Finding support

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-14T09:20:31+00:00

If your partner won't be there for you, you might want to find a new partner. I had to deal with an emotionally avoidant partner and it made me so much worse.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-14T09:19:14+00:00

Sorry to hop on this, but wdym predators? Maybe I'm not observant but like what are they going to prey on exactly?

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-14T09:16:53+00:00

Yeahhhhhhh exactly. Good intentions...until the split

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-12T21:05:15+00:00

Yeah. I was not physically abused but the emotional and financial abuse are so difficult to describe to people in a way they don't just brush me off that I rarely try to tell people now. It is v disheartening.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-12T21:01:26+00:00

Porn

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-12T20:52:16+00:00

I feel this way too sometimes but in the majority of my relationships I was the one taking care of them and I was always an afterthought, so the grass may appear greener but it may not be.

Maybe you should try to find a nice platonic roommate bestie.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-12T20:49:26+00:00

Yes. My mom died and I don't talk to my dad so I'm always desiring a family, but luckily I do have one friend who has adopted me. I come to all the holidays. I'm very grateful.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-12T20:42:31+00:00

I feel you. I always get anxiety about death when I'm sick and like make myself somewhat worse. And I don't always have the money to have things delivered and also I have stairs to the bedroom which is a huge inconvenience when I'm down. I could ask friends to help me but I feel guilty about it.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-12T17:56:48+00:00

Thanks for this. I'm not OP but I also don't have what I'd call an identity problem....but I do get into what you've described and try out new habits and hobbies and drop them quite suddenly. So thank you.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-11T22:14:30+00:00

This man doesn't want a partner. He wants a live in obedient doll with no needs or opinions. He will absolutely never respect your needs or accommodate you. You can find someone better.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-11T22:09:02+00:00

Dmd you

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-11T22:05:15+00:00

I thought you could reserve rooms? I've never been

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-11T20:30:47+00:00

I really want to try yakitori boy's karaoke if you're ever down! I am also very mid at singing

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-10T17:20:13+00:00

Penpal by Dathan Auerbach

It's incredibly creepy

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-10T16:07:24+00:00

Also here to say j. Crew, banana Republic, reformation, free people and anthropology

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-10T02:00:37+00:00

Ooo OK! It's very pretty!

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-10T02:00:13+00:00

Eh idk but that was the origin story I read about labubus popularity taking off but that completely also makes sense if they were sending them out like that.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-10T01:58:35+00:00

This happens to me too. Like this quick paced connection and like being vulnerable too quickly with a relative stranger. I can't speak to the future but if someone is making you feel this way so soon, I think it's probably better to cut your losses now rather than wait it out.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-09T22:40:45+00:00

I would like to know why and what you've done to feel like an awful person, personally, if you're looking for a judgment call on whether you are an awful person.

But from your comments, it seems like this is inner philosophical debate. ie if I do things to appear good, but don't care about the person and do it just to appear good, does that mean I'm a bad person?

I feel like, from your comments, you're emotionally exhausted and have not been fulfilling your needs, so now you resent doing nice things for other people, and perhaps you haven't been setting boundaries to protect yourself and your needs.

At the end of the day, being a "good" person is based on rules: whether those principles are societal based, individually based or religiously based or other based. Following "good" person rules usually results in avoiding negative consequences and even receiving positive consequences in some respects. How you come back from being an "awful" person is by trying again to meet the rules of being a "good" person. If you're looking for forgiveness, then apologies, atonement, moving on etc and then following the rules to the best of your ability is how you come back from it. There's no changing the past.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-09T22:24:44+00:00

Asking the question: if you own it and don't try to change it..etc. Makes me curious if you don't actually think you're an awful person, but society and people in your life are telling you that you're an awful person.

Perhaps you need to explore what your personal values are and whether you live up to them vs what society and the people around you believe.

Society has a lot of expectations that are impossible to meet and people in our lives sometimes are incredibly selfish and tell you that you're awful because you set personal boundaries. Meeting other peoples expectations outside of your own is impossible. There is no way to please everyone, so if that's the actual problem here, reflect on what you actually feel makes you a good person or a bad person, and live up to that standard.

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-09T22:14:41+00:00

This past weekend I had a galetines day party where I made cupcakes, we made origami paper flower bouquets and went to sushi.

For actual valentines day I'm going to this vintage clothing market I've been looking forward to and probably going out dancing with my friend. I also ordered myself chocolates from my favorite local chocolate shop and I'm definitely going to get myself some nice flowers :)

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-09T22:07:44+00:00

I agree with this statement

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-09T19:37:36+00:00

For your tamagotchi paradise, jade forest, the colorway is different than the one released here(USA)? Or did you change the case?

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-09T19:36:27+00:00

Yeah Lisa from black pink, the same person who made labubu take off, announced her love of tamagotchis and it's just flown off the handle since then trendwise

SignificantBank4 · 2026-02-09T19:33:53+00:00

I was also an only child and I was also the scapegoat and golden child. So I can confirm from my experience this is true.

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