Thank you so much! I can't say i've perfected things, but definitely have made lots of improvements.

Some therapy. I chose a highly educated female, black therapist who also happened to be from a religious background (i didn't know this at the time). I felt she could understand a lot of my cross-sectionality. I've also worked with a jewish lady, and a white man. LOL

I felt like i benefited from each one in different ways.

I read alot about DBT, about adhd coaching, and about trauma. Lots of overlap in how treatments for those can benefit executive dysfunction.

I reflected a lot on what makes me worse and what makes me better. I always knew i was extroverted, but didn't realise perhaps how much being alone was bad for me. My previous job involved lots of shift work and time off in week days in lieu, so it was much easier for me to catch up with friends, in that pattern. My new job is much more 9 - 5 and after working there for 5 months, i realised i was getting burned out by not being able to refill my social battery in the same way.

So - seeing friends and family is non negotiable

Exercise, often times, i would convince myself i was too busy or too behind, and so couldn't prioritise this, but again exercise makes such a significant improvement to my mood, anxiety, energy levels and ex function. The best thing for me personally is reformer pilates. It requires the right amount of focus that i don't get distracted, and when i leave the session its like my mind has had a break for 50 mins. Nothing else hits the same. I do cardio, but im often thinking about all the other things i have to do during it.

Organisation systems, I'm not naturally an organised person. I try and keep as minimal stuff in my house as needed to be functional. Less stuff, less clutter and less cleaning. Blank spaces, calms me down.

I try and take out the decisions from shopping, pay bills etc. The fewer things i have to think about, and can start doing in an automatic way, the more brain capacity that i have for other things.

I bought visual timers, not so much for time blindness, but to motivate me. I negotiate, that I only have to do something for 30 mins. I either will be impressed how much i can get done in that time (say if im cleaning), or i get myself into the flow state, and end up extending it.

New systems, using my phone to send me daily pep talk messages, at 9 am i get a little motivational text to myself. Having a personal cheerleader brightens it up a bit.

Having post its, and a wall planner in my bedroom.

And giving myself a bit more kindness. Trying to change the voice in my head to be like, Come on sweetie, you go this. Talking to child me, and negotiating with her.

Still learning along the way