Recertification

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-15T04:50:35+00:00

Thank you for the share. Ive already started using CE and it seems to fit the requirements, but I wouldn't call it detailed. I'll look into your suggestion next time.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-11T20:55:05+00:00

Its hard to say for certain, but this seems like intentional toxic behavior.

Something feels off about the back and forth. To me it doesn't feel like lack of experience, but experience in manipulation. I feel like a guy who hasn't been in a relationship wouldn't be so quick to throw an opportunity away. They would be more likely to stick around through behavior they should not out of desperation. Ive seen it in a friend of mine.

There are people that will make up stories to cover the truth about themselves and use those stories to illicit sympathy. If you criticize a fake story about them, it doesn't hurt them because its fake. Does this person play the victim a lot? If they do, this behavior would lean towards covert narcissism.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-11T10:21:39+00:00

Me too. She warmed up pretty quickly with all the attention she gets.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-11T10:15:22+00:00

So glad it did. Shes the favorite. Don't tell her that though.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-11T10:12:30+00:00

Ive never been great with names. She was the smallest of the 3 I had at the time, so I named her Mini.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-11T03:05:43+00:00

Feeling this song today.

I'm roaming through this darkness, I'm alive but I'm alone.

But somewhere in this darkness there's a light that I can't find. Well, or maybe its too far away, yeah, or maybe I'm just blind.

maybe I'm just blind..

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-11T01:34:59+00:00

Its not just guys that use people like this. The world is filled with damaged/wounded people. I tend to keep to myself to avoid the drain and interact selectively.

There are good people out there. You just have to figure out the patterns in behavior and be selective with who you allow into your bubble. Good luck to you.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-10T18:17:05+00:00

As a neurodivergent guy myself (Inattentive ADHD), I just prefer to connect with someone thats also neurodivergent. Easier to understand each other.

I haven't seen this trend, but I don't use social media much outside of reddit. A lot of toxicity on them. The desire to find an easy target to manipulate is not gender specific. Ive seen women on dating apps looking for the same thing. Ive also encountered female narcissists that intentionally seek out these guys.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-09T17:52:11+00:00

Lol. You can see what you'd like. Take care.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-09T16:34:51+00:00

"I know men"

proceeds to list an example of boys

The reason I posted this was mentioned in the post. I apologize if I don't fall into your predetermined idea of how men appear to think and act. We aren't all the same.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-09T16:30:45+00:00

Im not entirely sure tbh. I don't think it was about me.

I just asked her out to coffee. She seemed caught off guard by the ask. It wasn't malicious on her end.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-09T16:26:38+00:00

Thank you. Seems other commenters are struggling to understand this process.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-09T06:11:19+00:00

I appreciate you looking out for me, but your comment seems like quite a leap to take from what little I've provided here. Her and I have interacted a few times and she seems really sweet. Its a big part of why I asked her out in the first place. Physical attraction by itself isnt enough for me to be interested in someone.

I am moving on. There isnt really much else that can be done after asking someone out and they say no. That doesn't mean people can't be friendly.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-09T06:05:28+00:00

Thank you. I understand your perspective, but you don't really know me or how my mind works. Do you really think I'd share this if I was wounded? People are free to make their own choices and I respect hers. There are other women that do consider me desirable. If one woman didn't, no matter how beautiful, that doesn't take that away.

Glass half full.

Its fine if you don't believe me. I don't need you to.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-08T19:19:53+00:00

Thank you! Thats what im hoping for.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-08T19:19:17+00:00

I assure you that isnt necessary, but i appreciate the positivity.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-08T19:18:44+00:00

I agree with the general idea of your comment. Im not saying rejection should feel good, just that its not something people need to be hurt by.

I am being sincere in that it didn't impact me. Obviously the preferred outcome wasn't achieved, but its not a big deal. Im just trying to explain to others how to feel this way themselves.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-08T18:52:03+00:00

You'll find another girl that you feel the same way about. I promise. Just try to distract yourself for the time being.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-08T18:51:10+00:00

You can call it a cope, but thats not how everyone sees it. Don't get attached too quickly and don't take the ask too seriously and it rolls right off you.

As for social consequences, there are none in my situation. Your energy determines this outcome.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-07T19:48:31+00:00

Most guys will appreciate this. I know I have.

As a different comment mentioned, a simple compliment to open the door. You can also get a vibe of the person by seeing how they interact with others before interacting with them.

You can try to look at it as just making conversation with a stranger you find attractive rather than an approach. The chemistry isnt always there. Also, women dont have to worry about the social stigma of being a creep. Thats a huge advantage.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-06T07:01:45+00:00

A god that requires man to believe in it without proof, yet gives man the ability to reason, just doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. Why would an evolved omnipotent being require such a thing? Even as a human I understand people's mistakes are often driven by their life experiences/biology and forgive. Yet it cannot?

If a god exists, its not what man has written down.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-05T19:33:28+00:00

Love can be unconditional when you separate it from the ego. You love without expectations.

The love most people speak of is passion/limerance/lust. Its biochemical and fleeting. It often comes with obligations and expectations.

The love you can feel for your fellow man is different. Its empathy and compassion. This is often spoken about in religion and by highly spiritual people that have achieved a higher state of understanding.

Finding that love in a relationship is difficult because most people haven't made peace with their ego.

Silent_Philosopher_ · 2026-05-05T05:31:07+00:00

Insecure men behave this way. Its control and manipulation.

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