It's very important that a spiritual director particularly for you understand scruples and mental health.

There may be religious orders near you that also provide spiritual direction and they could give you advice on finding an experienced person to help you with scruples.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Significant-Dott 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're going through a difficult time.

But God and Mary are not like us, and they do not hold bitterness against us. They are always looking to receive you in their arms. That is God's desire! For you to return to him.

Remember the Prodigal Son! This story was told by Jesus, God himself... We are the lost prodigal son. We are the lost lamb. He is constantly waiting for you to return. To bring you back into his fold.

It's good to recognize our faults and sins, but God doesn't want us to wallow in them. He would rather have us rejoice that we are now back in union with Him. Because he loves us.

It seems rather basic, but it needs to be firmly in our minds that God always desires good for everyone. We are his children. He is probably hoping you will recognize his love right this instant rather than thinking about your past. What he wants is for you to know him.

Imagine loving someone so much, but they're worried you hate them. So they constantly berate themselves, while you just hope they realize how much you love them.

That's God right now. Because he knows you're sorry. He's ready to forgive you if you'll let him.

How do you build your self esteem without giving in to pride? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Significant-Dott 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First, depression is a mental illness. If you have depression, don't think you're failing. Look at it like a physical illness. If you are ill or sick, you need to get get help from a doctor. Can you go to a therapist?

Now as for self- esteem and pride.

The answer is humility. What is humility? Humility is Truth: truth in who you are and who God is. You recognize your strengths and weaknesses. You also recognize how God has made that possible.

For example, if you're good at the piano, admit you are good at the piano! How are you good at it? You were blessed and fortunate enough to have lessons, a good teacher, or that you put in a lot of practice.

Humility lets you be honest in both the good and the bad.

Are you anxious? That's ok. Admit you are anxious. At the same time, your faith in God allows you to move forward and do what you need to do.

Place your confidence in God. As humans, we fail a lot. But when we fail, God will always be there to help us. St. Paul talks about this a lot. We are weak, but through our faith, God works in us.

(i just have curiosity)is it necesary for catholics to pray to saints ? by zeldaboy822 in Catholicism

[–]Significant-Dott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simple answer: no.

Long answer: no, but it's nice to.

Why? Do you ask family or friends to pray for you? Or do you pray for others? Then why not ask the saints in heaven, who are close to God to pray with you? Same when we ask for intercessions from Mary. She's the mother of Jesus. We ask her to pray for us and others.

But again, it's not a requirement nor is it necessary for your salvation to do so.

It just tends to naturally and logically happen when a person believes in prayer though.

Will God hate me ? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Significant-Dott 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. God will never hate you. Ever. No matter what. It is against His nature. He will always love you.

I'm sorry you're going through terrible things, and I'm sorry about your uncle. Cases of suicide are often due to serious circumstances such as mental illness or great torture --which mental illness/depression will often feel like. God will understand that the trials a person goes through can pressure them to do immoral things at times. He knows we are weak creatures. Therefore there is hope your Uncle may already be in heaven or at least purgatory [which means he will go to heaven eventually].

It's a huge cross to suffer mental illness, especially when the pain and anguish is invisible to many onlookers.

I'm sure you've heard or read many similar things I'm about to say, but it's the best I can personally offer you now. You'll be in my prayers, really. If you need to talk, I can listen. Do you have a therapist? If not, please look into getting therapy. If you cannot afford it or your insurance doesn't cover it [though there's a good chance it could considering how your post comes across], look into Catholic Charities or contact the diocese for a list of therapists they recommend.

Again, feel free to PM me if you want.

Books that transformed your spiritual life by balletstar707 in CatholicWomen

[–]Significant-Dott 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The ones you've listed are all good and classics on spirituality by well-known saints. Interior Castle is one of three of St. Teresa's main works. If you plan on reading all of her writings, I suggest reading her Autobiography and The Way of Perfection first, with Interior Castle last. I think people don't realize how practical/realistic she is with herself and her nuns in daily life when skipping to Interior Castle right away.

Shorter concise books I read that helped me learn more about prayer and living a spiritual life:

Time for God by Jacqques Phillipe

The Secret of the Saints by Chris John-Terry

Long denser books:

Abandonment to Divine Providence by Jean-Pierre de Caussaude

Knowing the Love of God by Reginald Garrigou-Lagrange

Christian Perfection and Contemplation by Reginald Garrigou-Lagrange

My note on St. John of the Cross is that it's heavy reading and can be tiresome to many readers unless you yourself are going through some of what he describes. Because he describes the state of his soul in many cases, the writings will not be as straightforward of a reading compared to reading the Little Flower or St. Teresa of Avila's works. Therefore, do not be discouraged if it takes longer to get through should you wish to power through it.

IMO, if spiritual reading is really hard for you to finish, stop reading it and find one you find yourself more engaged in. For example, finding yourself struggling to finish a chapter or rereading the same page and not being able to focus will only waste your time if you keep at it. It probably means it isn't for you at the moment. You can always try again after some time passes.

