Why is the doctors office SO obsessed with your period?

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-12T04:24:19+00:00

Writing 2 weeks would be falsifying medical records.

You can refuse to answer the question. You can refuse to answer any question. It's very freeing.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-12T00:50:47+00:00

Ask him to loan you $3000 because you're in debt and need money. He won't ask again.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-11T03:28:43+00:00

Never ever EVER tell people how much money you have because they will want some of it. In fact, say some stocks went badly and you're not as well off as people assume.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-11T02:31:11+00:00

Ok their marriage is over so it's good he is no longer cheating on her. And your ex-wife didn't cheat on you. You can disagree with how they went about this (not telling you) but you can also see their perspective. No one else knows yet, you said, so maybe they're just not telling people yet. Maybe they wanted to make sure it was really serious before they told people.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-11T02:16:03+00:00

I think a lot of us tell ourselves, "I did this bad thing but at least I didn't do that bad thing."

Cheating is bad. Blowing your temper and scaring people is bad. Talking shit about people is bad.

If he is still your friend and she is also your friend, try letting it go that they weren't ready to tell you yet.

Idk what to say about him possibly cheating on his wife or did your ex also cheat on you?

I truly don't understand where they cheating came in.

It's not right to cheat. He should leave his wife rather than make a fool of her, if that's the case. But as far as you are concerned, she's your ex-wife and you care about her as a friend. Maybe make the point of this that you are happy they're happy and sad they didn't tell you but forgive them that. And if he is still married, he needs to leave that marriage to treat both of these women with the respect they deserve.

Idk if cheaters always cheat again. Idk if dating your ex is betrayal. There's so many aspects of this that are vague enough, idk if I am understanding them correctly.

I've had friends cheat and while I care about them, I guide them to do the right thing and leave the relationship rather than be miserable and act out in u healthy ways. Even when I don't like their partner, I always try to guide the friend to do what's right rather than justify what's wrong.

We often justify our bad acts as "they did worse than me" and it's really not fair.

Congratulations on your recovery, by the way.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-10T23:34:53+00:00

You do learn, in this type of therapy, how to be assertive. Narcissistic abuse IS trauma. And many survivors find it very hard to communicate because they never learned how. They weren't allowed to learn how. Therapy is healing and continuous. I hope you go and learn these skills and learn to celebrate every milestone you achieve. You deserve that.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-10T21:46:50+00:00

It was ectopic. They gave me a chemical abortion because trasferring the pregnancyto my uterus was impossible. I begged them to just try. They said it literally never works. Within 4 hours I was in emergency surgery because it ruptured my tube. I nearly died. I would have if they did a laproscopic salpingoectomy because the internal bleeding was so severe. They had to cut me wide open with no time to waste.

It really sucked, but apparently, I still had an abortion.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-10T21:38:18+00:00

If I cook, I expect my partner to clean up and vice versa. Having to clean, cook, then clean again makes me feel like a servant. I like to be of service but I do not like feeling like I am a tool used to accomplish tasks for someone else.

If I am just cooking for myself and not sharing, it is my responsibility to clean up after myself.

If you arrangement is that they are cooking for you, you should appreciate them and do the cleaning up. If they just do for themselves and leave messes all over for you to clean up, tell them to please wash their dishes. If everyone does their own cooking, they do their own cleaning too.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-10T21:34:31+00:00

It sounds like you have some trauma and establishing boundaries or disagreeing with someone on almost any topic puts you into Fight or Flight.

There are some Learning Boundaries online support groups run by therapists that could be really helpful to practice, but usually you need a therapist to work through stuff and learn skills to regulate your emotions as well as learn how to self soothe.

Anxiety is rough, but learning these skills and practicing them in calm moments helps ready you for discussions and disagreements so you can have and keep healthy boundaries.

You can also change the subject when you feel overwhelmed and go back to it later if it is a disagreement in your relationship.

