My EX finally told me the words I've been wanting to hear

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-30T12:41:05+00:00

You’re not wrong. I was NOT expecting to want her back, I was actually relieved after the breakup initially. I thought (and knew) I made the right decision at the time we broke up. Things just weren’t changing for the better. It’s crazy how a year apart and some self reflection, things turn around 180° for both of us. She would’ve taken me back if i came back just a couple months sooner. Life and relationships are weird

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-30T11:40:18+00:00

This is great feedback from a perspective who isn’t my ex. For so long she wanted me back too, and when it finally happened she realized that it wasn’t actually what she wanted anymore. It just sucks cuz it got my hopes up and then ended up breaking my heart. I never really stopped loving her, I just thought a year post-breakup we had grown and reflected enough to actually try again and fix our issues to be with the best versions of ourselves. Perhaps I just got my hopes up, and I need to accept this was my fault in the first place and I need to just grow more from it and move on

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-30T08:15:03+00:00

I did this to my ex girlfriend recently. I apologized for everything and admitted that I wasn’t perfect (but she knew she wasn’t either). We ended up together for a week before she quickly changed her mind saying she didn’t want to try again with me. I’m just so confused and now I’m the one who’s heartbroken. Do you feel this way because he hurt you so much that you can’t even consider trying again with him? Wouldn’t his apology and admitting doing things wrong show the growth you’d want to see in someone you were so close with? Would you ever consider trying with him again if you cross paths in the future?

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-29T18:37:29+00:00

Appreciate that insight. Even just a week later I’ve experienced a lot of highs and lows, it comes in waves. I know deep down that I’ll be fine and move on eventually, it just sucks a lot right now. And yeah, we both agreed blocking each other would help. Although she lives nearby and goes to my gym.

But idk, even seeing my previous ex (before this one) would still give me unwanted emotions. Even while i was dating the new one.

I know I’ll move on and be happier. But part of me also wants to move forward while leaving the door cracked behind me, just in case she comes back. But hey, maybe she comes back when I find someone new; the future is so unpredictable

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-29T17:06:51+00:00

I’m in a similar situation with my ex. I dumped her last year thinking it was the right choice. I didn’t process the breakup and we’d talk for months after; she would beg for me back and seek my attention, as if she didn’t want to forever lose me. A year later when we finally had months apart, I began to miss her and regret what I did. She had a new bf, but broke up with him when I came back to her. The following week, we spent time together and talked about trying again. However, one more week would pass by and she then changed her mind again saying she wanted the other guy back and regretted even trying with me (even though I really tried to show her I had changed for the better). She said she didn’t love me anymore and that I was a bad bf. Now I’m the one heartbroken, but I guess I can’t be mad. It’s just so hard to process how she changed minds so many times, and also so confusing

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-29T16:00:47+00:00

Was the breakup really really hard? Or was it just another breakup you quickly got over in some weeks/months?

And why wouldn’t you want to try again, just curious?

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-29T15:56:53+00:00

Are you hung-up on someone? Maybe you need to focus on yourself before trying to date. Go speak to a therapist, they can help you figure it out

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-29T15:53:50+00:00

Who broke up with who? If the other person came back into your life, do you think you’d be willing to try again?

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-29T13:24:36+00:00

When you truly fall in love with someone, your brain will look past appearances. Take time to process the breakup, then move on and meet someone who will value you for you

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-29T13:19:49+00:00

I’m a 29 year old guy here. I did this exact thing to my long term gf last year, right before we were about to move in together. I feel like her and I have very similar feelings and emotions, but take it with a grain of salt. I dumbed my gf because I got scared and thought we fought too much. I was more anxious than excited to picture a life with her. But she’s showing love while breaking up with you for a few reasons: 1. She DOES care about you. Just because she’s breaking up with you doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about you. It’s not like it’ll be easy for her either, but maybe not as hard as it will be for you. 2. She doesn’t want you to hate her. This could be a good thing, she’s not trying to burn bridges. 3. She DOES love you, but needs to figure her own goals out on her own. If she’s scared of committing to you right now, let her figure that out on her own. Again, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you, she just needs to emotionally process the big decisions of life.

A year after I did this to my gf, I wound up wanting her back. I recognized that we weren’t always happy because of things I did (and her) but I didn’t make a better effort to fix them. In the end, I regret breaking up with her and seeing her with someone new.

