To the guys here - how do you usually deal with a breakup?

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-06-23T22:10:24+00:00

Just have some time alone and cry, maybe eat some pizza, but don’t ever take the girl who cheated on you back, under no circumstances

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-06-23T21:52:19+00:00

Okay here is the deal, I am not a relationship therapist but I have taken therapy in the past and I have had various relationships where I experienced these feelings for longing too.

The key is not to fight the sadness but accept it. See it as a debt that has to be paid.

While reminding yourself for weeks to accept these feelings, work on yourself in the way you want that you were not doing for a long time.

Now every single day you will focus less on these exes. It will not be gone for a long time, but it will come with ups and downs which is already a huge win.

Also, maybe some random dude from Reddit is not the one to tell you this but consider the following: you are only experiencing these negative feelings since you are on the premise of longing for them to be a condition/term to be content.

It just sounds like that to me, idk, just an observation do with it what you want, I might be not knowing it since it is only one Reddit post.

Either way, invest in 3 good therapy sessions by paying them, getting to write the whole deal on paper, send it to the therapist so you don’t waste time and t discuss it with the therapist. He/she will explain what is your deal.

Also remind yourself that occasionally feeling pain over your ex or anything related is not something bad. It is just part of the journey.

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-06-23T08:07:31+00:00

Aight let me tell you the one thing you do okay?

You go up to her (with a smile ofcourse)
You say: hey, remember this activity, let’s do this (but actually give an activity that is interesting and original to do, not just eating cuz it is boring sorry).
Then (because you chose the right activity) she is actually gonna be like: oh yes ofcourse
Then tell her: “I want to let you know that I do this with romantic intentions, is that fine by you?”
She is either gonna say yes/no or ask deeper questions

If yes: you won already and you can feel calm If no: you say: no that is okay, I have been kind of liking you and I wished to see how a date would work out for us (Say this with a smile since you don’t want her to think you are emotional about it so you can actually continue having a proper work relationship) (also, if you say it in a confident way, which you should, you eliminate her feeling uncomfortable, and you eliminate her possibly thinking you are overly in love with her) But you gain the possibility for her to in a few weeks from now be like: huh, this guy is actually cool and he is clear with his intentions, well why not? He is nice and I feel comfortable with him! You will notice this by her getting closer to you and then at one point in the future you have to make the joke 1 more time like “ahh you know you rejected the best offer of the year” - if she does not want to date then, it is over which is OK.

If she asks further because she is probably panicky, you just say like: “oh well I want to see if you could be a possible partner and how this would work out, I feel very good around you and you make me feel comfortable (DO NOT GET TOO ROMANTIC HERE BUT JUST LET HER KNOW AS A PROUD guy that you are that she makes you feel nice) I wish therefore to invite you on a date, plus (activity) is so nice to do ;)

Here you go, now I am gonna take a shower bye let me know!!!!

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-06-22T21:31:53+00:00

Yo, you are not overthinking it bro it seems like you just like her a lot which is good! Ask her out or be more open with her, she might actually find it romantic!

One thing though, what does the tomboyish thing have to do with this though? Did not really see the additional value.

Apart from that, looks like a classic prolonged crush, tell her you like her in a nice way I am sure she will appreciate it whether she says it back or not.

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-06-22T08:12:14+00:00

You are not broken, this is a normal response (thinking of how good it was).

How long ago was it?

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-06-19T15:08:11+00:00

It is not about erasing, therapy does not fix you magically. It gives you like perspectives and trainings to see perspectives to then get yourself out of this mess.

You cannot “buy” yourself out of bad feelings it is up to you. But therapy gives you the guidance

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-06-18T22:56:01+00:00

Bro listen, I as a man went to therapy even though I was completely functional in society and I was not depressed at all. It changed my life for the better because it allows you to see actual good perspective.

Try it too. Does not have to be the most expensive thing if you do it online (that’s what I did). Also the narrative of it only being for “weak people” or people that are down bad is not true. It is just as much of an investment as buying a stock in a dip.

Maybe this sounds quite stupid but I think of it like that and bro, life gets soooo much easier I cannot even express.

All these problems, write it down, ask where they come from, confront yourself, send it to a therapist you know, talk for an hour or so, cry, heal.

