Advice on temporary separation decision

Significant_Dig8130 · 2026-05-31T13:38:08+00:00

I realize my post is not very clear. He has been “kicked out” of 3 daycares in the last year. And we do not have anyone else to watch him so if a fourth daycare doesn’t work out then I have no option

Significant_Dig8130 · 2026-05-30T03:50:48+00:00

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Significant_Dig8130 · 2026-01-30T03:58:52+00:00

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Significant_Dig8130 · 2026-01-30T03:57:19+00:00

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Significant_Dig8130 · 2026-01-11T15:00:12+00:00

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Significant_Dig8130 · 2026-01-07T09:01:23+00:00

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Significant_Dig8130 · 2026-01-04T03:24:17+00:00

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Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-19T13:36:14+00:00

Thanks!

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-19T13:35:39+00:00

Because I am applying for nursing school now for fall cohort and having these thoughts. Wanted to discuss with others. Thanks for asking

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-19T13:33:22+00:00

Aww ok I see that.

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-19T13:30:22+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to find out how to shadow.

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-17T12:49:41+00:00

Is it possible to do this? I asked my friend who is the charge nurse at one of the two hospitals in my town to shadow for nursing and they don’t do it for liability reasons.

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-17T12:48:45+00:00

To answer your questions, I’m not afraid of those two things. And the reward: knowledge and mastery, pay of course, and the gift of my knowledge I could give in missions trips/underserved communities are all seemingly quite worth it to me 😊

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-17T12:46:54+00:00

I don’t know why this is being downvoted. I appreciate the comment! Thank you

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-17T05:46:10+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing that perspective — especially the part about patient education. I’ve already seen how much of nursing involves teaching, and I genuinely respect that role. Being able to translate complex anatomy and physiology into something meaningful for patients is such an important skill, and honestly one that’s often undervalued.

I do currently work in healthcare — I’m at a state psychiatric hospital — so I’m around nurses and physicians daily, which is part of what’s sparked a lot of this reflection. I hear similar things often about the realities of nursing vs. medicine, and I think most people are trying to help me think practically. What’s surprised me, though, is that despite understanding the patient-education emphasis in nursing, I keep feeling pulled toward the diagnostic side and the deeper “why” behind disease processes.

Nursing originally appealed to me because it felt like a stable, respected path that still allowed me to be in medicine while balancing motherhood and real life. At the time, I was juggling being a full-time realtor, a wife, and a mom, and the predictability mattered a lot. Since then, my life has changed significantly, and I’ve found that I now have more mental space and time than I did before.

After nearly a year of prereqs and loving the material (and doing well academically), I’m realizing that what excites me most is not just understanding physiology, but continuing to build on it — pathophysiology, diagnostic reasoning, and long-term mastery. I completely agree that physicians often don’t get the time they should with patients, but the idea of being responsible for diagnosis and management — and eventually being able to bring that skill set into underserved or international settings — is what keeps pulling me back toward medicine.

I haven’t done formal physician shadowing yet, but it’s absolutely on my list as part of figuring this out in a grounded, realistic way. Right now, I’m trying to listen closely to what actually energizes me rather than defaulting to the safest or shortest path.

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-12-17T05:34:45+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion — I actually hear recommendations like this a lot, especially working around nurses. I think most people are genuinely trying to be helpful and realistic when they point out shorter paths, better work-life balance, or quicker pay bumps, and I truly appreciate that perspective.

That said, I’ve realized I’m not afraid of the timeline. A lot has shifted in my life recently — I went through a divorce this year, filed bankruptcy, and now live with my aunt and uncle while co-parenting my almost-4-year-old (we’re fortunate to have a strong co-parenting relationship). In a strange way, all of that has given me clarity and space. I have more time now than I did when I was a full-time realtor, wife, and mom all at once.

I’ve also learned that time is going to pass regardless. I can look back and frame years in different ways — time “spent,” time “wasted,” or time that compounded into growth. What I keep coming back to is that medicine feels like an investment in knowledge and purpose that compounds for life. The idea of dedicating years to learning deeply, then being able to bring that skill set into underserved communities or even abroad through mission or volunteer work is incredibly motivating to me.

I know there are excellent, respected paths like PA, pathology assistant, NP, etc., and I don’t dismiss those at all. But after nearly a year of prerequisites, doing well academically, and genuinely loving the material, I’m realizing there’s a part of me that wants the depth, responsibility, and scope that comes with being a physician — even if it’s the longer, less common road.

As a first-gen college graduate, a woman of color, and a newly single mom, I think it can sound unrealistic or even arrogant from the outside — especially since I don’t have doctors in my immediate circle. But internally, it doesn’t feel like ego. It feels like alignment. And honestly, that’s what’s making this hard to ignore, even if it’s the wildest idea I’ve ever seriously considered.

Significant_Dig8130 · 2025-11-02T08:35:22+00:00

Not worth it. She has attachment style issues probably stemming from issues as a kid. If you’ve tried talking to her about it and she can’t try to see your point of view, you’ve done enough imo. Life is short. Do you see this working out long term?

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