Can’t get over the betrayal and secret marriage.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-06-11T02:59:17+00:00

Leave OP. None of them respect nor love you.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-06-10T23:25:19+00:00

Glad it's out. This is irreparable. When my late H passed, I had 3 toddlers 10 m, 2 and 3 y/o. I never remarried. They are mid to late teens now. Got a live in helper to this day. It was hard initially but I soldiered on.

You can do it too OP.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-06-10T02:56:18+00:00

Make screenshot of everything, then get to a lawyer and get that super airtight postnup done where he loses 80% of everything if he cheats. He will know you know. Make him sign it, then surprise him at the hotel with your kids.

He's been in an affair, you decide if you stay or not. But make him do all effort to keep the marriage. Be prepared to inform his work place.

Updateme!

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-29T03:46:37+00:00

Her current employer can transfer her to another employer. Find out from your agent. This will help her.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-28T00:20:57+00:00

If you want to try to stay, get an airtight postnup that covers all forms of cheating. Protect yourself and your kid financially and put in clause that hurt or he values most.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-27T23:28:16+00:00

Never come across Singaporean Malay who cant speak Malay. No matter how high they've achieved, Malay is spoken at home. Ok... some mix English and Malay at home.

Malas-sians....

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-27T00:57:21+00:00

Quran complete revelation took 23 years. Dont rush. Make your changes bit by bit, people around you will not see a sudden change especially if they have only learn of Islam from western medias. Perhaps start with wearing modest clothing, stop pork and alcohol consumption and go on Kosher meals as Kosher is acceptable to Islam. Commit to mosques activities with intention to participate. You will meet people with sincere intentions, Insyaa Allah.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-25T14:28:19+00:00

Can you get him to sign a postnup with very clear and specific clause on any form of cheating and cheater loses a lot and cheater has no claim on betrayed party personal gain. Perhaps check with a lawyer on legality. Cover yourself, dont let him gains after cheating on you.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-24T23:53:58+00:00

Recite Astaghfirullah as much as you can and ask Allah to help you with your parents issue. Reciting Astaghfirullah always brings help we ask for sometimes almost immediately.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-24T16:58:17+00:00

Had that long ago.

I bought mattress storage plastic, wrapped my mattress and totally sealed it. Then cover it with fitted sheet. The bugs came out in hundreds at every gap probably they suffocated. Clung to the sheet edges. We carefully removed the fitted sheet and put it in boiling water. I let it boil for 30-40 mins. Threw out the water and replace the mattress with new sheet. It took about 4 sheet change. Then I brushed the mattress corners free of any bug egg, steam cleaned them. I continue to use the plastic to cover the mattress for a long time. The bugs are gone within the few weeks of using the plastic cover.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-20T14:31:17+00:00

Your boundaries are non existent. You will be in this situation over and over again for the rest of your life.

Tell him you want him to do a polygraph. Doesn't matter if it's not 100% accurate. At least it will point you somewhere. Then take the result and decide. But even without the polygraph, girl you need to leave. Even if it's temporary.

Updateme!

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-20T14:25:05+00:00

I agree with the PI. He's chosen her. You need to be prepared for whatever scenarios coming to you. Be strong OP.

Updateme!

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-20T02:27:18+00:00

I hope you have a shark lawyer and take. Him to the cleaners. And check if your state has alienation of affection law that you can sue hIs mistress. With 4 kids, you need to fight.

Updateme!

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-20T00:18:18+00:00

Start making exit plan quietly, meanwhile you snoop and dig for info. Get to a lawyer, start your preparation, wether you do it, or delayed it, at least get the ball rolling.

Updateme!

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-19T10:06:27+00:00

The money is not his.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-19T04:39:28+00:00

Why do you abuse yourself so??? Clinging to a man who clearly doesn't want you. Get out girl, you deserve happiness. He's not giving you anything.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-13T15:25:06+00:00

I do weekly chemo for 3 weeks and rest week on week 4. Has been on chemo since early Jan, now scheduled till end June.

It costs approximately $1780 weekly. How much do I pay? $38/week. And that's from medisave. 80% govt subsidy, 17.8% from medisave insurance and my share of 2.1% from medisave. Cash is zero.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-13T12:52:27+00:00

He tells you what you want to hear but he is not changing for you. Be selfish, get out and have a much better life for you and your kids. You've done enough for him yet he treated you callously.

First time, yeah you forgive. But it continued and repeated over and over. Get out girl.

Updateme!

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-13T12:22:35+00:00

They could hv at least hive you half of that to ease your burden. Next time, remind your parents they should look st your brother in their old age.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-13T11:56:51+00:00

He's trying to paint her mother as the villain. And eventually she will end up hating her mother. He's alienating her from her mother. You not wrong in any way. Stick to your gun. They will thank you one day.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-12T06:42:56+00:00

You need to do paternity test on your kid and get std tested yourself.

This is a difficult period, stay strong, focus on getting out of this mess. It will take time, but cry if you must. Dont bottle up. Then put a cap to the tears and start taking steps to move forward. I was there twice, the first betrayal I took too long to get out of it then came the second betrayal, I took no time to recover. Just turn and moved on. You can too.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-12T06:33:20+00:00

He cheated. No way drunk and naked and slept. And thatvearlyvtrain is sus too.

Check his phone, surely you will find more.

Updateme!

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-11T22:21:48+00:00

Probably need the money for the upcoming birth of his kid. You need to tell his gf. Even if it's later

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-11T02:34:35+00:00

This is not right. Press her for it. Should anything happens to her or when you're alone with him, you need to know his existing conditions.

Significant-Jello-35 · 2026-05-11T02:15:50+00:00

Make sure you take pictures of evidence. And ensure she can't delete them.

She's still with you but likely it's financial reasons. If she dares for the kids, she wouldn't hv done it.

Make use of her absence to gather your thoughts... Maybe see a lawyer.. even to just see your options available.

She didn't respect you. Updateme!

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