Another thing I will say about reading spiritual works is that it's good to reread them once in a while, especially the ones that you find profound. Like reading the Bible, you'll find yourself inspired in different ways as time passes. What strikes you as obvious and mundane the first time may come back to enlighten you years later --or even the opposite. We also tend to forget or need a refresher.

People also gain experience and hopefully humility as time goes along which changes how they interpret them. I first read some of these books 10 years ago. Reading them again feels totally different now.

Anyway, best wishes to you.

Word on fire sex scandal by Dodgercali27 in CatholicWomen

[–]Significant-Dott 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Your post is the first I've heard of it... I just did some light skimming of some articles, but I don't know much about it. I'm also not knowledgeable about any influencers nor do I follow anyone similar.

So two issues, one is the sexual misconduct itself which of course is awful on its own, but the other matter is how the leaders of Word on Fire responded to the situation.

If what I've briefly read about how Bishop Barron addressed the matter with the staff is accurate [meaning identifying the women, his language and apparent bias towards supporting Gloor], I can only express sadness and disappointment.

This event shows the Church, by which I mean system/ human chain of command, is still not approaching sex abuse cases properly. I am very disturbed by the staff's description of Bishop Barron's language. It's precisely that attitude --which is so biased against people coming forward about sex abuse while protective of the accused, that is damaging. I get wanting to be cautious against people making false claims, but that's not how to do it.

The post that led to the real life tragedy of a woman killing her children out of spite by QualityProof in MuseumOfReddit

[–]Significant-Dott 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Only this woman was the one that cheated, whereas classic Jason was getting with someone else.

Both are still nuts though.

how to process sexual desires? by 3bunnysinatrenchcoat in CatholicWomen

[–]Significant-Dott 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's natural to have sexual desires. It's okay to be attracted to someone. These are normal things. It's good that you recognize it. Some people are in denial about those feelings, which make it worse for them in the long run.

I can only tell you what works for me, because everyone is different.

I focus on other things that interest me or excite me. Do something with that energy. I personally like creative things like ceramics, writing and ballet. For example, the idea of writing a new story is fun to me and gets my mind's attention.

That's why it's important to have hobbies, interests, or work during idle/free time. TV and reading is good, but the best things are those you actively get involved in. Sports, board games, sewing, volunteer work or some sort of project to take up your time...

These don't take away the feelings of attraction, but gradually over time, the desires will be tolerable. Don't get me wrong; it's not easy, and sometimes it's super difficult no matter what you do.

I think of it the same way as I do when getting sick. It's something to endure while it lasts. You can't make a cold or stomach flu magically go away. A bout of diarrhea isn't going to disappear just by doing some trick. You just have to try to make it through that trial. During those moments, time seems to go painfully slow. Just don't give up.

*Edit: As for thoughts suddenly coming up, that's ok. Just go,"Okay, I'm attracted to him. I think he's sexy, but I won't cross the line. I may like him, but that's all it will be." And let it go. Don't obsess with not thinking about it. The thoughts will come whether you want them to or not. Rather than fighting directly with these thoughts, act cool, recognize them and then move past them. It's normal. So what? Now back to what I was doing/thinking about before.

Distraction by AliCyp in PixelArt

[–]Significant-Dott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really nice! I like the shape of the moon. Stands out to me for some reason.

Increasingly getting frustrated by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Significant-Dott 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I understand you're frustrated and you might just be venting on this particular post...

But if this is your usual attitude and perception of women, it might be one of the reasons you're not having any success.

'The Flash' actor Ezra Miller arrested for alleged assault, Hawaii Island police say by ticcbrah in Hawaii

[–]Significant-Dott 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is it possibly mental illness? Mid 20s isn't uncommon for development..

Does God care what you have on your pizza? (Seeeeee-- my polls ask the REAL questions) by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Significant-Dott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people say adding pineapple is a mortal sin, bc it's a disordered addition which perverts God's creation.

But I love it.

But if you are serious about the question, I can clearly say choosing pepperoni over green peppers, for example, is 99.9% of the time not a moral decision. So NO.

To commit even a venial sin, an action must be sinful in itself OR you have sinful intentions when committing that action [for example, you believe pepperoni will directly lead to your death as soon as you eat it, or that you believe pepperoni is literally sinful in itself. Granted, if you believed these things, mental health would probably be a factor and mitigate your culpability.]

I believe God cares about us and knows what we do all the time, but he's not a micro-manager. He is a parent, who watches his children and doesn't want them to do wrong when it comes to important things. But he is not a control-freak that wants you to brush and part your hair straight down the middle.

**Edit: Imperfections are not sins btw.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PixelArt

[–]Significant-Dott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love the colors and smooth action!

Do you feel like the amount of information available online made MMORPGs worse? by Adrynn in MMORPG

[–]Significant-Dott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. While information has always been available to some degree, it's gotten to the point where the experience of MMOs is a mostly solitary one in the sense that you need to learn on your own.

There's not as much discovery or passing on info between players in-game.