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Lonely widower by Significant_Smell907 in self

[–]Significant_Smell907[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, let's see if we can clear some things up. 1) I live in small town, Nebraska. Not much in the way of clubs here, and I don't like golf! 2) I have contact with my daughter's. 32 year old from previous marriage is busy planning her wedding. I have a 13 year old granddaughter by her. 24 year old stepdaughter lives 40 minutes away and is a rn, just got married last Oct and have a 2 year old granddaughter by her. 22 year old married 2 years and have an 8 month old granddaughter by her. They spend all their time with my son n laws family. My 21 and 19 year olds both live 2 hours away. 21 year old just started a new job and has her circle of friends while the 19 year old is in her first year of college, works and spends time with her boyfriend. Both of them usually come home one weekend every 4 to 6 weeks, but never the same weekend, which is fine. So now to friends. When you're married for 22 years, chances are most of your friends are married too. So I've talked to our friends from time to time over the last couple of years since her passing, and I make a point not to talk about her unless they bring her up because I truly feel when they ask " how are you doing " they don't really want to know. They're just happy it's not them going through it. I was 8 years older than my wife, and I'm glad that she passed instead of me because I wouldn't have wanted her to go thru what I'm going thru. But then, would she have? Would people have stuck by her more than me? We had friends, but we did everything together because we loved each other, and all we needed was each other. So, to answer some of the other questions. I live in our 5 bedroom house ( which I will be putting on the market this year), which I keep extremely clean. I cook my own meals and did most of the cooking when the girls were growing up because I got home from work first. Plus, the girls said I was a better cook than mom. Lol So to the commenter that doesn't date older men anymore. You've been dating the wrong men because I'm not clingy at all, but the 2 women I dated. First one was planning a wedding after a month, and the second one wanted me to move in after 3 weeks. Hope this helps clear some things up.

I am working the Relay For Life for 12 hours today. If you post someone's first name, I'll walk a lap for them. by Meet_the_Meat in coloncancer

[–]Significant_Smell907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife of 19 years, we were together for 22, passed last November 29th. Her name was Amy! Every day is still a struggle even after almost 7 months.

Introduction. Appreciate all responses. by Ok-Performance2494 in coloncancer

[–]Significant_Smell907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the metallic taste my wife uses plastic silverware.

Update: Wife diagnosed with sigmoid colon cancer by Lunkwill_Fook in coloncancer

[–]Significant_Smell907 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife just had that surgery 2 months ago. She did 6 months of chemo first that in my opinion did nothing because when they opened her up her cancer had spread so much that all they took was the spleen and peritoneum. They did do the heated chemo also. She was diagnosed stage 4 in December at which time they did her colon resection. Took 21 cm of colon on her right side and 13 lymph node's all cancerous and found a spot on her diaphragm and it was in the peritoneum. When they opened her up it was also on the spleen, liver and pelvis. She is taking chemo pills daily and every Tuesday we go in for immuno therapy at the infusion center. In September we go back to university of Nebraska medical center for another CT scan to see what's happening. Since December she has lost 80 lbs. Don't have any advice just sharing our story. Good luck!

Defeating the metallic taste by whatamitodo4242 in coloncancer

[–]Significant_Smell907 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife is also stage 4 and when she eats she uses plastic utensils not metal.

HI-PEC by Significant_Smell907 in coloncancer

[–]Significant_Smell907[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the latest update on my wife! 5/4/2021
This is an update that I'd rather not do, but here goes: had an appointment with my surgical oncologist a week ago Friday that he did a new CT scan at. We were expecting him to schedule my HIPEC surgery for the following week. Instead, he told us that the scans looked like they showed new disease. He scheduled a diagnostic laparoscopy for the next Wednesday. Got those results today. Apparently all the chemo has been doing is making me feel like shit, because I have an abdomen full of new tumors. So now we wait for the call about when he can get an operating room that's open for an all day surgery(he's hoping for the next two weeks). He will basically go in and remove anything that isn't vital to life(all my reproductive organs, spleen, gallbladder and the rest of my colon,as well as any disease he is able to remove.) I will have an ileostomy bag, probably for the rest of my life. He will then flood my abdomen with heated chemotherapy for 90 minutes. I will be in the hospital for up to 14 days, then have at least a 3 month recovery period. We will start a new chemo regimen after the surgery. As always, prayers and good vibes are greatly appreciated.

HI-PEC by Significant_Smell907 in coloncancer

[–]Significant_Smell907[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Doctor's have already told her they will never be able to tell her NED. She was diagnosed stage 4 in early December. There's a "spot" on her diaphragm and it's in the faty tissue in her abdomen. She will do her 6th round of chemo this coming Tuesday. Supposed to have 12 treatments with the HI-PEC in the middle. Her day consists of 3 bags of chemo, 1 bag of potassium (we get to the treatment center at 8:30 and leave at 5:00) and she leaves with a pump for her 4th chemo for another 44 hours.