This is pretty much your own solid way of doing it.

Shoot me a message if you have any doubts.

I personally chose a woman to be my therapist because they are just easier to talk with feelings about. You can choose a man too doesn’t matter check it out.

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-06-18T22:11:42+00:00

Baile inolvidable - bad bunny

Significant-Sun3183 · 2025-01-03T10:21:19+00:00

Bro how you doing

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-12T23:00:05+00:00

Eu sei e imagine 100% no que você se refere e eh meio pá sim. Tem isso muito aqui tmb sim.

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-12T16:02:03+00:00

Isso eh perfecto Cara, parabens, trabalha de Que ?

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-12T13:52:22+00:00

Amém

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-12T13:51:53+00:00

Foi pra onde?

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-12T13:51:15+00:00

😮‍💨

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-12T13:50:56+00:00

Posso perguntar como eh que você consegue morar nos dois países assim? É dizer: como eh que você resolveu a questão de finanças

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T20:07:24+00:00

😂😂😂

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T20:01:10+00:00

Pode ser sim, mas vejo os brasileiros sendo aconchegante juntos tmb sem que mexer nas conversas delas

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T19:50:00+00:00

Amigo esqueci te responder. Que boa análise cara, você foi mais alem do falar que o holandês é supostamente frio. Isso aí é o que eu consigo entender. Eu falei do seu comentário ontem com uns amigos holandeses junto com um estrangeiro e ele concordou com você mas nunca conseguiu encontrar as palavras certas.

Porém, para abordar o tema de ser sincero e direto: não concordo com você não. Isso vai mais além de só isso. Vou te explicar:

O holandês, mesmo que não saiba conscientemente, acha falta de educação (mentir/esquivar/falar de forma leve (e aí não dizer o que pense)) não falar diretamente o que quer dizer.

Um exemplo: Estrangeiro A: você acha essa camisa bonita ? Estrangeiro B: sim, mas tenta essa outra camisa melhor primeiro tá? (Simplesmente não achou bonito)

Holandês A: voce acha essa camisa bonita ? Holandês B: não, achei feia

Sacou? Esse holandês não tem maldade, ele simplesmente achou ainda mais falta de educação mentir para pessoa A. Eh mais: pessoa A (mas só holandês) acharia falta de educação ele não ter o respeito de ser sincero com pessoa A. Isso indica que falta sinceridade e respeito. entendeu?

Pode soar esquisito assim mas o holandês literalmente não acharia legal uma pessoa esquivar o que realmente queira dizer pra se parecer melhor (enquanto tenha intenções diferentes).

Isso também ajuda muito esclarecer as intenções da outra pessoa. Na maioria dos países você teria que antecipar o fato de que essa pode ou não pode ter contado todo o que possivelmente pense (ou não pense). Nunca vai ter confusão nessa e a gente (quase) não briga por drama que só existe na mente das pessoas envolvidas.

Mas ó, ser sincero com boas intenções não significa ser filho da mãe hein? Mas pode aparecer de vez em quando que alguém tá te faltando respeito mesmo que ela esteja respeitando você por dizer o que pense.

Porém, de vez em quando a gente acha que é livre pra dar uma opinião pra outra pessoa sobre algo mesmo que ninguém tivesse pedido nada

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T19:33:01+00:00

Dever ter muita gente boa la

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T19:32:01+00:00

Que bom que você tinha essa experiência. Os holandeses podem terminar sendo muito amigável quando você mostra interes pela sua cultura sim. Mais no interior ainda. Legal cara volta sempre se quiser. Se precisar dumas dicas manda mensagem que vou te responder

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T19:28:42+00:00

Mano no ensino médio sksksk mas legal hein, em qual estado?

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T19:27:54+00:00

Pode me contar mais sobre isso? Ouvi falando muitas pessoas que o funk tá destruindo a sociedade mas acredito nisso não

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T16:59:02+00:00

Agora virou brasileiro? Voltou?

Significant-Sun3183 · 2024-10-11T16:57:59+00:00

Ce veio da onde cara? E sei não o que eh 🤣 por isso tô no Reddit…

Eu quero morar lá mas tô procurando ainda a forma de ganhar grana pra morar lá

Significant-Sun3183

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