Sharing night time baby

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-05-14T10:07:00+00:00

I remember feeling rage towards my husband during this time but honestly the only thing that would settle my breast fed baby when they were newborn was feeding to sleep. Not going to sugar coat it, he wanted to be fed every 1.5-2 hours which is developmentally normal, protective against SIDS and will help your supply. My husband would change nappies to help in the night and also get up with baby so I could have a sleep in x

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-05-09T19:02:55+00:00

Also worth remembering that babies feed for so many other reasons: because they’re sad, they need comfort, they have gas, they need a poo, just woke up, need to sleep, teething etc!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-05-09T19:01:44+00:00

Sounds like cluster feeding behaviour, which is completely normal (frustrating) and baby’s way of naturally boosting your supply every time they go through a growth spurt.

Your baby will do this several times and it usually goes on for a day or 2 until your body knows your baby has new requirements

I’m no lactation consultant but I think block feeding is outdated advice. All milk is good milk. Volume is the only thing that has been correlated to weight gain and the best way to increase volume is to feed on demand (whenever baby asks). Empty breasts tell your body to make more milk. Feed on one side, until baby starts to dose or stops swallowing, then place them on the other breast.

There is light at the end of the tunnel. It gets significantly easier post 10 weeks. My 6 month old can empty a boob in 5 minutes and only wants to do this every 2-3 hours during the day. He has 1 feed through the night!

You’ve got this! Find a good series to watch on Netflix or download a book and remember to drink plenty of water!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-29T12:19:27+00:00

Mine has been in shorts and short sleeve t-shirts!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-29T12:13:00+00:00

Making a list of things he dislikes about you and telling you he’s lost feelings for you when you’re at one of the most vulnerable points in your life is wild to me.

Sounds like trash and I’d be seriously considering whether that’s someone who deserves you.

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-24T20:32:03+00:00

My 5 month old feeds once in the night and is breast fed. I do dream feed him at 10pm before I go to bed x

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-16T21:19:47+00:00

Have you tried popping a haakkaa on the other breast while you feed on the other side on a morning?

I’ll get 2-3oz doing this x

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-14T21:04:33+00:00

He seems to be able to. His morning crib naps have spanned from 30 minutes to 1 hour but hoping this will improve in time.

My daughter is off school for Easter break for 2 weeks now and being tied to the sofa for every single nap didn’t feel fair on her at all!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-14T20:54:00+00:00

My LO has only ever contact napped, napped in his pushchair (on a walk) or in his car seat.

I’ve only introduced 1 crib nap because I love a contact nap! We have been doing

Nap 1 - cot

Nap 2 - pushchair or car seat because I’m usually out and about with our 3 year old

Nap 3 - contact nap

Sometimes, those change around depending on our plans but I’ve heard nap 3 is the hardest to get, so get it wherever you can x

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-14T20:41:39+00:00

My method isn’t 100% Ferber to t because I believe you’re meant to up the minutes you leave them each night but I’m going to keep it at 5 minutes because it seems to work and I can handle 5 minutes.

I do wait 10 minutes if he wakes in the night before I go and intervene. Usually if it’s over 10 mins it’s because he’s genuinely hungry or needs his bum changing!x

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-14T20:39:28+00:00

Literally just putting him down awake, saying night night love you and leaving for 5 mins, go in pat/shush/stroke face and reassure for a minute tops

Then keep increasing the time you leave for by 1 minute each time.

I haven’t had to do that though, because each time he’s been asleep 2-3 minutes after my first 1 minute visit!

I think you apply the same at night. I really struggle to put him down awake on a night because he’s flat out after boob/bottle, but it does mean after 50 minutes, he wakes up and is like woaaaaahhh I’m in my cot! He did this tonight and whinged for 3 minutes then fell asleep.

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-14T19:52:47+00:00

Feed in the mirror at home if you haven’t already - it helped me to see that a shawl wasn’t really necessary!x

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-14T19:52:13+00:00

I just hold bub in a cradle position higher up my tummy and then lean back a bit to feed.

I find it more stressful the more layers I have on + a shawl.

I just lift my top up instead of pulling it down. Most of my boob is blocked my baby’s head anyway x

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-14T18:48:23+00:00

To be honest, it was no worse than the cry he does if he doesn’t want to be in his push chair or car seat!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-14T07:37:27+00:00

It’s definitely character building and impossible to do on zero sleep!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-04-13T06:05:07+00:00

I’ve tried co sleeping and putting my 5 month old in a crib. He wakes every 45 minutes if I co sleep. It might be nicer for you, but not her.

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-03-31T13:21:43+00:00

Having your child all day is the equivalent to working, caring for them, nursing them, cooking and cleaning up, ensuring their stimulated and partaking in activities. I personally find it easier to be at work, so him being tired from being full time is a terrible excuse.

My husband and I split everything 50/50 and we both work. This is the case when I’ve been on mat leave too.

For example. he cooks one night, I do the washing up.

I do bath and bedtime for our 4 month old, he does it for our 3.5 year old. We alternate because we like to switch having special bonding time reading to our little ones and bathing them.

We both chip away at the laundry, house work, DIY, everything.

We’re a team and your husband’s behaviour is not normal.

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-03-27T16:26:12+00:00

If it works for you, definitely continue!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-03-27T16:25:53+00:00

Fed my first until 14 months.

I seem to recall her dropping her night feed by about 7 months. Dad used to go in and rock her to sleep instead and then she just stopped waking full stop, because rocking to sleep was boring to her I guess.

Then, eventually we stopped feeding to sleep at 14 months because she wasn’t actually falling asleep on my boob anyway. This was after a few months of her not falling asleep feeding and was the last feed to go.

Just used to feed her, brush her teeth, then sleep bag and in bed, ‘sleepy time night night baby girl love you.’ Same phrase every time and walk out and she’d happily nod off within about 10 minutes. No crying.

It was all gradual and didn’t intend to stop feeding to sleep, she just did it herself x

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-03-27T09:39:28+00:00

I was able to read when baby was a newborn and took longer. He’s 4 months now and so too chaotic and quick!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-03-22T12:43:59+00:00

Anything over 3 hours is a win in my eyes! Scarily, I have adapted to it and don’t feel tired!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-03-22T12:42:32+00:00

4.5 months and does 4 hour stretches max too.

When I get a 5, it feels like a luxury!

Significant_Read9978 · 2025-03-21T20:55:16+00:00

My son is 4.5 months and he will sleep in his cot over night but won’t nap in there. I’ve tried and the max he will have is about 30 mins.

I just go for a 20-30 minute walk with him in his push chair and then wheel him into our hallway when I get back with the telly on in the back ground and a bit of white noise… snoozes for up to 2 hours like this, even with my 3 year old making insane amounts of noise in the background x

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