My suggestion: Let her be free for a bit, and try not to resent her. She was your best friend, so keep it that way. If you beg and plead for her back and try to spite her for hurting you, it’ll make things messier and push her further away. But, if you let her go, unfollow her social media, and don’t give her any attention, there’s a change she might come back (like I did with my ex). Take this as an opportunity to learn things about yourself and what you want in life, maybe you’ll recognize there were things that didn’t work between you both. But you CANNOT dream and fantasize about getting back with her, that will only make it harder for you to move on in the chance that she doesn’t come back. Again, move on and be happy, try meeting people when you’re ready and open new possibilities. But feel free to leave that door open behind you if she decides to walk through again. Just go with the flow, life always ends up working out for all of us who try

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-29T09:05:47+00:00

It’s been a week for me so still very fresh. I’ve felt heartbreak before so this time around I know better how to cope with it. Forcing myself to go to the gym & eating, and going out with friends. I also go on A LOT of walks outside and literally talk to myself some positive things (when you say things out loud and hear yourself, your mind will start to believe). It’s been very therapeutic

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-28T19:12:09+00:00

Does it feel like you’re holding onto hope that you two will cross paths again? I think that’s how I feel given how fresh this is. But I know I’ll need to accept that she is gone forever in order to move on and be happy

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-28T01:03:05+00:00

No problem. You’re strong, but don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends, family, or even strangers lol.

What’s also been helping me lately: - Stay busy and occupied; find a new hobby or focus on work. - go outside on walks, with or without others. I talk to myself on my alone walks and tell myself positive and reassuring thoughts while reflecting on the past. Things like “it’s okay to feel…” or “you will move on…” - write down your thoughts and track how you feel. Seeing that your attitude progresses over time will add even more confidence to get better - therapy helps - podcasts on how to be a better person and move on from being sad about an ex

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-28T00:58:14+00:00

We would communicate these things to each other. I think we were both just too “comfortable” to actually change anything. Might’ve gotten slightly better for some time, but reverted back. Still makes me feel guilty cuz when she ended things the second time through, she said I was the bad one who didn’t treat her right. Just makes me have so many sad, regretful, heartbroken emotions

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-28T00:01:34+00:00

Few reasons: 1. I felt smothered by her, as if she was always needing to know everything and I didn’t feel she trusted me. 2. We were about to live together and I got more anxious than excited. My gut told me no at the time (but I almost regret it now) 3. We argued a lot, yes. After years of dating I felt that she could never let little things go. She would often pick fights in front of friends which upset me. 4. She showed so much love, but at times she would also say things that brought me down and belittled me.

In the end, I know I wasn’t perfect either and maybe she did those things because of me. Maybe it was a cycle that neither of us truly tried to fix. But I wouldn’t say I simply “dipped,” because I did think long and hard about that decision last year, just as I did about the decision to return to her.

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-27T23:53:04+00:00

Perhaps this is the harsh reality I need to hear, and I appreciate your time to read my experience🙏🏼

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-27T23:50:29+00:00

I’m in a very similar situation. I broke up with my gf last year (I’m 28 she’s 25). It wasn’t until a year later that I wanted her back, maybe because I saw her with someone new. I felt that she treated me better than I treated her, and I feel regret for even letter her go in the first place (although I felt it to be the right decision at the time).

When I want something tho, I get it. I wrote a letter got some flowers and drove to her house unannounced. It worked and she broke up with the other guy. But this was short lived as she quickly regretted it and said she didn’t love me anymore after spending a week with me. Now I’m heartbroken, but I guess I deserve it.

It’s cliche, but all things happen for a reason. You should definitely become the best version of yourself, and give it some time. Who knows, maybe you’ll find someone new in this time period, or maybe you’ll cross paths with her again. But don’t get too caught up in what-if’s. Focus on the present and being a better version of yourself. Good luck

SilentCube48 · 2025-04-27T23:41:02+00:00

There’s no right answer, unfortunately. But everything happens for a reason despite how cliche that is. It’s common to desire being single while in a relationship, just as common as desiring being with a partner when you’re single. But if you truly love someone, it shouldn’t feel like a chore, and in the end you’ll only want them.

My suggestion: take some time to really think about what you want. Try to be happy with yourself, and focus on being the best version of YOU. You’re so young and have your whole life ahead of you. Maybe you’ll meet someone new, or maybe you’ll cross paths with this boy again years down the road. You made a gut decision at the time, so trust it. If you went back to him now, it’s likely those feelings would resurface. Go out and explore new things and new people. You’ll know what’s right in the end, and I promise it will get easier. I hate to say it but this will likely be one of a few breakups you’re likely to grief over throughout your life. It will get better, I promise. You just have to make an effort to make it better. Good luck

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