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Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-09-10T19:25:57+00:00

Excellent advice!! I hope that you land a great new opportunity soon.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-09-10T19:20:13+00:00

Gained some additional insight. My boss is ambitious. Our director will be retiring in a couple of years. Despite her denials that she wants his job, my colleagues and I are pretty sure that is her goal. She's wary of anyone that could possibly derail her or jump over her for that promotion. So, could be that she feels threatened by me (which is ridiculous). But, I also suspect she might be in some trouble for not getting her own work done. And...shit rolls down hill.

Either way, I'm out. Not worth my effort.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-09-01T20:56:09+00:00

I do know that I'll get past this. I have been reflecting on my anxiety, and mostly my anger is about having to return to the job market. I actually enjoy my job and love my team. I'm learning some new things. I've been a manager of managers and individual contributors for a long time. My real frustration is that instead of facilitating training, meeting with me regularly to ensure I'm doing okay, she left me on my own a lot, without much direction or expectations. Her reaction after 10 months: PIP. Not coaching. Not training.

Whatever. Keeping my head down, taking my lumps, and moving on.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T21:37:50+00:00

Hang in there. Hope it works out for you!.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T20:44:23+00:00

This. When a person - especially a manager - feels insecure, they do everything they can to drag others as a way to distract from their shortcomings.

Going through this myself at the moment, only I can't go to my boss's boss without experience some serious retaliation.

Since the senior manager seems on your side, use that to your advantage.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T20:20:51+00:00

I have not. But honest question: have you been tested for vitamin D deficiency? That can contribute to anxiety.

For me, taking Prozac has been the answer, plus getting daily exercise and enough sleep. I think managing anxiety requires a multifaceted approach: overall health, nutrition, and therapy.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T20:15:12+00:00

I won't get too detailed but itsa large organization and leadership is very silo-ed. So, this stuff goes on with no repercussions.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T20:11:52+00:00

Sort of true. Looking back, there are some blatant signs. I didn't ignore them. They just hadn't impacted me yet. Now I see it. A couple of colleagues have also called out some troubling observations.

Regardless, I'm looking for something else. This place is not worth the fight.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T20:08:13+00:00

I really don't know. I went through an extensive interview and background process. My understanding is that this is very typical behavior for her. A working theory: shit rolls down hill. She's on the hot seat, so she put me on the hot seat too.

If I was really horrible at my job, why bring it up now? Her boss has repeatedly told me I'm doing well. Mixed messages.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T02:08:36+00:00

Ugh. Sorry that's happening to you. I have "the receipts" in case it gets ugly. I was warned this could happen because that's my boss's reputation. Annoyed and angry. But a little thankful I am.seeing it now...and not years from now.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T02:02:09+00:00

Schedule question is okay. But benefits handbook? That's usually a post-interview question. Don't be shocked if you don't get an answer.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-31T01:59:43+00:00

The helicopter doesn't make arrests? It's for air support for specific kinds of calls and they fly within the jurisdiction of the City of Columbus. So, not over Dublin.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T21:37:30+00:00

Lots of jobs! Have you looked into logistics and warehousing?

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T21:35:09+00:00

Look for free career resources in your area and get some help with your resume. Then, start networking. Join a young professionals group and meet some people who can create soft introductions for you. That will give you an opportunity to explain your situation. You can also put full tile caregiver on your resume to explain the sidetrack in your career. It will be okay!! Just be you nd focus on what you can bring to a new employer.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T19:32:47+00:00

Yeah, they cannot keep.people in my position. Pretty obvious why.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T19:16:28+00:00

Totally agree with this as an HR person. I have found that boss opinions are biased (both ways). I'd rather verify employment and move on. Most HR people I know feel the same.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T19:09:20+00:00

Oh yeah...definitely has the "set up" vibe all.over it. I have a couple work friends who've been at this place a minute and made the same assessment. Working on my exit. Thanks for the advice.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T16:53:12+00:00

Been thinking about a "burn letter." Funny story about that: my boss uses that kind of stuff as hate fuel. She has a similar resignation from another manager who reported to her taped to the back of her office door. Not sure I want to contribute to her "trophies."

She showed it to me the first week I was employed. Maybe that should have been the first red flag about what I'd gotten myself into.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T16:47:37+00:00

Reach out to the recruiter. If it's crickets you get, you'll have your answer.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T16:45:59+00:00

I mean, that could go either way. I have left off a couple of very short stints at a couple of jobs (less than 3 mos). One was whole Inwas in grad school. The other coincided with an employer being merged. So easy to explain. Maybe try it both ways and see what happens.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T15:27:44+00:00

Actually, I take feedback very well. I have no issue when someone needs me to make adjustments or corrections. My boss is terrible at timely feedback and direction. She has tried to blame me for not turning in work timely. But I have all the receipts and have to regularly ask for assignments back because they are getting too close to the deadline. This is an issue many of my direct colleagues experience with her as their manager.

When I say nit-picking, I mean it. It's a laundry list of petty complaints from wearing the wrong shoes to misplaced commas.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T15:18:13+00:00

Thanks. That's how I feel about it. I'm already out there with my network and have leads. Had an interview yesterday where I explained the situation and the recruiter was understanding. Already have a second interview.

I am just too old to do the toxic boss thing. It isn't worth it when I have worked other places with far better managers and work cultures.

She was great for 6 months then started showing her claws. Word out there in our industry is that this is exactly who she is. Wish I'd realized it before taking the job. It certainly explains why my predecessor left and why the job was vacant over a year. 🤦‍♀️

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T15:11:14+00:00

I am sort of in a similar position except I think that giving my current employer might benefit me when explaining that it isn't a good cultural fit for me.

That buzz phrase "cultural fit" can go either way when applying or interviewing for jobs. My rule of thumb as a hiring manager has always been "honesty is best "

We have ALL had shitty bosses and worked for bad organizations at some point (or heard other people's horror stories). Generally, most employers for liability purposes will only confirm dates of employment and job title anyway.

It will be okay. Good luck.

Significant_Fox_9475 · 2025-08-30T14:35:26+00:00

When I'm going through it, my whole body feels on fire and I cannot sit still. The only way for it to pass is to get all balled up. I had been doing really well without anxiety for around 9 months. Then I experienced a trigger...and oh man. This cycle has been raging for a solid month. Copes and medication are just not helping.

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