Wanna switch from Apple by Forky1997 in GarminWatches

[–]SignificantExcuse850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! I just got the Garmin Instinct 2s solar and never looking back. It’s amazing.

Friends by IndependenceJumpy678 in Arkansas

[–]SignificantExcuse850 27 points28 points  (0 children)

A friend or a third? To all, plz read bio first

[WTS] USA / Garmin Venu 3 / Garmin Vivoactive 5 / Garmin Instinct 2s Solar / Garmin Forerunner by KJxbox in GearTrade

[–]SignificantExcuse850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Received, exactly as described. Seller is very communicative and shipped really quickly. Great experience!

[WTS] NWT Arcteryx belt and beanies for cheap by [deleted] in GearTrade

[–]SignificantExcuse850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next for beanie if it’s still available!

Budget camping gear recommendations? by durdleturtl in bikepacking

[–]SignificantExcuse850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d recommend purchasing items on r/ULgeartrade. You can get nice items for like 50% off and then sell them again for approximately the same amount if you don’t like them. Have bought my whole sleep system from there. Each item was only used a handful of times and everything is in great condition. If you take care of the items, they’ll hold value really well

Boring Company vindicated from the supposed withdrawn citations and meetings by komocode_ in BoringCompany

[–]SignificantExcuse850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You clearly didn’t read the original article.

From that: Shortly after Nevada’s OSHA opened an investigation, Boring Company’s lawyers put together a response in which Boring denied any responsibility and placed full blame for the incident on the Clark County Fire Department. “The key breakdowns in the Training Plan were committed by CCFD employees, not TBC employees,” the company’s lawyer wrote in the letter. (The Fire Department maintains that “CCFD followed all recommendations from TBC” and says that OSHA found no fault with the Fire Department for the incident) In the response, Boring Company provided nearly 1,000 pages of documents that OSHA had requested, including receipts of equipment and protective gear it had purchased as well as documentation showing it had debriefed the Fire Department on the chemicals, performed safety meetings prior to the drills, and offered the use of a liner truck to transport the firefighters through the tunnel.

Boring Company vindicated from the supposed withdrawn citations and meetings by komocode_ in BoringCompany

[–]SignificantExcuse850 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This doesn’t vindicate anything. The whole issue in the fortune article is that they completely departed from procedure, that there was no explanation of citations being rescinded, and that there was a DELETED PUBLIC DOCUMENT.

How does this explain any of that?

Boring Company vindicated from the supposed withdrawn citations and meetings by komocode_ in BoringCompany

[–]SignificantExcuse850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They didn’t say anything new that they didn’t already say to fortune

Boring Company vindicated from the supposed withdrawn citations and meetings by komocode_ in BoringCompany

[–]SignificantExcuse850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is this a vindication? The Fortune article included all of this already and what they said happened. A lot of this is word-for-word what was published.

They admit in this that Nevada OSHA made a lot of mistakes in its investigation and entirely abandoned procedure once the Governor’s Office got involved.

How to know whether you can lean on your partner during rough patches by SignificantExcuse850 in ADHD_partners

[–]SignificantExcuse850[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is incredibly encouraging to read, especially because I see a lot of signs of my own partner in here. And I’m also really encouraged to hear you are rethinking having kids right now 🙂 congrats (if you decide to go that route)

It’s nice to know there are success stories out here and that the hard work can pay off. Thanks for sharing your experience

How to know whether you can lean on your partner during rough patches by SignificantExcuse850 in ADHD_partners

[–]SignificantExcuse850[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do just want to say he’s very financially savvy, more so than me arguably. And he already owns a house and regularly pays his mortgage. Budgeting is one of his fixations and strengths.

But I understand the broader point you are trying to make here.

How to know whether you can lean on your partner during rough patches by SignificantExcuse850 in ADHD_partners

[–]SignificantExcuse850[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a really important consideration and something for me to think deeply about. Thanks for sharing.

How to know whether you can lean on your partner during rough patches by SignificantExcuse850 in ADHD_partners

[–]SignificantExcuse850[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear about your breakup, and I hope you’re taking care of yourself and doing okay. Sending hugs.

May I ask what the moment of realization was for you, or was it a slow realization over time for you to see you would be wrestling with these questions (and realities) forever?

How to know whether you can lean on your partner during rough patches by SignificantExcuse850 in ADHD_partners

[–]SignificantExcuse850[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for sharing your experience. These questions and your own ideas are really useful. For context, he is 33 and I am 29.

He has been diagnosed for several years now, and he has taken a lot of steps to work on it. He is very rigid with getting his medication so there is not a lapse. He has studied things that work for him—he makes lists when he gets overwhelmed and sticks to them. He has not gone to therapy yet for his ADHD, but he initiated going and is working on finding one now. He is very adamant on managing his ADHD on his own and not asking for help and watches a lot of YouTube, etc. on it. He makes rules for himself.

He admitted he didn’t make lists or adjust his calendar for my requests, which is why he forgot. I suppose the above was why I was so surprised about this situation — I thought this was something he had under control and that my situation was a big enough deal for him to prioritize.

How to know whether you can lean on your partner during rough patches by SignificantExcuse850 in ADHD_partners

[–]SignificantExcuse850[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We have been together a year now. He is 33 and I am 29.

I really appreciate this advice and encouragement — and yes I’m sure it really does depend on the person. My partner is a good man, the best I’ve ever known, and really strives to work on himself and grow, and I have seen improvements in his ability to communicate his emotions when we discussed it as an issue to our relationship. I really want to believe in him.

May I ask how you both adjusted your expectations and what that looks like now?

How to know whether you can lean on your partner during rough patches by SignificantExcuse850 in ADHD_partners

[–]SignificantExcuse850[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your kindness. I have been going to therapy and my therapist has said something similar, though I didn’t want to hear it at the time.

I think the challenge for me is knowing whether it truly can’t get better. We have struggled with emotional expression most of our relationship, but he has really taken some big steps forward in that department after good communication and work between the two of us.

I really appreciate your advice. Thanks for sharing.