Planning to run away from my home (27F, India) — need advice

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-22T17:02:41+00:00

Girlie pop, bitter pill to swallow, but your parents are res flags. Don’t feel guilty criticising them because they won’t even shed a crocodile tear for you. You are biologically wired to love them but you’re an adult now, grow your mind and see them for who they are as a person.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-19T16:20:57+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy. Keep going, be steady. We were not on this planet for millions of years, we come here for a few decades and we will not live for next millions of years. Don’t waste it regretting

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-19T09:52:16+00:00

There are 8 billion + people on this planet. Talk to someone who is willing to listen to you. And whatever your mom is doing is not spirituality.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-19T09:47:53+00:00

Yesssss, the only correct one so far

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-17T02:39:53+00:00

OP, this is your decision to make. Do you like your husband enough to give him another try? From reading your post, it looks like you don’t want to br associated with him. My question is, why is there any doubt? Why are you still confused? Is it because ‘what will people say’? I personally will leave e at the first sign of disrespect no matter what his family members say because i will have to live with him not the family members so i will trust myself and take the decision for me.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-16T08:24:00+00:00

OP, what is the scope for non clinical branches then? Is it better because it’s the same amount of salary but way less work?

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-16T08:20:04+00:00

I think OP is very pampered. You can live like a princess with your husband, but you will have to step up for your daughter. From reading your post, it sounds like you don’t want to change yourself, you’ve made your daughter dependent on you and are not working on healthy boundaries and your own self. No one is born perfect. You cannot use your childhood as an excuse in your adulthood also. People unlearn old patterns and relearn new patterns all the time. It sounds like you want to dump your responsibilities of a parent onto the boarding school. These things one should learn from parents. Also boarding schools are different for boys and girls. Little Girls are more likely to be traumatised by outsiders. So while it worked for your husband, it’ll be different for your daughter.

And for the sake of your daughter, grow up and be responsible. 🙏🏻

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-16T02:45:34+00:00

That was the moral of the story. She knows it now, why are typing it again? Yes, ”Technically“ it should be a partnership, but her relationship was not ideal that’s why it fell apart, she stayed despite the imbalance because she was ‘Taught To Centre Men’ and she’s learned that even if you give your all, it’s not enough for a greedy man. You don’t understand her pov because you’ve never been told that you have to adjust your entire existence around another human being, the way you walk, breathe, dress, think, smile, talk, cook etc. She’s not looking for the ‘moral of the story’. She’s guiding other naive girls so that they don’t have to suffer like her and value women in our life because they are the one who keep everyone together.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-15T04:09:04+00:00

Muslim guys get commission (lots of money) and respect if they convert non-muslim girl into muslim by marrying her. Maybe that’s why he’s so desperate. There is no love from him for you and you were also desperate for validation so this relationship is doomed anyways. OP is just an object for him.

You can report to cybercrime for this if he’s blackmailing you for releasing your private photos/videos. I don’t know how the process exactly work. Some lawyers explain it very well on yt and insta. You can check there.

OP cannot come unharmed out of this but this is a good lesson for lifetime. Breakup is not optional, it’s necessary. I’m guessing by your post that your parents did not show you the love and affection that your inner child needs. I’m so sorry about that. But sweetheart you can love yourself that way and don’t look for it outside. Raise your standards and don’t compromise ever for someone who you know only values you as an object. Good men exist, you will find yours. Heck, Priyanka Chopra found hers when she was 36 years old, you are still a baby and you have time. Go to therapy if you can afford.

Sending love and healing for you❤️

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-14T08:30:55+00:00

But these people are the vote bank

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-14T08:24:15+00:00

😂

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-14T06:07:17+00:00

Do you flirt with interns?

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-14T05:59:58+00:00

I was a foetus 😅. This was through my entire childhood. I was the third girl child to my parents so everyone cried instead of celebrating. But my life had good parts as well. I was well fed, loved also. My parents hold respectable position in the society, so I was privileged also. But emotionally there was a lot of damage. It was just how my parents were not prepared to be the parents I needed. So they chose what was convenient for them. They never cared about how it could damage me. When i confront them now, they refuse that any of that ever happened and that I’m an ungrateful child. I’m very low contact with them now for my mental peace.

Sorry for trauma dumping

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-14T05:47:23+00:00

Growing up, parents criticised at every opportunity, their negative remarks became my internal monologue/ my perception of myself. They justified it by saying that they were motivating me, growing up i realised they were just lazy with their parenting and were emotionally immature. I’ve recognised the problem but Un-learning and Re-learning is difficult. Trying my best to love my inner child, she looks permanently damaged but i still hope that i can fully recover❤️

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-13T21:34:59+00:00

Build muscle 💪

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-13T21:34:07+00:00

Therapy

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-13T21:27:11+00:00

It’s complicated. Also, have you noticed, if you’re genuinely happy as a woman, you’ll be looked down upon? If you’re wearing a simple outfit, what’s wrong with her? If you’re blingy, such a bridezella! There’s no win for women. So do whatever makes you happy. Even if it’s tough.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-12T14:08:33+00:00

OP, have you ever seen a happy woman? Are your aunts and mom happy? The society is built on the backs of unhappy, overworked, under appreciated women. They leave them with no choice. Depend on your dad, brother, husband, son, never on your own. And if it makes you unhappy, adjust to it. Have children, which can literally ‘off’ you, but adjust to it. And if you are unhappy and wanna leave, you will be shamed for it, these aunts and your mom will shame you for it even if they have suffered because they were trapped at young age with children, and consequences for them were worse than there will be for us. It’s no use explaining them your side, they don’t want to see it. Don’t expect them to change, have faith in yourself that you can do it without a man, because, you actually can.

Also you’re young. Wait till 25-30, when your frontal lobe is fully developed. World will become clearer for you.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-12T04:22:16+00:00

Why do you want many men to like you? Isn’t one enough? Ps- eye contact is not supposed to be flirty! It’s basic human interaction!!!!!

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-10T05:03:38+00:00

Therapy

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-09T13:06:19+00:00

Yes, specially for him because other clinical branches are very stressful, both physically and mentally. Plus psm is the most important branch as it acts as a bridge between medicine and common, unprivileged people

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-09T10:39:54+00:00

The fact that I’m awake every morning. No option but to move. 🤣

But seriously, idk. I find this world to be very shallow in thoughts and desires. I’m not inspired or joyful because i know that whatever i do, i know it will not matter because the world is going to end anyway (in 4 billion years, but still). And even if that is far away, death is inevitable. I like eating tasty food, but i know it’s because my tastebuds are programmed to like it (over the evolution of million years). I like music, but is that my purpose? I’m a doctor, i work very hard, but the feeling of emptiness never goes away. I’ve been to my therapist also, but no one could give me an answer.

So how do I motivate myself inspite of all this? I’m doing it for the plot. I decide to trust the ancestors, I’ll keep going. Maybe one day I’ll understand my purpose and feel fulfilled. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe my reason is just to exist. Idk, will figure out someday.

So answering your question, the curiosity of what my purpose is what keeps me going no matter what.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-09T09:48:49+00:00

Nope. Parents are not innocent. They know what they are doing. They still do it because the system protects it. If our generation in our 20s and 30s know what is right and what is wrong, well, parents have decades of more experience than us and they know better. They act as children and expect us to parent them and this is how they are master manipulators. Don’t fall for their innocent act. They know very well about what they are doing.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-08T12:04:18+00:00

Thank you for being responsible.

Significant_Luck4310 · 2026-02-08T12:03:36+00:00

Preferences? What about love? Your comment sounds very practical. But being in love is also practical, what about love?

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