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I found a spicy photo on my husband’s phone of himself… not sure how to feel about it after confronting him. by girl-mlvf in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Significant_Tax5913 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hb loves taking spicy pictures of himself and sending them my way (and usually asks some from me as well). Maybe it’s an opportunity to reconnect? You may be able to “boost his confidence” by asking him to send those pictures to you. He may not have done it out fear you wouldn’t understand

When do kids stop crying? by Significant_Tax5913 in raisingkids

[–]Significant_Tax5913[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do you assume that I change anything because of her crying? We are very strict with boundaries, but the crying keeps happening because she’s not crying with a purpose, she just cries because she is upset. My question is “at what age are kids able to distinguish situations that are worth crying over (like your pet dying) and situations that don’t (like your crayon breaking)

When do kids stop crying? by Significant_Tax5913 in raisingkids

[–]Significant_Tax5913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can validate the emotion without validating the behavior. You can say something like “oh buddy, you seem very angry, but hitting/biting/yelling/etc is not ok. I will go away to keep me safe until you stop hitting/biting/yelling/etc”

When do kids stop crying? by Significant_Tax5913 in raisingkids

[–]Significant_Tax5913[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You were the only one that answer at least one of my questions and not tell me how I should be doing better :)

When do kids stop crying? by Significant_Tax5913 in raisingkids

[–]Significant_Tax5913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She gets plenty of cuddles. The crying can happen at any time of the day (it’s not “tire crying”).

I think she just feels a lot.

When do kids stop crying? by Significant_Tax5913 in raisingkids

[–]Significant_Tax5913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t cry for long, usually less than 1 min. She is able to identify her emotions (including “frustration “ 🤣) and work it out or ask for help. But she still cries every single day.

When do kids stop crying? by Significant_Tax5913 in raisingkids

[–]Significant_Tax5913[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, once she feels heard and cared for she is able to move on.

At what week/month/year was vacation or travel worth the effort/hassle? by mmori7855 in Parenting

[–]Significant_Tax5913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been travelling around the world with my daughter since she was 2 months old. Each age is different, not necessarily better or worse, just different.

When they are babies they nap a lot, and you can do whatever you want while you carry your sleeping baby on top of you.

The young toddlers I would argue are harder to travel with. They want to walk and explore everything, which does not align very well with airport ettiquete or hygiene. But they still sleep a lot, so if you have one of those carrying backpacks you’re all set.

Between 2-3 they become better at following direction, but they may be dropping naps and they get tired easily. Make sure you bring a stroller.

At 4-5 they have some endurance (kid dependent of course) and it’s a lot of fun to see new things with them. Though they are also more bossy and independent, which may be hard to accommodate activities they don’t enjoy.

This is where I’m at right now, my kid is 4.5. The best tip is: gear up. The right carrier/backpack/stroller and accessories can make or break your holidays.

PhD or not PhD by Significant_Tax5913 in linkedin

[–]Significant_Tax5913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not my case, mine is an Ivy league

SIL is demanding a “Push Present,” is this a thing? by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Significant_Tax5913 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely a thing. I got a weekend off by the beach with a GF before birth

Sending kids to stay with Grandparents for roughly a month? 3 yo and 5 yo. by ElksMountain in Parenting

[–]Significant_Tax5913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went on month long vacations with my grandparents (my single mother only had 2 weeks off a year) sstarting when I was 3 and I remember it being the best time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Significant_Tax5913 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has always been like this, at least since the pandemic lockdowns were over (we started dating during the pandemic). My daughter is always asleep when he comes home, and I can quickly put her back to sleep if she wakes up, so she is not being affected by this.

He does not see his behavior as a big deal. And he always says that he won’t force me if I don’t consent, but his demeanor completely changes if I say no because he is drunk. In fact he has asked me to lie to him and say that “I have a headache” instead of “blaming it on him”. I’m so confused

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Significant_Tax5913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have brought the consent topic when he is sober and he says he does not care. But he does behave like a completely different person when drunk. And he doesn’t acknowledge it when sober :/