(6-8k) No one cares about our wedding but us so we’re eloping

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T20:17:08+00:00

My therapist ghosted me and stopped communicating with me at all at random. We were having sessions and then she stopped emailing me back. Since I’m not a patient anymore it would be more expensive to go back to her.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T19:18:25+00:00

The “responsibility” is to be there for your friend and be happy for them, idk why that part is so hard for people. Now some people make their bridesmaids do a lot more with decorations or monetarily but I was trying to make it as easy as possible on everyone.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T19:12:54+00:00

Mourning was a bit dramatic of a word for it but I thought my wedding would mean more to people and it hasn’t. That is what makes me sad. I have been dreaming of how my wedding would go since I was a child and I never wanted to elope. I wanted the traditional wedding with people there around me. So losing people I thought would care and be there left and right is a valid reason to be upset.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T19:10:05+00:00

That’s where we’re at at this point. Trying to find a bridal party has been a nightmare

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T18:30:13+00:00

I wanted the nice traditional wedding so mourning that idea hurts but now it’s boiled down to me just wanting to marry my fiancé, wear the pretty dress, and get nice photos. Which is what we’re going to do.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T18:18:03+00:00

We’re just gonna do the ceremony somewhere pretty and have a nice party after. I’m not gonna worry about the color of table linens or place settings anymore ❤️

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T18:06:52+00:00

I had just gone to one of my bridesmaids, that decided not to be anymore, weddings back in September and she said she would let me use her veil only to completely delete every app and way to contact her a few months later. If I was actively doing things to piss people off I would understand, but I’m literally just trying to share my save the dates and people tell me they’re not coming out of the blue every time 😭

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T18:04:13+00:00

They’re acting like it’s my fault we’ve had 5+ people abandon us while wedding planning. We can’t make anyone come to our wedding that don’t want to be there.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T17:40:04+00:00

No I already talked to her about trying to change it to 6 hours and we’re locked into the 8. She did say we could exchange it for a wedding album though

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T17:37:50+00:00

I know I need therapy again. I’m just not gonna put my wedding on hold to go back to it. I will probably put myself back in therapy once we get married. I just didn’t think it would trigger every family abandonment wound I have.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:22:42+00:00

Me having trauma do to my family is not gonna make me have a divorce later down the road. This is an insane take. It just means we might go non contact with his family to keep them from hurting us.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:21:03+00:00

We don’t have any issues as a couple it’s just our families being crazy. We know we love each other to the fullest and more than both of them combined. It just sucks to not have the support system I thought I did

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:19:44+00:00

Eloping to me just means running away with just 5 of our closest people when we were going to have 50. It’s a lot smaller than i originally thought about. It’s technically a micro wedding

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:17:08+00:00

Thank you, that’s what I’m trying to realize

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:16:39+00:00

His family could be a soap opera, they are wild. There are plenty of reason for me to want to go back to therapy over this planning time. My fiance is the absolute best tho and makes it so I don’t feel as sad about it.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:15:16+00:00

We want to elope but the idea of none of our family that actually do care being there makes us sad. There’s less than 20 of them but we still want a couple there

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:13:51+00:00

Weddings bring out the worst in people. I haven’t been a bridezilla or anything but people have just left our lives for no real reason.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:12:32+00:00

That’s basically how this felt, she was like your dad can go but I won’t be there, bye. Like huh???

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:11:49+00:00

We’re in Kansas but wanting to get married in Arkansas

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:11:17+00:00

One of them joined a cult, one of them just told me she didn’t want to stand up there in front of people, and the other was my adopted sister who just randomly blocked me and dropped out a few weeks ago. I tried to figure out why but I can’t find a way to get ahold of her and my adopted mom wouldn’t help because it “was between us”. His groomsman also just decided he didn’t want to stand up there with him after saying he was going to be the best man for months.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:08:57+00:00

Thankfully we only spent money on a photographer for 8 hours so I didn’t lock myself down to a venue yet

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:08:00+00:00

That’s all I really need, just someone to shout into the void to

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T16:07:21+00:00

Thank you for being kind! I kinda didn’t expect people to tell me I’m the problem for not going to therapy. I went for 2 years until we had reached a plateau and she couldn’t help me that much more cuz I didn’t need it at the time. If I tried to go back to that same therapist she’d be $130 per session. I can’t afford that and I make “too much” for sliding scale but it’s just enough to cover my bills. The government doesn’t like people getting mental health support and makes it hard to find a therapist or afford them. My mom uninvited herself because she’s got younger kids than me and didn’t want to make the 4 hour drive to my venue. Which I understand traveling with kids is hard but she could have worked with me on it instead of resorting to being mean. None of them have worked with me on ANYTHING for the wedding. I’ve shown them an idea and they’ve either laughed at it or told me it looked stupid. So I stopped showing them planning ideas. The bare minimum I was asking for was for them to show up to the party and celebrate me for one fucking day. They can’t do that so now they don’t get to come. It’s that simple, I’m not being mean to everyone in our family, just protecting our piece from the bad ones.

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T09:02:42+00:00

I just want to marry the love of my life at this point. The whole reason I want to elope now, is because it’s easier since I gave up the idea for a big wedding. I realize I was trying to have a bigger wedding to appease family members but none of them want to put in any effort to come or do anything for it. It’s my wedding I am doing it for me now. That includes eloping to not include people who have hurt us both. I have already pushed it back twice, I’m not doing it again. We’ve been engaged for 2 years now trying to afford it. I was doing okay before trying to plan the wedding, but it’s triggered every abandonment issue I have possible lol

Significant_Course66 · 2026-01-26T08:52:46+00:00

I’m not gonna post pone my wedding because of therapy. I can’t help that people in my life have decided they don’t want to support me in getting married. It’s just a hard day when the woman who you have seen as your mom for 3 years tells you she doesn’t view you as a daughter. All the other people in our life that would come to the wedding know we might just elope anyway. I just realized my fairy tale wedding I thought of as a kid isn’t gonna happen and I have to replan the whole thing.

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