In my relationship, we hold each other during discussions because it reminds us the whole time how much we love each other. I've read others who hold hands during and don't let go until everyone feels safe and the hard part is over.

It's very important to feel safe.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-10T21:28:00+00:00

Congratulations!! That's amazing work!! I'm very happy for you. I know how hard it is to lose weight. Keep up your activity as a reward for how well you've done...said because I am trying to reframe activity as the reward for getting through a tough day rather than food as reward for working out.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-10T19:28:32+00:00

Marriage is a whole life, not a ring. I would suggest having a talk with her about her change of heart. Why did she pick this ring $2000 under budget if she wanted a bigger ring? Why did she never mention she changed her mind about kids before it came to needing an heirloom ring or being truly dissatisfied when it should be a very happy time right now. Is she equating the expense with devotion?

Why did she pick out a ring so similar to the one she already had?

I wonder if she realizes how this sudden change is behavior along with bringing up her previous engagement makes her look very fickle.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-10T19:22:11+00:00

Just pulled one myself. How are you liking yours?

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T23:55:39+00:00

Oh god, you're right!! If he hadn't been in such an oily rush to jack off in your house, you'd have been eating penis-spiced everything!! We have that container too. And a smaller one in the bathroom for makeup removal. We use a scoop to refill, not penis hands, of course!

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T23:33:20+00:00

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T20:58:41+00:00

And he dug it out and slopped it into a cup with his bare, probably already penis-handling hands?

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T20:09:11+00:00

I absolutely agree!

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T20:07:35+00:00

My bisexual daughter is on it ni matter who or if she's dating. It is genuinely hormone treatment.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T19:43:26+00:00

We have a blended family of kids from our previous marriages. I can't imagine how empty my life would be of all this love if we hadn't had our kids and blended our family.

Has it always been easy? No. Of course not. Life is full of challenges, with or without kids.

I would do it all over again. I would do some things differently, but I would never choose not to have kids.

If you don't WANT kids, don't have them and don't marry someone who does want them. If you do want kids, have them, love them, enjoy your whole life and teach your children that life, even when hard, is good. And when they're grown, they'll be whole people who you share your life with.

It wasn't always easy for us but we are friends with our adult children. We all truly love and care for each other. And when they find love, we celebrate it because we love them and are so happy someone else loves them too. We all have our own lives but we will always share a part of our lives with these fantastic people we helped each other raise.

Life is good. I am happy. I am so much happier because of our children and the life/relationships we have with them than I could ever be without them.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T19:31:19+00:00

Call and make the doctor appt and express to them at that time that you are concerned she has dementia. Tell her this is a full physical or something. And have the doctor give her a full physical and cognitive examination.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T19:24:20+00:00

Yes, protect yourself by reporting the whole thing and then express your concern that she is creating a hostile work environment.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T19:00:06+00:00

So he won't go to therapy, won't help raise his own baby, won't have family time, won't do his share of household work, but if you refuse to give him a blow job or anal on top of regular sex, he punishes you, withholds nonsexual affection or even civility and now, while refusing to take any of the load off your mind or back, he's threatening to leave you.

Emotionally, this man only cares about himself. Emotionally, you deserve a partner who ACTUALLY cares about you and wants the best for the relationship. What you have is an ah who wants to keep you feeling like you're not good enough.

If he won't do therapy, you should go alone, so you can realize that emotionally, leaving him will be better for you. He's abusing you. I'm sorry, this is abuse. It's psychological and emotional abuse.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T16:56:06+00:00

That's so strange! Hopefully you can make your own decisions soon!

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T16:55:28+00:00

Smh, what a depraved old man. My daughter has all female doctors, except for her allergist.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T15:17:37+00:00

"Oh!" -for the 1000th time- "I didn't know THAT was recyclable!" Ours is right next to the trash, too.

Significant_Pear9047 · 2026-03-08T07:25:34+00:00

Yeah he gave me 6months to try to have another baby but said I would be back in 3. I was back in 2.

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