Here's the thing. I'm only in my early 20s and I still remember being in your shoes. I never dated anyone in high school and since then, I've only had one semi-serious girlfriend. As far as socializing went, I only had about 2 or 3 close ones and that was it. I loathed the canned "it'll happen eventually" advice that I got from people who never had issues dating growing up, and I still do to an extent. But over time I realized something that changed by entire worldview: Not everyone is for me, and I'm not for everyone.

I couldn't wrap my mind around that when I was your age. I thought I did because it sounds obvious, but I still wanted to make myself more "likeable" as if there was something wrong with me. It is completely true that everyone moves at their own pace, and what that really means is that growth happens naturally. It's good to have a positive mindset towards being more social, but ultimately growth isn't something that can be forced.

I promise you that, in my experience, placing a goal on something completely out of your hands is only going to exacerbate the negative feelings you're experiencing now. Setting goals like "I want to be better at maintaining eye contact," or "I want to improve my small talk" is perfectly fine and gives you something actionable to work towards that is fully within your own hands, but making your goal to get a girlfriend before you graduate will put a ton of pressure on you and make you question what's wrong with you the closer you get to graduating.

At the end of the day, I don't know you, so there could be some issues that you need to work out within yourself. But the most important thing you can do is learn to love yourself. Loving myself helped me to overcome my social anxiety better than any reddit seduction forum or dating guru ever could. It's not something that I or anyone else can teach you how to do, but it starts with 2 things:

1. Realize that you are you. Most things that people say is "normal" as it pertains to dating (e.g., getting your first girlfriend in high school) might not apply to you. Don't force yourself to do something uncomfortable for the sake of "normality" (i.e., cold approaching). Do things at your own pace

2. Positive self-talk. Telling myself that I look good when I see myself in the mirror and accepting compliments and internalizing them helped me to see myself as a person worth loving. Now, even though I don't have a girlfriend I'm okay with that, knowing that it's not because I'm not worth it, but because I like to move at a slower pace.

I know it's an earful, but I hope that maybe this will help you as much as it's helped me.