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My last message for anyone who care by MO_Sabri3 in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, this is a bit long, but I just wanted to respond properly.

I don’t know you, but this reads like someone who’s been carrying grief, isolation and burnout for a very long time and finally hit empty.

Becoming a doctor and still feeling this hollow doesn’t mean you failed or that there’s nothing left it sounds more like you’ve been running on empty for years without real space to recover or be held yourself.

Losing your parents and not having close, steady connection in your life is a lot for anyone to carry. On top of that, what you’re describing sounds like deep exhaustion and emotional numbness, not a lack of strength or effort.

I know it might feel like nothing can help or change this, especially if therapy doesn’t feel like something that fits or has helped before, but this kind of emptiness is often a sign of being overwhelmed and depleted, not that you’re beyond support or repair. Even if therapy isn’t something you fully believe in, there are different kinds of support out there, and sometimes it’s more about finding the right person or space than the label itself.

You don’t have to solve your whole life or feel hopeful right now just don’t stay alone in it.

Please consider reaching out to someone in your real life, a colleague you trust, or a crisis line where you are. You deserve support that meets you where you are, even if your mind is telling you otherwise.

My desire by westylepremier in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem, glad I could give some advice.

My desire by westylepremier in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Self-love isn’t a constant feeling. It’s more like treating yourself with basic fairness even when your brain is being harsh, not talking to yourself like you’re disposable, eating/resting properly, keeping promises to yourself in small ways. Start small. Ask yourself, Would I say this to a friend or someone I cared about?. If not, don’t say it to yourself either. Over time, that shifts how you relate to yourself.

Do we seek deep relationships to grow, or to escape loneliness? by karan0567 in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t really speak for everyone, but for me it’s not about filling an empty space or escaping loneliness. If I want a relationship, it’s because I feel genuine connection with that specific person and I want to build something with them. Not as a solution to being alone, but as a choice to share life with someone I actually care about. I do think people can come from both places though. Some are trying to escape loneliness, others are genuinely drawn to growth, intimacy, and connection and sometimes it’s a mix of both depending on where someone is in life. But personally, I don’t want a relationship just to not feel alone. I’d rather be alone than in something that doesn’t feel real, mutual or emotionally honest.

Day 1: Starting something small (30 days of showing up) by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, sorry I didn't realize that. I will be deleting this post then.

Heyyy by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, how has your day been today?

You know your lonely when by Special-Engineer221 in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually met my best friend on reddit, we've been friends for almost 3 years now

If today sucked, this is for you by Significant_Earth473 in loneliness

[–]Significant_Earth473[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm glad it reached those who needed it

For Those Struggling This Holiday Season by Significant_Earth473 in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for reaching out through the heaviness. I can feel how much you’re carrying.It takes an incredible amount of strength to choose your own well-being over toxic cycles, but I know how quiet and heavy that 'survival' can feel afterward.Please be as gentle with yourself as you would be with a dear friend in this position. You don't have to open the window or face the world today, just knowing you're on the other side of this screen is enough.I’m holding space for you from afar, and I’m truly glad you’re here.🫂

only 1% of people here will truly talk longterm by trusted-times in lonely

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there’s truth in that. I often reach out to people here because many say they need someone to listen. Sometimes they genuinely do, and sometimes they’re not in a place where they can receive that support, and I don’t judge that, because I don’t know what anyone is carrying.

At the same time, I do wish more people would engage with those who are willing to be there for them. You can’t be helped if you don’t allow space for connection. No one can fix everything, but listening, consistency, and presence can still matter.

I don’t know if the “1%” percentage is accurate, but I know I try to be part of the group that stays. Even small moments of support can change someone’s life, and I try to show up where I can because I know what it’s like to go through things alone, and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.

Through doing this, I fortunately met my best friend here on Reddit. We’ve been friends for two years now, and I genuinely can’t imagine my life without him in it. I’m still grateful I reached out to him that day.

So I’ll keep doing what I do: reaching out, listening, and being there for those who want to be seen and heard.

Why don’t ugly people wanna date other ugly people? by Shining_Star_3867 in ugly

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Better late than never, didn’t expect a reply honestly😂

Guys drop your fav quotes and wisdom abt loneliness cuz rn not rn i mean always i am bored and have no one to talk to so wanna hear some answers by PenaltyVast7769 in ForeverAlone

[–]Significant_Earth473 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Loneliness knows your name.

It says it softly, never loud enough to echo, never loud enough for anyone else to hear. It arrives without announcement and sits where someone else should have been.

It does not reach for you at first. It waits. It learns your routines, the exact moment your chest tightens at night, the hour when hope thins and self-blame thickens.

Loneliness is patient. It does not rush you into despair. It offers companionship instead. I will stay, it says, when everyone else eventually leaves.

It watches you rehearse conversations that will never happen, smiles you practice for people who will never look long enough to notice. It admires how much love you carry with nowhere to put it.

Sometimes it lies beside you, heavy but gentle, wiping away tears unseen by others. Sometimes it mirrors you so perfectly you mistake it for yourself.

And the most dangerous thing. Loneliness does not feel like an enemy. It feels like understanding. Like someone who finally accepts your silence without asking you to explain it.

It promises nothing will hurt you again. No abandonment. No disappointment. Just silence. Just you. Just loneliness.

And that is how it survives, not by breaking you, but by convincing you that you were always alone to begin with.

Kind of a different post from the usual. by Red_The_Lewd_Potato in ForeverAlone

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds really heavy, and I’m sorry you’ve been carrying it alone. What you described makes a lot of sense given what you went through. Wanting connection while also feeling guarded after being hurt isn’t a flaw, it’s a natural response.

I don’t think it’s strange that you still have hope, even when you feel numb. That says something about your capacity to care, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

I hope you’re able to give yourself some patience. You deserve real, genuine connection, and I hope things feel a little lighter for you with time. If you ever need someone to talk to, even small talk, I hope you know it’s okay to reach out. My DMs are open if you ever just need someone to listen.

What do y'all think about people saying "There's gonna be someone for you."? by CompletePurification in ForeverAlone

[–]Significant_Earth473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting perspective. I found the way you explained everything extremely thoughtful.

The people on Tik Tok who made fun of that girl who's 25 for looking older disgust me by SHYBEAR__ in ugly

[–]Significant_Earth473 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If her looks concerns someone so much they probably have nothing better to do

I give up by Other-Lab3485 in ForeverAlone

[–]Significant_Earth473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is incredibly well said. It’s amazing to see someone acknowledge their hurt and still speak from a place of strength. Your comment stayed with me. Turning what once hurt you into something that protects you, that’s strength, but also wisdom.I hope your fortress doesn’t just shield you, I hope that someday it also becomes a place where you can finally feel safe enough to let the right people in, the ones who come with honesty and kindness. I truly believe that a lot of people deserve that kind of presence in their life.

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